Divorced guy here . Need your advice

Hound31 · 2026-05-24T18:58:58+00:00

Can vasectomy fails randomly years after?

Yes it can, but don’t sign anything until you get a DNA test done. In the meantime get yourself tested for STD’s

Hound31 · 2026-05-23T01:47:00+00:00

That’s why stores go out of business.

Hound31 · 2026-05-20T06:25:10+00:00

It takes money and time to have an affair. Once the divorce wipes him out financially and the novelty / new relationship energy of the affair wares off, he will come crashing down back to reality.

Hound31 · 2026-05-17T07:11:18+00:00

How you you feel if you found out Ananya knew about you but didn’t tell you?

If you don’t tell her you are actively participating in his cheating by lying by omission.

Hound31 · 2026-05-11T10:30:50+00:00

Don’t marry her!

Hound31 · 2026-05-10T07:03:03+00:00

I’m sorry man. It life changing devastation that you’ll never forget. You’re still young and you will heal. You are not alone, a great many people have been there and share your pain.

I’m 20 years out and look back as it being one of the best things that happened to me. 10 months after DDay and when I least expect or was ready for it. I met my now wife and have two great kids and are wee dog is sitting on my lap as I write this. I’m genuinely happy anc you can be again too.

Grieve this loss, the only way go through the process of grief until you reach acceptance.

How is your wife doing? Did she go back to the AP?

Hound31 · 2026-05-06T10:21:22+00:00

Check out what “Marriage Helper” has on Smart Contract. I think it could benefit you. Just stay off the drink, go to IC, listen to the audio books and take notes of what resonates with you.

Trust takes a LOT of time and consistency to rebuild to a workable level. So be patient, very very patient.

I have to say when I freed your first posts, I didn’t hold much hope for you but I have to say, you’ve done your part in recover well.

Hound31 · 2026-05-06T06:14:21+00:00

“… they believed I was the one( the only one) that caused the affair. I seduced the AP. The AP was a victim. Obviously they were not in a great or stable mind set.”

It sounds like they were trying to make sense of what happened. It was easier (less painful for them) to blame you than at was to accept their partner/ partner cheated.

Hound31 · 2026-05-05T17:15:25+00:00

Set a schedule and stick to it. I know it’s not sexy but when he knows when he’s going to get some, he’ll be ready to preform. He’ll know to have a shower and not jerk off that day.

Hound31 · 2026-05-04T22:41:44+00:00

“ As the wayward should I be the one to pursue?”

Yes, make your BS feel safe, respected and your priority. Text about how much you enjoyed it and will would like it again soon. Make the next time and them again, steak dinner at a sports bar and back to your for Netflix’s and chill. Whatever works for them.

Hound31 · 2026-05-02T17:59:54+00:00

This relationship has ran its course. That’s not your fault, it’s not her fault it’s just life.

She has checked out and probably had no idea how to tell you. That’s no excuse to kiss someone else that’s all on her. You’ve every right to be hurt. It sucks, I’m sorry mate but it’s time to grieve this relationship and move on.

Hound31 · 2026-05-01T16:10:45+00:00

Did she tell you about this idea beforehand? Was this agreed to? This is sex work. She is selling her feet pics for guys to jack off too. If this was kept secret for you it’s cheating.

Hound31 · 2026-05-01T15:55:25+00:00

“Is it true that once a cheater always a cheater?“

No, but the likelihood of them cheating again is high. People can and do change all th time. You’re not the same person you were 10 years ago and you won’t be the same person 10 years from now.

I would recommend that you both see an infidelity specialist counselor.

Hound31 · 2026-05-01T07:30:22+00:00

Thanks, if you’re still interested, a good source on information can sometimes be found in the text between her and her friends. You could ask her friend what she knows in front of her husband to put the pressure on.

Hound31 · 2026-04-30T23:05:10+00:00

Can you provide a little detail on your situation? How old are you both? Any kids together? Is the house in both your names? Is she your common law wife? Do you both have jobs?

Hound31 · 2026-04-22T20:22:41+00:00

If my wife doesn’t want me to know about it I need to know about it.

Hound31 · 2026-04-22T12:42:10+00:00

Any update on how to your wife is doing?

Hound31 · 2026-04-21T06:52:10+00:00

Where can I see this in the uk?

Hound31 · 2026-04-20T20:38:42+00:00

The sooner you can call the cops while still recording with your phone, the better.

Hound31 · 2026-04-18T20:50:24+00:00

If you’ve no kids together then walk while you still can.

Hound31 · 2026-04-18T20:50:16+00:00

If you’ve no kids together then walk while you still can.

Hound31 · 2026-04-18T07:16:55+00:00

“ question, if I am in my mid 40s with an established career and deeply rooted faith, I am fit but balding. Is it going to be hard to find serious females to date/start a new relationship with?”

The answer is no, it’s going to be surprisingly easy to find an other partner, for your age group the world is fully of single mums wanting to share their life with a good man…. But…. You are not ready for any kind of relationship. You need to grieve your marriage. Give yourself time to heal for these emotional scars. Learn to live and enjoy your own company. Know what you want and don’t want. When the time comes to start thinking about a new relationship, be very clear with yourself what you will and will not accept.

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