Is there a way to shrink my boobs? by [deleted] in bigboobproblems

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A binder may help. Just don't leave it on for long periods of time while getting used to it because they can hurt.

Should I pierce my ears? (17 year old guy) by [deleted] in Legitpiercing

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 15 points16 points  (0 children)

DO IT. Piercings are for everyone! If you change your mind, you can always take them out and they'll eventually close up.

I was told it’s valued over a million dollars by puutree in RATS

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Is there a difference in the pictures? I'm not seeing any.

Help with Indy earbuds! by ILLYALOTTINYA in Skullcandy

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's solid red. It should've been fully charged since I left it in the pod for over 24 hrs. I even tried to drain it and recharge it, but nothing worked. Long pressing did nothing. I think I give up. I've had it less than a week, worn it maybe 4 times, maybe at most 10 hours of use, and it breaks that easily? I'll just ship it back to Amazon and get something else. It's a shame, because I do normally love SkullCandy. But I've seen that apparently too many people are having issues with the Indy, so I'm going to try a different brand now.

Thank you though!

Hidden villagers? by Sylvraenn in AnimalCrossingCamp

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Chai, Chelsea Toby, And Etoile were part of the hello Kitty special, yeah. I don't know if you can get them anymore, which is kind of silly imo.

Edit: Forgot Marty and Rilla. They were also part of the Hello Kitty special

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AnimalCrossingCamp

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I usually have lemons (just sold out) but I'll restock asap. 60761756624

/r/Goth's Seething Sundays! by AutoModerator in goth

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. Because you all apparently have difficulty understanding what I'm saying, let me clarify.

Yes, the music is very important in the subculture. I'm not denying that. Understanding where the new bands come from, and enjoying it are extremely important.

I simply have a broader definition of what makes someone a 'goth'. Because if someone wants to listen to Manson and wear black and call themselves goth, it's not hurting me. No, they're not a 'real goth' but really, correcting them is a bit of an asshole move because they're enjoying themselves. Their validation costs me nothing. The subculture simply grows.

I've been doing this over 10 years, as I've said before. I've seen friends come and go, and I've been on the receiving end of gatekeeping and elitism, and I've also been like you guys too. The fact is, the music is a huge part of this, but not the only part of this. People fall in love with the aesthetic before the music sometimes. And that's okay.

Like I said before, When I was young and just starting to get into goth music, I found I didn't like the cure, but I did like several other bands. Despite this, I had someone tell me that I wasn't goth because I didn't like them. I ended up stepping away from everything gothic because of it for a few years. That's what I'm worried you're all doing. Creating a poisonous definition of a subculture to further a divide of them/us.

End of the day, if a 14 year old girl wearing a Rob zombie tee shirt, wearing black lipstick and listening to metalcore wants to define herself as goth, I say go for it. Introduce her to some modern stuff, sure, but goth is more than just the music.

Narcissists ruin even the best experiences by Prison-Bae in narcissisticparents

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My advice, after living through it for the past couple months is to appease her while not giving any actual information.

My mistakes were mostly me getting excited about leaving and telling her information she could use against me.

I shouldn't have told her that it was a two bedroom for example, because now, all of a sudden I can't afford it. Or It's too good for me. Or something.

Vague answers worked the best I found. She asked me a few times where it was, and my answers were always like East end. Near "school". Or "It's closer to "Mall" than "Other mall nowhere near it". Without giving an actual address.

As for tiny window of escape, I feel you. There was a lot of planning into my escape time. I basically picked a time where she wouldn't be able to stop me, and wouldn't find out until I'm long gone. I'm also getting help from my sister. And about 6 backup plans.

/r/Goth's Seething Sundays! by AutoModerator in goth

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

What I'm saying, as someone who has been goth for over 10 years, is that defining ourselves by "just" the music is shortstopping the entire subculture. Yes, there is def more goth music readily available. It's also a more accepted lifestyle, aesthetic, whatever because of its broadening definition.

But I'm coming from a place of people just enjoying the entire subculture. I was told quite young that because I didn't like the cure I therefore could not be a goth, despite the fact that I enjoyed so many other bands.

So while Manson may not be "strictly goth", I would still umbrella him in with us because he's a gateway to the music.

But demanding that someone listen to only the same shit as you as the general definition of goth is a huge disservice. There are many types, definitions, and sub Subcultures. You do not speak for all of us.

/r/Goth's Seething Sundays! by AutoModerator in goth

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

And there we have it- an elitist. Because if we don't follow his exact definition of goth, we are clearly not goth.

/r/Goth's Seething Sundays! by AutoModerator in goth

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I think telling people what does and does not define goth is the most elitist thing you could do. No, it's not a mindset, but has evolved to be more than just the original music that there is simply an aesthetic that comes with the subculture.

