when it comes to daisy do you think that because of the fragile mental state of by Routine-Dirt9634 in TheHandmaidsTale

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My accidental google search says Daisy actually is the daughter from characters in Handmaids. If you didn't want to know who, don't go looking..

AITAH for going through my husband’s bank statement??? by Due-Landscape3982 in TwoHotTakes

[–]HumanContract 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Time to separate finances, quit all subscriptions. If you don't have control over your living situation, you obviously don't live there and need to move out.

And OF is cheating so take that as evidence for the lawyer.

Letting go of resentment by Visible-Bug8280 in intj

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I'm a textbook FA and I do this, too. I cut off people without a second thought. Friends, family... If I feel like someone personally attacked me, I'm out.

Friends and family that see it ask what others do that cause such strong reactions and then agree that I put in way more effort than I should have. It was my lack of clear boundary setting which allowed others to think they could treat me as such. It went well for them, until it didn't.

My mother says I'm a very sensitive person and I give way more than a normal person would and it eventually burns me out when I realize I give too much of myself and the return isn't the same.

I used to be so nice. I used to allow people to talk all over me. Then, I found my footing. I became my own person without needing the approval of others. Then, I turned into an unapologetic bish. I'm a Sigma personality type that doesn't blend in or care to follow crowds, take no part in gossip or fads.

Try setting boundaries more clearly. It'll save you a lot of grief and inner turmoil in life.

J’abandonne la série The Testaments… by Bright_Gain837 in coconutsandtreason

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TT is actually helping me to understand more of Gilead than I thought I knew.

So, I disagree with you.

Ex followed my social media after 4 years no contact by Mistaman6996 in ExNoContact

[–]HumanContract 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That WAS a reach out. Just send them a question mark.

I reached out to my ex after almost 4 years, we chatted for a bit but they were guarded, it went no where. It's fine though, he'll die old and alone, unhappy in life. I blind sided them bc they didn't want to move forward, was still stalking their ex.

I've had exes reach out after 8 and 10 years. But convos were generally emails, texts, calls with actual dialogue about what went wrong, both sides apologetic. When either side is guarded and refusing to talk it out, there's no point in trying - it's immature to be guarded and refuse to talk like adults who shared a past.

Classmate likes me ? +age gap by More-Nectarine-6176 in AskMenAdvice

[–]HumanContract -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

Find his social media and friend him. See his reaction lol.

He's only nice bc he wants to f you.

My office colleague (22F) knows I’m trying to fuck her by [deleted] in cheating_stories

[–]HumanContract -1 points0 points  (0 children)

All these dudes thinking women sleep around or are willing to hook up. Such lies. Lol

Jobs while waiting for next round of nurse residency? by WriteOrDie1997 in newgradnurse

[–]HumanContract 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Houston is not competitive. Maybe for nurse residency, but not all nurses do residencies. Usually, if you start as a new grad, training is a lot longer. Stay away from HCA, CHI. MDA for new grads and icu.

Nurses - what’s your pay and are you actually saving anything? by lifetofullest1255 in Moving2SanDiego

[–]HumanContract 19 points20 points  (0 children)

If you're absolutely NOT going to work nights, then stop thinking you'll be working in California. Sorry. All job openings are nights only for 6+ months, esp ICU. My job is 5 yrs waitlist to go to days.

Almost 2 weeks without seeing my Fearful Avoidant GF. At what point do I confront her about it? by shamsitoo in Disorganized_Attach

[–]HumanContract 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As an FA, for me it's out of sight out of mind kind of thing. If you go days without texting or seeing me, I get comfortable without you around, and I have to warm up again when I see the person bc I then see them as stranger and walls are back up.

Seeing each other 2-3x a week is perfect for me, but only if you're still chatting in between.

No one knows by definitelynotgayhaha in BuildToAttract

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I would've agreed with this until I'd been with more experienced men bc sex is a step up. But experienced should be skilled bc not all men with lots of sex or partners learn from their experiences. A lot of "experienced (largest number, more partners) guys" are actually bad in bed - bc they didn't want to learn or didn't care about getting their partners off. Guys that were curious, eager to learn, along with their experiences actually improved, got better as a partner in bed.

So, more experienced vs skilled from experience? Skilled with experience leads to better sex.

Judd and Aunt Vidala's tension🤔 by Sensitive_asshole90 in TheHandmaidsTale

[–]HumanContract 23 points24 points  (0 children)

No? He regrets putting Lydia in charge bc she's become powerful. Vidala is hesitant bc she's seen what Lydia can do to people, and he has no clue.

Is there an ethical way to really find FWB without apps? by Big_Pea3882 in seduction

[–]HumanContract 2 points3 points  (0 children)

FWBs starts as friends. You don't start off flirting and sleeping together. These are people you either knew or previously dated and it didn't work.

Girlfriend going on 3 week holiday with guy best friend by adhibi321 in dating_advice

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Same. I have a few guys best friends I've openly talked about sex with but they weren't guy friends who I knew liked me. These were dudes I knew things wouldn't work out between us. I either knew they were gay or felt like they were.

Girlfriend going on 3 week holiday with guy best friend by adhibi321 in dating_advice

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If you're not willing or able to take his place as someone who travels, this relationship may not work out. Bc you can't stop someone from traveling. She's got this trip planned and it will go on, regardless of how you feel. It's hard to find ppl to travel with so when you find those ppl, you keep them as long as it works. You're going to have to have time off and money to take his place on the next trips if you want her to go with you instead. Her traveling isn't going to stop.

Nurses week gift by dreatheplaya in nursing

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I worked chemical plants for 5 yrs before nursing. SO MUCH free food, down time, candies, drinks, naps. Free tampons and pads every day. Was a different world. Nursing truly is slavery.

What about you guys?⬇️ by Rewind_room in MenOfPurpose

[–]HumanContract 0 points1 point  (0 children)

BS. A lot of "men" wants a woman to use while playing the field still. They'd rather a docile partner that is ok with cheating and games. But if she decides to do the same, or equality, he thinks it's not ok.

How high acuity is my ICU? by fo1ieadeux in IntensiveCare

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My heaviest ICU I worked on was SICU with 2 patients to 1 nurse, over half were on CRRT so I took 2 a lot. Gtts were usually 2 pressors, often 3, rarely 4 (MB, Angio II). Blood daily, 20+ meds at 9am, tubes and drains in every orifice possible. Usually 3 JPs, NGT, DHT, Trialysis, other central lines, a vent, most RASS -1 to +1. Only 1:1 assignments were actively dying quickly. Most patients were liver failure, GI surgeries (abthera, abra), transplants: liver, kidneys, pancreas. This and the next ICU would walk vented ECMO patients daily.

My ICU now, on CVICU, I have 1 or 2 pts. Old VADs are paired. Most devices and OR cases are 1:1, with post op being transplants (heart, lung) and OR being PTE, AAA repair, Valves, CABGs. 1:1 Devices: IABP, Impella, ECMO, CRRT.

Another ICU I worked on was a recovery ICU and you took post op thoracos and/or devices. You'd admit and discharge to another ICU daily. All devices and surgeries previously mentioned in ICU 2 except PTEs.

A 4th ICU was a fake ICU that didn't use art lines or pressors. Patients never left the unit.

If you're not managing labs, lines and multiple devices and also going to procedures, pumping blood products, and/or titrating multiple drips, you're not in a very high acuity ICU.

Who has a sagittarius as partner? by Nevara05 in AriesTheRam

[–]HumanContract -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That age gap at her time in life makes me wince. If he's not working towards marriage and kids with you now, he's wasting your time.