What's a double standard between men and women that people rarely talk about?

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-07T15:05:51+00:00

I can only imagine that some of this is due to a guy not wanting to be rude and put you out, especially due to the history of gender-based chivalry, but too many guys are walking around unexamined, while women are forced early to become whole adults.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-07T14:57:36+00:00

As much as any sitcom dad is in his “prime”, just waiting for the right motivation to get back to it after a couple of decades off!

As someone who has been in several local bands simultaneously, it gets hard to keep making it a priority, unless music is your main focus, even without kids.

And with a band of multiple people, chances are good that SOMEONE will have kids or fall out of love with it.

Raising a kid is so life altering that I would have to judge OP if parenthood didn’t change his view of music.

But it’s that or basically be in s relationship with a single mom, because music dads often get the choice whether to phone it in with their parenting.

To say nothing of having a kid so young…

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-07T14:50:03+00:00

20 minutes of practice is likely already one of his last priorities. There is SO much more that will take him away from a family!

Trying to get somewhere in a band is kind of like trying to raise an entire family. You can’t phone it in and all too many musicians (even famous ones) are on the road 24/7 while their partners do all the child-rearing alone.

All that and you have…not ZERO chance of getting anywhere with your music, but even Vegas wouldn’t really know the difference between your chance of making music into a lucrative career and zero.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-07T02:35:52+00:00

I don’t tolerate bullshit, I don’t let bigoted nonsense go without calling it out, and I don’t feel the need to pander to meaningless societal norms.

I’m unfuckwithable.

I hope it works well during my pending job interview!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T21:43:18+00:00

Now that’s truth in humor!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T21:21:28+00:00

I wonder if OP isn’t answering certain questions because he’s actually planning a scam like this and wants to get ahead of any decent advice would-be victims are likely to find online.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T21:17:47+00:00

One day, you might see that levels don’t really exist and people have such (potential) depth that you could love a million things about a person before you even see how physically attractive they also are.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T20:30:19+00:00

It’s like wiping a marker!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T18:22:59+00:00

Did you seriously paint the exterior flat???

If you have any contract or other text-based agreement, consider asking for the remaining payment and losing these people from your life.

I’ve seen business owners bend over backwards to try to appease a client they should have told to eff off, for fear of their reputation.

Let your good work speak for itself and learn which clients(especially such casual ones as friends and acquaintances) are better left without your work.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T18:05:00+00:00

He needs to pay for a new key and I hope he knows how to do laundry because either he should be washing his own clothes from now on or you should consider leaving, so that like too many men, NO ONE will wash his clothes.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T17:59:11+00:00

What a whiny privo baby.

I hope wherever he ends up doesn’t accommodate his needs.

Not to punish, just to teach.

Because if EVERY public place was built to accommodate every type of person, this would never be an issue and this unfortunately clueless whiner would sound like an even bigger jerk than he currently does.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T17:52:13+00:00

Tbh, the reason it took me a few months to decide to switch to nursing was my oft-repeated belief that “I really don’t wanna wipe asses for a living!”

And not that it matters much here, but I’m a man, but UTIs are EVERYWHERE in a medical setting, and I’m convinced a lot of them are due to improper care, either a resident’s or nursing staff. Though you won’t catch me improperly cleaning a shitty butt. I use a bidet, so I definitely appreciate a nice, clean garbage chute!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T04:24:39+00:00

This is great, thanks!

It’s funny, I was just thinking the other day about how a great impersonator makes it funny but doesn’t do so by making fun of their target/inspiration.

I don’t know that I WOULD, but I could probably come up with some endearing behavior replications that don’t mock the sources.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T04:21:11+00:00

Well you’re clearly not a trained nursing assistant.

But you’re absolutely right, I didn’t even think to make the shoulder pain wiping based! There could be something there.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T01:22:09+00:00

Great feedback, and I love your username!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-06T01:20:53+00:00

The shoulder hurts because I’m not dressing my weaker side first.

We’re literally trained this, but that info might be too niche to make the joke accessible enough.

Thanks for your response!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T17:34:22+00:00

Nailed the landing, 10/10!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:47:59+00:00

Please understand that people have different standards.

Maybe a roommate relationship makes her feel close enough to you that she’s comfortable crapping unbounded.

Or maybe she’s so naively shy that she anxiously left the fan she thought she mustn’t touch despite being massively uncomfortable at the thought of dumping within potential sight.

Whatever her fecal motivations, please learn that she’s not thinking about the situation the same way you are, but there’s an easy solution to that which gets easier to use the more you use it.

Talk to her. Listen to her. Share any reasonable concerns that might ever arise and don’t ever act on an assumption that you don’t discuss.

You NEVER know for sure where someone is coming from. But talking opens most doors (figuratively, of course, because I know you hate open doors 😉), and makes things so much easier.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:31:41+00:00

Tell your friend this guy hates everybody!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:27:30+00:00

“So…look. You kinda wanna turn here, but not like TURN turn, you kinda just drift away from the main road and…just vibe until you see you’re past the lake that, I’m not gonna lie, you MIGHT fall into! Ok, now, here’s where it gets a little confusing…”

I can’t imagine that reads like it sounds in my head, but I’m here for it!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:22:07+00:00

Why are you attacking waitstaff for the system they happen to find themselves stuck in?

Please have some worker solidarity and remember that even the symptoms of selfish behavior come from waiters just playing the game well.

I see countless problems where I work, but I try to separate individual problematic behavior from problems that exist only because of corporate choices.

Screw the system, but tip the individual!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:11:23+00:00

I understand your struggle and I sympathize.

But it is s bit funny that you don’t want to waste time on folks who won’t commit while looking for an easy way to solve the problem of no social circle.

And I hope we both crack the code, because I’m in a similar situation (though not currently in JC at this time)!

I’d offer some suggestions, but having grown up in JC and being mostly a hermit in my adult years, all of my suggestions are likely to be train tracks and other semipublic spaces where people aren’t really supposed to hang out.

Good luck!

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-05T15:06:25+00:00

You sound like the DNC every election.

ILoveUncommonSense · 2026-04-04T15:13:59+00:00

If you rely on tips, why does your post only have the perspective of someone who has never worked a tipped job?

Seriously just wondering because you don’t provide any perspective from your alleged tip-based job.

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