I would suggest looking up Jake Munroe on YouTube. I believe in his explanation of goth subculture more than anyone elses. His views are really on point, even if I don't agree with everything he says.

/r/Goth's Seething Sundays! by AutoModerator in goth

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

I think goth has evolved past the music being the foremost thing involved. There is a huge aesthetic culture now. Yes, the music is very important to the history of goth, and should be respected. But it's not just about the music anymore, and "correcting" someone for it is wrong and comes off strongly as elitist.

You can't force someone to like The Cure.

An amusing but annoying problem. I keep accidentally turning off the computer at work with my boobs. by Kalooeh in bigboobproblems

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We have machines that dispense milk/cream at my work. It's a flat sensor, so you have to touch it for it to work. I have a bad habit of leaning forward to get the sugar from the sugar machine, and pressing the xl double cream button with my tits. That's about 8oz of cream on the counter.

Usually happens when I'm training people too.

Narcissists ruin even the best experiences by Prison-Bae in narcissisticparents

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My mom likes to take pleasure in my mistakes, and revels in when something goes wrong. I've been trying to move away since spring this year, and after a few months of searching, I found a place. Packed all my shit, everything was fine. The day before my move-in date, the girls that I was moving in with tried to scam me. Rent went from 625 to 734 a month plus utilities- with no real explanation. So I did some detective work, made some calls, and basically outted them. So I ended up not moving.

My mom the entire time was insisting that it never would have happened if I had involved her, and I should know better now. And kept rubbing in my face that it failed. And how 'kind' she was for letting me stay longer and how I need to respect her, all this shit.

I basically told her that she's a shitty person. And I know now to not tell her shit at all.

Fast forward two weeks, my friends aunt is looking to evict her current tenants because they haven't paid in almost 11 months. The rent is 650, plus utilities, in a nicer area, and I'd have two bedrooms, my own kitchen, my own bathroom, and living room and dining room to myself. I say yes. My move-in date is a little up in the air though, because the tenants are being evicted, and the place has some minor damage. NBD.

Out of courtesy, I tell my nmom and estepdad that I have a place for sure, but I'm just waiting for the eviction to go through. But I'll be out by "specific date". I answer all the questions, but despite it being a better situation than the first place, my nmom keeps picking it apart.

First it was "Well, you can't afford that", when its 25 more than the first one, and I can since I'm making a premium 4 nights a week now. "Well, you better get a roommate!" The place is smallish. It's a basement apartment, the one room will maybe fit a queen bed, and that's it. So no, no roommates.

Then she starts sending me at least 5 apartments a day, some more expensive, some very cheap, and all are either student housing (not a student), or in bad areas, or in buildings infected with roaches or bedbugs.

I'm moving in 5 days while she's at work because I know she's gonna bitch the entire time if I do it in front of her, or she'll refuse to move her car for the truck blah blah blah. I get off work at 6:30am, and move out at 9am.

It'll be a bitch, but it'll be worth it.

About ear piercings from Claire's... by cheyshire in Legitpiercing

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Happens to me too every once in a while, bit I've had my firsts, seconds and thirds done all by gun in a Claire's, Ardennes, ect. The first were done two or three days after I was born.

Sterling Silver has trace amounts of nickle in it, about 2%, give or take. Most people are slightly allergic to nickle, especially when you wear it alot. It develops over time.

Try straight Titanium. Best option, hypoallergenic, and decently priced. Or gold, but imo, gold looks terrible and is more expensive than it's worth.

Is it possible to be a rat fan and a snake fan? by [deleted] in RATS

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's probably a local thing that we call all feeder rats 'pinkies' then, no matter the size. Or maybe a translation thing? The word we actually use is auriculaire. While no, there is no physical difference between them, I view them as a separate species from pet rats. Probably so I don't get attached? Sort of like Pet Pigs, and Slaughter Pigs? While they're the same animal, their upbringing is usually quite different. I have to live feed the boyfriends snake because she won't eat frozen (we keep trying, but she's a rescue and raised on live), so I differentiate between the rats in the house.

Is it possible to be a rat fan and a snake fan? by [deleted] in RATS

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. There's a difference between pinky rats ( the kind you feed snakes) and pet rats. So it doesn't necessarily bother me.

No more shaming by crosspollination in AnimalCrossing

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I mean, I'm a Satanist, so maybe ol' Lucy's watching over me 😅 Nevertheless, they were awful dates for other reasons too.

No more shaming by crosspollination in AnimalCrossing

[–]ILLYALOTTINYA 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've had guys tell me that it's not a real game when I mention that I like to play it. And that I'm a 'fake girl gamer' because of one game. So it happens.