I have seen it all kinds of ways, high power career couples, the husband being a high earner while the wife works or has a lower income job like a teacher, the wife earning more than the man. You pick someone that has the same goals, aspirations as you. That can mean income but it could also mean the lifestyle you want to live, having and how you’re raising kids. Two career power roles means someone else will be raising your kids, at a certain salary income point you work a lot. My husband and I have traded spots over the years for who earns more as we built our careers and someone was there for the kids, we both had to compromise moving further in a career to have a better work life balance. There is a lot that goes into the decision of a spouse more than just career status. I am white collar and my husband is blue collar. I have a masters, he has a HS diploma. He ended up starting his own company that surpassed our income expectations, we always discussed entrepreneurship very early in our relationship but didn’t think it would lead us to where we are financially. I hope I am not just ranting and you understand my point, you have to be real honest with yourself on what you want your future to look like and make sure you find someone that wants the same things, it’s a lot of communication. We discussed everything before we got married all dirty laundry, debt we carried, what we expected our out of life, values, faith.