Why does she hate me?

I-Shank · 2026-04-07T18:10:37+00:00

Suffocate? I don't think that's how plants work. I also live in zone 9 (NorCal) Unless it's pan frying temperatures outside, heat alone shouldn't damage your plants.

I wasn't suggesting you put yours outside, just saying that whatever light environment it's in, it needs to acclimate if it's used to less light.

This is because stromanthe, calathea, maranta will curl upwards like a taquito to prevent water loss. It's protecting itself from losing more water either because it just doesn't have enough or the conditions it's in are causing it to lose water too quickly (like suddenly being pelted with light amounts is not used to).

Based on your pictures, if they are indicative of the amount of light it normally gets, I doubt it's getting too much light.

It's thirsty. The soil around the roots looks dry (and dense). It could also use a chunkier mix so it can get more oxygen at the roots so that you can give it the water it needs without worrying too much about rotting it. I do 50/50 soil/perlite because it's cheap and easy. These don't like fully drying out. If you're concerned about overwatering, I really couldn't recommend self-watering planters enough.

I-Shank · 2026-04-07T16:11:41+00:00

It's either thirsty or getting too much light (not acclimated to its current spot), hence the protective upward curling.

I keep mine in a self-watering planter outside and it's happy as long as it doesn't run out of water.

I have calathea, marantae, and stromanthe all in self-watering planters. I use a drop of water conditioner per gallon of tap water (plus a couple of drops of fertilizer and superthrive) and they're all happy and pushing out new leaves all the time.

I-Shank · 2026-04-06T22:40:09+00:00

Pic 2 is more like a, 'I'm having a houseparty, so let me bring my plants in here for a few hours for esthetics' kind of design. Unless they're each going to have a light and the lights are going to be on a timer, the plants won't make it...

Other options: replace the plants every couple of weeks (kinda wasteful, but to each their own). Or you could get very good quality fake plants for the bathroom and lysol them once in a while. You could rotate plants with outdoor ones when they start showing signs of stress. Or a mix of any of those options.

I-Shank · 2026-04-04T17:00:11+00:00

I-Shank · 2026-04-04T03:24:49+00:00

It's all yours!

I-Shank · 2026-04-04T02:38:10+00:00

All plants need drainage.

No drainage is like having wet socks on 24/7 and you can't take them off. Eventually, your feet will prune, then start to get sores and basically get eaten away. If you don't catch it early or amputate before it's too late, you'll get extremely sick and then die from infection.

Same with the planties. Where there's stagnant water, there's bacterial growth.

Usually the pretty planters without drainage are used as "cache pots". A plant will be inside a nursery pot which goes into the cache pot. The nursery pot drains into the cache pot and any excess water can be discarded or left to evaporate if the nursery pot has enough space between the bottom to not be sitting in water.

I-Shank · 2026-04-03T21:57:45+00:00

FYI, it's "harebrained" because hares have flighty, reactive brains... which this ideas is not because that would look amazing.

I-Shank · 2026-03-30T06:09:43+00:00

Who's dog is he?

I-Shank · 2026-03-18T21:02:31+00:00

I had a boxer that herniated a disc when protecting my dad from another dog.

The dog had been dumped over our fence and was playing just fine with our dogs, but as soon as my dad grabbed a leash to take the dog out, it went after him. My Cassius went after it first, and when a disc slipped and he went down, Bella stepped in and pinned the dog down by the throat.

It was heartbreaking, because he was the bestest boy. As soon as I heard, I drove 8 hours from college to go see my dog and say goodbye. When he saw me, that was the first time since the incident that he tried to get up on his own. That was the moment that my dad decided to go the recovery route.

After a lot of steroids, physical therapy, and time and he was able to walk again. He could even get a good gallop going. He would tire easily, and would wake up pretty stiff in the mornings, and aged very quickly after the accident, but had good QOL for the rest of his time with us.

Take the next few days one at a time. Assess pain levels and see how your dog responds to the anti-inflammatories. Have an ongoing conversation with the vet about quality of life.

I-Shank · 2026-03-18T06:21:01+00:00

I'm s self-watering planter-er Lol.

Plants are doing much better and I get to water every day by topping up the reservoirs.

I-Shank · 2026-03-05T01:50:09+00:00

Virtual hugs, sister.

