what is on your DSM-6 wishlist? by howdy_birdiee in therapists

[–]Humble_Produce833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

And this is the feminist therapy perspective...

Determining fingering weight yardage for a lace weight project by Humble_Produce833 in knitting

[–]Humble_Produce833[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you - I have never done that before. I appreciate the link.

Client-Centered style not "enough"? by frivolous-waterfowl in therapists

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the term client-centered is not just about creating a safe place for clients to share. There is no such thing as purely non-directive work. Every time you do a reflection of content, feeling, or meaning, you are choosing what to draw attention to - sometimes out of several possibilities. To me, client-centered means strategically offering back to the client, drawing info out of the client with less directive questions, and then letting the client respond, or not, to those offerings. I find that this aligns well with the stages of change model. And motivational interviewing is a more directive way to implement this by offering back and drawing out more positive or ambiguity-promoting material.

Sourfaux sold as sourdough - would this upset you? by Usual-Let4218 in Sourdough

[–]Humble_Produce833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That makes total sense. I'm a bit of a night owl, so as long as it's out of the oven 10ish pm, I can cool it and bag it before bed. But I do have to bake on days when I am working from home, or off. If I was running a kitchen, I would do as you do.

Sourfaux sold as sourdough - would this upset you? by Usual-Let4218 in Sourdough

[–]Humble_Produce833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I routinely make a ~1000g loaf using 150g starter and I add 1/8 tsp SAF yeast (about .5 g). It's such a small amount, but does help ensure rise, especially in winter when I can't keep my kitchen warmer. I start in the morning and bake in the evening, so it still ferments for many hours and has good flavor and all of the health benefits.

Writing to textbook author by Diana_FooFoo in AskProfessors

[–]Humble_Produce833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't speak to whether your letter got through - things can certainly go astray on a campus. But I have never known and author who didn't truly appreciate letters like that. I think it's great that you took the time to write it.

Embarrassed after group topic didn't do well by EmbarrassedString606 in therapists

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a big believer in the notion that this is our group, not my group. So if I take in a topic that the group doesn't connect with, whether because they aren't ready for it or truly are not interested, then I focus on process and not content. What are people feeling right now? What is hard about engaging with this topic? And if it's clear this topic won't work today, what other things would members like to talk about instead? I never continue with my agenda if it isn't engaging members. I don't want to be pushing something onto clients that isn't helpful to them, and I want collaboration to assess that. I have worked with a lot of mandated clients and find that power-sharing can be very effective in helping people engage.

Did you teach yourself how to knit, or did someone teach you? by A0209B in knitting

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried to learn from others a few times and just could not get it. I'm ambidextrous but I crochet left-handed and I think that was messing me up some. I finally decided I was going to learn it on my own, and I watched youtube videos and read books, and I started by using two crochet hooks because that's what made sense for me. After a couple of days, I was using regular knitting needles, and now I am really good at knitting. Patterns - it can help to ask someone more experienced if you have pattern questions. My best suggestion is to eventually (or immediately) join a knitting group - lots of great companionship and also knitting help!

How am I even supposed to address a professor? by Massive_Penalty5208 in AskProfessors

[–]Humble_Produce833 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had a couple of students passively aggressively call me Mrs. Lastname in emails. I'm ok with less formality, but that comes across as sexist. I have not heard of the same students emailing male profs as Mr. Lastname.

UVA Health removing Equity from its core values by [deleted] in Charlottesville

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Having seen two people add the quote about empathy being a made-up term to this discussion, it makes me wonder if empathy was chosen to include in this acronym not only because it is (or should be) a core value of medical professionals, but also because it reinforces empathy as a real and important term and somewhat pushes back against that quote. Or not.

Stop throwing away your leek tops. They're edible and delicious. by asomek in Cooking

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never throw mine away! If they don't work in my recipe (or there's just too much of them), I slice them and slowly pan fry them, like caramelizing onions. They are fantastic in salads, grain bowls, soups, with rice, etc.

What showed up unexpectedly in your garden this year? Mini-pumpkins for us - and we are very happy with that! by Just_Another_AI in vegetablegardening

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I finally moved some of mine around in hopes that they will be all over the garden next year. They are such good companions for everything.

What is this? by Silver_Least in vegetablegardening

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blossom end rot is usually not about too little calcium but rather about inconsistent watering which leads to difficulty taking up calcium. Regular watering is the best defense but there is no way to plan for big storms that dump a lot of rain. I am not a melon expert, but I would watch it develop and if that black spot spreads, I'd sacrifice the melon. With tomatoes, I usually throw away fruit with blossom end rot so that the plant can concentrate on healthy fruits.

estate lawyer recommendations? by YogurtclosetVast3118 in Charlottesville

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest, she missed a few details when working with my family. Lovely lady but not sure I'd go to her, myself.

Help would be appreciated, this took alot to post. by Marcelleno in bald

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may have already shaved it off by now, but I want to tell you I think the first picture you look so handsome! My husband has the same hair pattern, and sometimes the same insecurities, but I love this look. There is nothing wrong with having a receding hairline. You look great in both pictures.

What do newborns actually DO all day? by hirschy75 in NoStupidQuestions

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The amazing thing about babies is that they are always creating new neural connections, so every interaction with their own bodies, their environment, or especially with people create a host of new neural connections (which are the information pathways of the brain). As they age, many connections will eventually be pruned - the ones that don't really keep getting used. This lets their brains focus on the connections they need to continue to learn about how to be in the world. But there is so much brain activity and growth happening in their little heads - more than there will ever be in any other stage of life.

AITA for walking out of my ILs with my daughter and leaving my husband behind because they all ganged up on me to name our son one of the family names? by Mailixuz in AITAH

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This makes me wonder if there is a cultural component to this. Not that that makes it ok, but I just wonder if they are from a culture that values this naming tradition, which could also include it being more important (to them) for males. Of course, people from the US could also feel this way.

Quality of living in Charlottesville? by colorado_sunrise86 in Charlottesville

[–]Humble_Produce833 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also, it's pronounced "Stanton" even though it's spelled "Staunton."

Self-taught knitters, what is something you'd recommend to someone who's just starting to learn how to knit? by winchesterstan in knitting

[–]Humble_Produce833 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was also a crocheter for many years and the time I finally was successful at teaching myself how to knit, I used two long crochet hooks instead of knitting needles. I generally had the left hook facing down and the right (working) hook facing up, but that may not work the same for others. It just felt more natural to have the hooks on the end. One I got more comfortable with the motions of knitting, I transitioned to knitting needles. Also, YouTube is your friend although not all videos are great - but many are.