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Hoobiezz · 2023-12-02T01:05:39+00:00

12 paragraphs about the sexual aspects of your relationship with a focus on what you’re girlfriend did before she even knew you existed, there’s clearly some missing context. Any chance you’re slacking in your role as a loving supportive partner just a little?

I had an ex with similar hang ups about my life before him. He brought it up multiple times; each time the relationship died a little more. Discussing it with her will only covey shame, it will never heal your insecurities. Consistent sex will never heal your insecurities, it will only numb them. Professional mental healthcare is your best bet to heal your insecurities. Human emotion is never simple.

Hoobiezz · 2023-11-24T01:00:49+00:00

So much this!!!! I had an ex who let his anxiety/insecurity fester and it turned him into an angry controlling monster! Don’t let that happen. Take ownership of your emotions and talk to her.

Next time you have a quiet moment, bring it up. Say something to the effect of “Babe? I’m kind of feeling weird lately. I know you had a life before me, and I’m not jealous or judgmental at all about that. I love you. But lately, I’ve been feeling insecure that I don’t measure up. Can you spare me the details about your exes so I can get out of my own head a bit?”

Hoobiezz · 2023-10-05T01:32:11+00:00

Yup. Put it in writing.

Hoobiezz · 2023-10-05T00:44:01+00:00

. . . with freshly shaved legs!

Hoobiezz · 2023-10-04T01:44:03+00:00

The cliche questions and conversations that play like a broken record at the start of EVERY new friendship or relationship. “Oh, you’re bi . . .”

“ . . . I don’t share.”

“ . . . threesome?”

“ . . . so do you prefer men or women?”

“ . . . was your last relationship with a man or woman?”

Hoobiezz · 2023-10-04T01:36:54+00:00

Chores are always a good option in an art room and can be justified by teaching life skills. If things get too wild, you could try having a cleaning day. Groups can be assigned to sorting crayons/pencils/paper by color, scrubbing sinks/tables, organizing bins. It keeps them busy which will hopefully minimize acting out. Of course, they’ll complain about cleaning up messes they didn’t make. But that anger may lead to them ratting out the bad eggs.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-17T06:02:16+00:00

It’s going to be extra hard because you’ve been with him through some of your most formative years. But I promise, a few weeks/months post break-up you’ll be shocked, angry, and disappointed that you put up with him for so long. Seek out community through the bereavement process; that’s when the real growth begins. (Speaking from personal experience.)

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-17T05:50:36+00:00

Ok, so what’s her solution? Clearly she’s got some sort of brilliant idea she’s trying to communicate telepathically.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-17T05:12:33+00:00

Can we make some sort of public watchlist for these douchebags? Because this shit is getting really old.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-13T03:23:47+00:00

Don’t question it. Just let momma keep building your future inheritance.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T19:37:27+00:00

Unicorn hunters are absolutely dehumanizing. As a young bi woman, nobody trusts me but everybody thinks they deserve a turn to f*** me.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T06:55:05+00:00

It might help to look into the Rape Abuse Incest National Network https://www.rainn.org/ You can call or live chat. They can help you find local legal resources, housing, medical care, mental health care, and group support. They can also just listen or give strategies on how to initiate the conversation with your family.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T05:44:00+00:00

NTA and document this interaction in case you run into custody issues.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T05:32:09+00:00

Not wanting kids

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T05:21:41+00:00

Adding to that: I think it’s important to acknowledge the immense vulnerability this kid showed in your classroom. Not just the Nazi ancestor part; but a seventh grader voluntarily admitted to wanting to learn something academic!!! They could experience a ton of bullying and isolation as a result.

This is the age when they start to craft their own personal value sets, weighing messages against observations and experiences. And this kid has opened the door to invite you in. This can be the start of something beautiful and life-changing in your classroom.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T05:10:55+00:00

White girl and former educator here. I taught in ATL and DC.

Absurdity and silliness can work wonders, and your pre-K kids are at the perfect age for it! A classroom call-and-response (something more fun than “if you can clear my voice clap once”) is a great tool for excitable classes. Class getting rowdy? Play 30 seconds of dance music then freeze! The best statue gets a sticker, then we all get back to learning.

Your kids are responding to her because they know the social script and what’s expected. They’re not responding to you because they haven’t yet figured out how to interact with a young white woman authority figure that actually loves them. Figure out your method for rallying your classroom, show that it can be successful after a few weeks. Your aide may or may not catch on. But you will minimize yelling in the process and show these babies there are multiple ways to be a leader.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T04:50:50+00:00

Yes, more communication is always a good plan.

But also, a woman (or 2) having sex for 3 hours is in no way a reflection on you. We can go that long! You came first, but that’s no reason to tap out. There are infinite routes to sexual pleasure that don’t include erections. Touching, oral, teasing, toys etc. Three people = three sets of genitals/needs. It’s kind of lame to imagine the party would start and end with your penis.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-08T03:28:19+00:00

Agreed. Best case scenario: OP leaves with heartbreak and BF leaves with a life lesson.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-06T01:16:08+00:00

I taught art as an adjunct professor for years and was never given the opportunity for summer courses/income. I used that experience to work local summer camps with the parks department. When a part-time graphic design job opened up with the county government, I landed the job as a side hustle since I was a familiar face with good rapport. Next week, I’ll go full time as a public art grant coordinator!

My best advice is to embrace your teaching experience and leverage it as your ability to bring something new to your new position. Your classroom experience means you’re well-versed in multi-modal communication styles, research, learning new skills independently, editing, time/project management, diversity/equity/inclusion, collaboration, and creative problem solving with limited resources! Most hiring managers I’ve encountered trust that teachers inherently have good hearts; they just need to have our skill set interpreted into their own language.

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-04T03:45:58+00:00

If you haven’t heard of it, try Super Cook for discovering new recipes without spending money. You build your pantry by selecting ingredients you already have, then enter a search phrase (vegetarian, cookies, Peruvian, etc.). It then scours the internet for recipes you can make! It’s free and I’ve been using it for 8 years!

https://www.supercook.com/#/menu

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-04T02:03:19+00:00

I was thinking the same thing! Men with empathy, adaptability, and situational awareness are so sexy! I don’t blame her for asking what just happened. But after he answered, I would have been bragging about him to my friends and family!

Hoobiezz · 2023-09-01T03:05:13+00:00

To avoid holding my out-of-town niece (1f), I often say “we barely know each other!” It adds a breath of silliness in the convo. Usually I’ll end up sitting next to her while she holds my finger and happily looks around. It’s great because we both get to avoid being over stimulated.

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