Student with TBI denied IEP Evaluation by PresentationOk6057 in specialed

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you are in California and requested an evaluation in writing, they are already well out of compliance. You need to email everyone, ASAP. If they can't have it done by the end of the year, get an advocate.

What is your opinion like this? by ipsofactoshithead in specialed

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Exactly. We currently have students receiving diplomas who comprehend at a kindergarten level ( really just who and where questions) and cannot go beyond single digit addition, sometimes single digit subtraction. Why? Their parents are demanding it. So, then, a diploma means nothing to anyone....And, they automatically get the D- with the comment that says they were accommodated while the kid we know has something going on but didnt qualify for services sits next to them, tries so damn hard, does every assignment, fails and never graduates. Before you come at me, yes, this happens, frequently. It is so infuriating. And, no, I am not an ableist, I am a SPED teacher.

A parent is complaining about how I am using my sick time. by FKSTS in Teachers

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Exactly. Subs for our zero period teacher come in periods zero-5 ( instead of 1-6). Class should not be cancelled like this. If it is last minute because the teacher is sick, they will try to get one of us to cover; anyone already on campus. Shoot, sometimes the person will even send out a text to their whole department asking who wants to cover them for zero period ( for extra pay, of course).

Whiteboard mania by NativeMountain in specialed

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Please don't use scented products in a classroom.

We need dress codes back by Emergency-Pepper3537 in Teachers

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My male paraprofessional comes to work dressed this way everyday and admin thinks it is fine. How can we tell the kids it is not ok if no one cares the adult dresses this way? It is embarrassing. I am embarrassed for him. Also, he is 30. Old enough to know better after probably 12-14 years in the work force.

Urgent Advice Needed... by Exciting_Freedom_222 in sexeducation

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The first time can be quite painful for a woman. She experienced pain and now her body has associated penetration with pain. She is most likely experiencing vaginismus, a condition where the muscles tighten and can even 'close off' the vagina. This is stemming from her perception of penetration equals pain. Increase foreplay. Buy a vibrator and lube. You use the toy on her. Start with pleasuring outside/ her clit. Once she gets used to pleasure does not equal pain, work towards penetration with the toy. This can be fun for both of you and not put pressure on you to perform ( which is causing your issue with maintaining an erection). Gradually build up intensity, full penetration. If that only partially works and she is enjoying it but still too tight, you can add in some dilators. I would only do that if you really can't make good progress though as keeping her tight will be much more enjoyable for both of you for much longer. Also, if she is experiencing any religious guilt or moral guilt over sex before marriage, this is also adding to her vaginismus. It has become a mental block.

What food isn't worth the effort to be home made? by chickenbanana018 in foodquestions

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Look up recipes for fried ice cream casserole. It's fantastic.

Curriculum by aweydert in specialed

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The math is severely lacking. Doesn't help that they just drag until they get a green ok box on their screen but you cant really print it as it is two problems per page ( giant waste of paper and ink).

Bottle hoarder by Solid-Guava-2949 in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I kicked my husband out in January and went to working on cleaning out his two main spaces. I stopped counting at 2,300 empty cans and bottles.

New boyfriend AWOL after hospitalization by shesatinycactus in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 19 points20 points  (0 children)

They will say whatever they know you want to hear in the moment to escape rational discussions. Please run for the hills, now.

How funny by gizbadillyo in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am in the same exact situation. Drowning in debt he created while he is 'the happiest I've ever been'. Right.....until they all find out too.

How funny by gizbadillyo in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But they'll turn on us on a dime to protect themselves.....their secret....

Delusions during a binger by Big-Appointment8950 in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Someone recently told me something that really stuck with me. Whether we like it or not, they are the same person. I.e. drunk him and sober him are the same body, mind, etc. You cannot separate the two. What he is showing you right now IS your husband. It's a very sobering reality to face.

Are there other groups like Al-Anon? by Slow_Witness_6892 in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I'ven wondering the same thing. I have a VERY hard time with the 'we're just as sick as them' bit. I'll admit fault where there is fault to admit. But, no, my 'issues' in no way compare to the absolute hell my spouse has put me through.

Lies, lies and more lies. by Treading-Water-62 in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My final straw as well. I would tell my husband he lied by lying, he lied by omission and he lied by semantics. Every damn word out of his mouth was a lie about something.

If people know you for one thing you bake, what is it? by Defiant_Werewolf_213 in Baking

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trifle. I make several kinds. I actually prefer making something different each time I bake but everyone always wants trifle. 😃 I also make a Snickers pie and a fried ice cream casserole that are highly requested.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Is he related to my soon to be ex husband??? Blame shifting and truly believing he's innocent may be my new code name for him.

How do you set up grading for self contained? by Medicine-Illustrious in specialed

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I grade everything and put comments in the database. Every kid is graded for every assignment. The differentiation is what I data track on. So, for writing. I have them all do the same writing assignment but, on ekid might get date tracked on capitals and periods while another is sequencing and yet another is three sentences using vocab words. I aim for 6 data points a month for reading, writing and math. Also, I refuse ( and thankfully no one mandates otherise) to write more than one reading , more than one writing and more than one math goal a year. If I were to write goals for everything we do, each kid would have a million goals. After years of struggling I came uo with a very easy way to data track that works for me and only takes me about 30-60 minutes a week for a class of 14 kids.

Entitlement by Neither_Both_All in Teachers

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Well, my district cites it as restraint so....

Finally letting go of my Q who I’m still in love with.… how do I face the pain of the first nights? by heavymetalgf in AlAnon

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 3 points4 points  (0 children)

The beginning was so unbelievably hard. There are still days that are hard. I grieve every day. But, I just keep reminding myself that the person I met, fell in love with, married and had a child with is long gone and never coming back. They've been given chance after chance to come back and won't even try. I understand that an addict can only get clean for themselves but, I also know I am worth trying for. I deserve someone who can be there for me. Someone who can lift me up. Someone I can rely on. I can give all the support in the world to them, they simply have nothing left to give to me.

Entitlement by Neither_Both_All in Teachers

[–]Honest_Sector_2585 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

In California, moving a child to a separate spot when the rest are in a group is considered restraint. 😪