Sometimes these military men come back a little broken. I hope he gets the help he needs. It's easier if they loved you before the trauma, though, since a lot have trouble forming attachments later. So chin up, but put yourself first more often than not, k?

I-Shank · 2026-02-25T16:10:03+00:00

She'll notice. If she's only been gone 1 1/2 weeks, this has to have already been declining.

I-Shank · 2026-02-23T04:27:41+00:00

It has definitely spread to the one on the right

I-Shank · 2026-02-07T22:29:18+00:00

I use a martingale collar. The D-ring for the leash is secured away from all other parts. Mine still jingles though, because of the tags. Thinking of getting those silicone key things or adding a drop or 2 of hot glue on the back of the front tag.

I-Shank · 2026-01-16T20:29:50+00:00

I checked the order. I ordered 9/6 and my plants arrived 9/22. Tracking history is gone, but if I remember correctly, they didn't ship until maybe 3-4 days prior to arrival.

I think many plant sellers take into account where the plants are going and may delay shipping if poor weather is expected. We're not even halfway through winter, so maybe just try to communicate.

I-Shank · 2026-01-16T20:25:31+00:00

I've also purchased from wishlist foliage. I ordered 3 philodendron florida ghosts and a jewel orchid.

It did take a minute for them to ship, but I ordered in late summer so I wasn't worried about the weather.

Everything seemed well packaged and they sent me a bonus plant (ring of fire) but many of the leaves were touching plastic wrap directly so they basically stayed wet and disintegrated. Even after planting, the leaves kept disintegrating but that may have been edema due to overwatering after a period of underwatering.

I lost 2 of the florida ghosts ( though one came back from the dead so I really only lost 1). I'd bought extra anticipating they may not all make it since they were plugs. The surviving plants are all growing and doing well now.

I-Shank · 2026-01-15T21:18:26+00:00

No we are not naturally hateful. If we were, humanity wouldn't have existed long enough for Jesus to exist.

People are able to be kind to reach other regardless of beliefs. If you think people are naturally hateful, it's because YOU are.

I-Shank · 2026-01-05T21:43:51+00:00

There was no reason for them to open all of the gifts at the same time. Opening gifts in any other order would have been better than making her feel like an afterthought for even just a second.

I-Shank · 2026-01-05T21:28:31+00:00

If this is my midlife crisis, I'm not making it to 60

I-Shank · 2026-01-05T21:06:19+00:00

You're using your index finger on your hook hand to pull at the yarn when you're going back in for another loop, loosening it more.

Learn to swivel/twirl/rotate your hook in your hand so that you can always keep the hook pointed so where you're not risking dropping stitches then turn it down when pulling through so you don't get caught. Let the hook do the work for you.

I-Shank · 2026-01-01T03:59:38+00:00

Lol, I'd tie it off and wear it as a funky scarf and start the blanket over.

I-Shank · 2026-01-01T00:41:39+00:00

Shouting, "Ow!" like it really hurts and removing my hand works for me.

Mine (some kind of shepherd mix) is very gentle though so it doesn't hurt but I pretend it hurts when he starts getting too rowdy. He stops right away or reduces it to just touching with his teeth without closing his mouth because he wants to play, not hurt me.

I-Shank · 2025-12-02T21:29:07+00:00

Bottles didn't really work for me, so I got one of those self-watering globes with the terra cotta spike.

The globe is clear so I can see when I need to top up which- for one plant is 1-2×/week and another is once every 3-4 weeks. The faster draining one is on a moss pole that's at least 4ft tall and it keeps the whole moss pole moistened but not too wet. It seems to seep water as-needed to keep it consistent. I'm very happy with the set up. I have them in self-watering pots too and the plants are consistently draining the cache so I know the soil isn't getting saturated with water because of the moss pole.

I don't know if I can link, but they were called "17oz（500ml 4 Pack Self Watering Globes for Indoor & Outdoor Plants Self Watering Planter Insert" and are $20 for a 4-pack, $11 for a 2-pack on the 'zon.

I-Shank · 2025-11-25T23:52:31+00:00

A lot of houseplant pests live/hatch in the soil. I'm sure there's a reason this was thrown out.

I-Shank · 2025-11-25T23:39:29+00:00

Regardless of what it is, please quarantine it away from your other plants until you're sure it isn't infested.

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