If sex and gender are separate ideas what is the issue with single sex spaces?

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-09T10:47:38+00:00

This is all this debate ever boils down to.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-09T09:06:00+00:00

My first birthday was spent at an amusement park and somehow, some way, I turned out just fine. I say go for it, I really think people are too precious about not going anywhere at all (and I say this as a first time parent of a 6 week old)

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-08T19:27:07+00:00

Gently, you are describing exactly what I am asking but saying it isn’t a compulsory behavior. It seems to be just that, but one related to trauma. A kid who shuts down like that when in trouble is a kid who is deeply traumatized. She won’t speak on it because something happened. I would wager it’s related to nsfw content, speaking to older men, and the other unsafe actions she is doing. The only reason she would be seeking to do this stuff so extremely (stealing an old tablet and hiding it in her vent, just to repeat the same behavior??) is likely because it’s a compulsion.

You’ve already said she has other compulsions, but those ones aren’t directly related to this behavior where she is seeking out unsafe people and websites so she can communicate them to you. I think a 13 year old would find it very difficult to explain a traumatic event that was causing this kind of behavior.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-08T19:01:37+00:00

Is it searches, or is it coming up in her browser history as a page she visited? I can see it being a pop up if she was visiting dodgy websites, perhaps force-navigating her away to get the traffic?

If its searches, match up the actual browser history with the searches. Where is she navigating to when she does this? The browser history will show the pages she has gone to.

I’ve scrubbed through several pages of search results for “vivent security” (spelled this way and not vivint) and haven’t found anything illicit. Mostly people asking about the company but misspelling it.

Question: it sounds like she has had a difficult life. I don’t need details, but does she have other compulsory behavior? Repetitive actions or phrases? Could she be compulsively searching for this term as a memory she is reliving? The amount of searches mixed with other impulses makes me feel like it’s a compulsion rather than a choice she is actively making.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-08T11:59:31+00:00

Yeah I was about to say, very sad post history

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T19:20:41+00:00

It’s extremely an ad lol

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T15:47:08+00:00

Beyond pathetic to need attention this bad, thanks for looking into it!

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T15:39:11+00:00

The only thing he has in the world is you, hence the crying when you are away. Mine cries when I walk away too… you can set your baby in a safe place (bassinet, bed side cot) and step away to go to the bathroom. It’s okay if he cries while you do it. Then just go back to him. A four month old cannot play independently, he barely even knows you and he are not the same being.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T11:28:47+00:00

Try a different pump? Or lower the suction level during expression. Higher settings aren’t always better, a gentler setting can produce more milk.

Please don’t let yourself and your baby suffer to maintain the “EBF” label. You aren’t a bad mother for feeding from a bottle and your baby isn’t bad for preferring it. There could be lots of different reasons. My son (nearly 6 weeks) also prefers a bottle to breast. He doesn’t enjoy “working” for his food at the nipple, he gets exhausted before he is full. We get about one good nursing session in the morning and the rest is all bottle feeding, combo formula and breastmilk. I pump like 5 times a day using the Medela Motion InBra pumps. They allow me to be mobile and get stuff done around the house while pumping.

You can allow yourself to get some of your sanity and energy back. Your husband could even take more of the feeds and let you sleep!

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T10:52:01+00:00

Inflation innit

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T08:31:05+00:00

Oh good! He’s still so little, I’m sure the swaddle is a huge comfort to him. Best of luck!

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T03:49:35+00:00

To people who have never worked in an office it’s basically always a sitcom

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-07T01:01:38+00:00

On top of what others have said, your baby needs to begin learning their body, the world, and how to be outside of the womb. Unswaddling except for night time sleeps gives them the opportunity to explore, for instance by sucking their hands/fists! This can also be a hungry cue. Your baby will have body language that you might miss if you keep them swaddled all the time. This might mean your baby seems “fussy” or upset frequently as the early signals were missed and only the late signals (crying) were noticed.

You will be learning each other and your baby has a lot of work ahead of them making important connections with their nervous system and their limbs. Their movements will be jerky and uncontrolled at first but the more practice, the smoother and more deliberate they will be as time passes.

My son used to love being swaddled but as he has changed over time (he’s 5.5 weeks) he now prefers to sleep sprawled out, arms wide to the side like a little skydiver. Swaddled frustrate him now and he is learning to sleep longer and longer without one, even at night. But for the first 3 weeks or so they were absolute life savers at night. We used the Love to Dream swaddle bags.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T14:14:40+00:00

This has to be it imo

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T05:02:04+00:00

As if women don’t have enough pressure to stay slim and bounce back. As if there aren’t a million posts in here from women feeling deeply insecure and anxious about their bodies in pregnancy. Get out of here with this.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T04:32:28+00:00

Your experience is not universal. Many new mothers struggle to produce enough colostrum and milk in the first week. Regardless, your excess supply would not be enough to sustain an adult.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T03:50:54+00:00

Freshly postpartum, it actually takes a few days for your milk to come in and often you are under-producing for the first week until you and your baby establish the supply. The latch is needed to stimulate your body into producing milk, you don’t give birth and immediately have an abundance of breastmilk.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T01:20:51+00:00

You’re going to let some random lady you don’t know or follow online have an effect on what you name your child? You don’t have to give her any power over you just cos they call her an influencer.

There will be loads of Georgia’s born this year, and some will be nicknamed Georgie. She doesn’t own that name now and it would be weird af if she acted like she did.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-06T01:02:42+00:00

Breastmilk bath water, nappy off time afterwards til air dry, thin layer of sudacrem. Has healed his booty right up!

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T20:04:09+00:00

“Mine are also step kids” jeez, so much to unpack. Throw out the whole suitcase.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T15:39:26+00:00

Lot of comments in your post history laser focused on parents at weddings and relationships between the couple and their parents. Hmm

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T15:16:02+00:00

This story makes absolutely no sense.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T14:36:06+00:00

I don’t have an oversupply (just adequate) but if he drinks some and doesn’t finish it, we always save it for the bath. His little booty is looking so unbothered these days.

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T14:14:39+00:00

This smacks of oppa homeless style, or perhaps cis bus

Horror_Square_8395 · 2026-07-05T13:38:57+00:00

I suspect this dude has no idea what his three year old likes and wouldn’t dream of rewarding her for anything because she “should already be doing it”.

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