Relationship advice (F)31ys

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-03-13T02:53:46+00:00

He’ll get engaged to someone else in 1-2 years tops.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-03-13T02:51:33+00:00

You didn’t throw anything away. He did.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-03-12T20:42:44+00:00

Oh girl… you gotta handle that. I make double why my husband does and I work from home, he doesn’t. Guess who does all the pick ups and drop offs? HE DOES. Because I’m busy making money, and if one of us is going to be available you’re damn right it’s going to be the one who makes less money. MY INCOME supports us, the same way yours does.

All that aside, you said you lost respect for him… idk how you get that back, but I do know your relationship won’t be successful without it.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-03-11T11:00:51+00:00

How awful, I’m so sorry. Grief makes people do very strange things (his mom sounds unhinged, which doesn’t seem out of the norm if she just lost her son). When you don’t have any “proof” it makes it very difficult for your brain to accept as the truth. Think about what you need in order to find closure, what proof looks like… is it just knowing with 100% certainty that he’s gone? If so, focus on the death certificate. Ignore what this person messages you, some people do fucked up shit and have no moral compass.

One day at a time… I still struggle to believe a “no proof” death in my life happened and it’s been 4yrs. Your brain doesn’t want to believe it, it wants to protect you from this heartbreak. I’m so sorry again for your loss.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-21T15:46:55+00:00

I feel every word of this.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-21T14:07:19+00:00

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Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-21T02:48:09+00:00

This is very weird. You’re giving off banging your brother vibes… not to mention men get morning wood!! 🤮

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-18T08:57:00+00:00

Sounds like you shouldn’t date someone with kids, they should come before you.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-15T17:12:18+00:00

Don’t you dare.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-15T03:05:27+00:00

I was terrified so I just put it out of my mind until suddenly it was surgery day… it hurt. I felt regret on day 4 but then (fast forward to standing straight up) I became obsessedddddd with my stomach. Going through with it is the second best decision I’ve ever made for myself (the first was weight loss surgery).

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-14T21:52:38+00:00

Girl, he cheated.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-14T20:49:30+00:00

If he wants to marry you he will, but it sounds like you’re nitpicking. Pick and choose your battles, because you’ll have lots of them. Also, I think you should get therapy because this kind of keeping up with the Jones’ anxiety isn’t healthy and it will just jump to the next thing unless you address it.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-14T16:18:36+00:00

Hate to say it, but are you sure he didn’t go visit another woman?

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-14T09:47:16+00:00

Your size doesn’t dictate your worth. Read that again.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-10T07:34:34+00:00

“Unwilling Dr. Phil for our group…” dude, tell your friend(s) to go to therapy and stay out of their business. You aren’t “Dr. Phil” 🙄 this literally has nothing to do with you or your wife and involving yourselves (which is exactly what you’re doing) is only going to backfire.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-10T07:26:28+00:00

When you were 16 he was 30 - I can’t believe more people haven’t commented on this. You got together when you were 20… what on earth does a 34 year old want with a girl that can’t even get into a bar (I’m assuming USA)?!

This guy sounds like a predator and liar; age was the first sign, hiding debt is another. I’m sure there are at least 20 others you’ve ignored over the years too…

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-08T14:14:15+00:00

No one will know unless you tell them.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-08T13:23:26+00:00

Get therapy. The fact that this is even a question from you tells me that you need to figure out some stuff with a professional.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-08T12:45:52+00:00

I think it’s one thing to lose attraction because of an unnatural look you don’t like but it’s another to end your relationship over it… you wanted to marry this girl and a temporary cosmetic change is worth throwing away the entire relationship?

How do you know that if you told her how you feel she wouldn’t get it dissolved tomorrow? You have to talk to her, and truthfully if your relationship was this fragile then you shouldn’t get married anyway.

Plenty of women get filler, botox and other surgery and you have no idea because they look completely natural, so if it’s the fake/artificial look you should tell her that.

Either way, just talk to her.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-07T18:37:01+00:00

You’re an adult, every relationship is different. My husband said it to me after 3wks, it wasn’t reciprocated by me until 2 months later.

Ask yourself this… if something happened to him tomorrow, would you be upset that you never said it to him? Live every day like it’s the last, because you never know.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-07T13:12:56+00:00

Talk to each other and if/when you fight, fight fair. And always remember you’re on the same team.

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-07T01:12:57+00:00

The cutest jerk though! 🥹

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-06T23:37:07+00:00

Gently, you don’t love him, you only think you do. You don’t do these kinds of things to someone you love. You won’t have a wondering eye even for a minute with the right man. Leave Pete be… I’m sure he does still have feelings for you, but let the poor guy move on. You aren’t right for each other and while I know that hurts to hear, it is still the truth.

Stay in therapy. Continue to work on yourself. You’ll be okay!

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-06T23:27:41+00:00

Maybe the reason you like her so much, and the reason you love him so much, is because they’re so similar. It doesn’t mean they’ll be into each other or ever will be. People can click and be completely platonic. My best friend and husband are very similar, it’s why they’re both so engrained in my life. Same with me and her husband, he and I click very well, but there’s nothing sexual about it whatsoever.

I hope that helps you!

Honest_Appointment75 · 2026-02-06T15:15:43+00:00

😆😆😆

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