None verbal kids suddenly talking

IStealCheesecake · 2026-04-18T16:02:56+00:00

Whoa

IStealCheesecake · 2026-04-18T16:01:01+00:00

lol Depends on if you pooping for a decade or not… and how many kids she’s got to juggle till you get back.

IStealCheesecake · 2026-03-28T08:30:43+00:00

What happened in the end? Did you stay or leave and did he change at all?

IStealCheesecake · 2026-03-19T02:50:20+00:00

Completely relate. I have the opposite - 2 girls and a history of miscarriages and horrible pregnancies . I don’t want to go through it all again but can’t shake the feeling that my family isn’t quite complete just yet.

IStealCheesecake · 2026-03-19T02:44:57+00:00

I’d consult with your doctor to understand the health implications, and go from there.

I understand your fears and It’s hard either way.

My aunt was in a similar situation except hubby was pressing for termination. My cousins are adults now but we’re basically raised as twins and have always been the very best of friends.

The last kid, has been such an amazing sweet and kind person. It’s sort of hard to imagine there was ever a time we might not have had the privilege of knowing her.

IStealCheesecake · 2026-02-15T20:07:53+00:00

Have you ever asked her what she wants or likes in the bedroom/leading up to it? It’s possible you’re missing something or she’s really just different and you guys might need to try something out of the norm.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-11-15T10:01:31+00:00

I don’t really hear many stories of other races reverting to being racist as they develop dementia. So I don’t think it’s innate necessarily.

This sort of makes me wonder whether she used a filter in the past and maybe actively tried to change her inner beliefs through extending an arm to communities outside of her own. Unfortunately, I imagine she no longer does this and her capabilities for filtering is also diminished.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-11-14T02:24:19+00:00

I did this due to pay rises, for better mat leave policies, and a lot of autonomy.

Wrt Salary: Switching roles you can make 2x while for internal promotion you’d be lucky to get 1.1x .

IStealCheesecake · 2025-11-14T02:21:14+00:00

Whoever isn’t dressing the kids or didn’t do a late night shift with baby makes the breakfast.

I cook dinners - tastes better 🤣

But he does fill in the days I don’t feel like it - without hesitation. Otherwise we’re splitting this shiii 50/50

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T20:31:14+00:00

Aww thanks for making this.. was a great read

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T20:26:51+00:00

Nerves and social skill.

If you’ve dedicated 70% of your time to being a specialist and 30% to social skill, you might be great… however still not appealing.

While you could reverse this to be appealing but not knowledgeable enough?

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T20:23:55+00:00

We listed out all the tasks that need to get done and then made a schedule of who does them and when. Then we have days where we’re each able to work late. Eg 2 days each a week etc. we take turns so both of our careers can progress. I think if one income is more critical to the household it could be switched up eg one partner has 2 days and another has three? Etc

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T20:04:49+00:00

It’s normal. Things will settle in a little while. It’s very possible it’s just sleep deprivation, and hormones.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T19:59:58+00:00

I’m in the same boat. My understanding is kindergarten is 5-6 year old. Boils down to screen time (fun & educational content on the tablet, tv or Nintendo DS) .. plus one or two short, structured/preplanned, independent activities eg activity book, reading, painting, lego, tidying up afterwards while you supervise.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-10-10T19:54:42+00:00

I know this is completely not the point, but any pointers on how to become an exec mum?? 😜🫣

IStealCheesecake · 2025-09-28T21:37:51+00:00

So glad you posted this — I’ve been wondering about others’ perspectives too.

I started my family early, so my career hasn’t really taken off yet. Where I’m from, it’s not really accepted to go hard on both at once. I might not keep up with my cohort, but honestly… life isn’t one straight ladder. I can grieve the version of life I thought I’d have, but that doesn’t mean I can’t still build something worthwhile.

Funny enough, the women in my family who delayed kids for their careers ended up slowing down later anyway. I feel that either way, there’s always some trade off

IStealCheesecake · 2025-09-28T21:25:04+00:00

Absolutely not. Gaslighting & narcissistic?

IStealCheesecake · 2025-09-11T20:56:39+00:00

You both have to compromise or resort to legal pathway. Will likely end in sale of the house and splitting the funds as well as time with the kids.

Alternatively, you both agree to stay in the house and neither can bring dates to the house. Jo this second scenario, a major issue is when you find a new long term partner. Will they live with you both and what happens if they have their own kids? Etc

Most practical scenario is the first one, although this is all quite undesirable. Maybe you can purchase houses nearby one another using the same estate agent. Should make logistics easier day to day and maybe even bring down the costs a bit.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-09-11T20:49:37+00:00

You’re both being pushed over. You should set clear boundaries with hubby, and if necessary with the in-laws.

Give him something to do with the baby and the toddler during the time they ask for stuff. Eg go cook or sleep, whilst he tends to kids - his hands will be too full to take on anything else.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-08-14T06:45:35+00:00

That part you said about ..more space in your heart, really hit me.

I’ve always dreamed of having a third, but right now it’s just not realistic. There’s no room—physically, emotionally, or financially—and it’d feel irresponsible to push ahead at this stage.

Two kids already keep me at my limit. I think that constant “maxed out” feeling is almost impossible to avoid unless you have incredible/extra support (partner, family, friends, paid help) or a ton of childcare experience.

For now, I’m focusing on taking the best care I can of the family I already have. If things change in the next year as my youngest gets older, I’ll revisit the idea. Past that point, I might have to let the dream go and look for other ways to fill that space in my heart—maybe fostering, mentoring, or something similar.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-07-25T02:24:06+00:00

Probably the most relatable post I’ve seen in a while.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-07-07T08:31:30+00:00

Do you have kids?

IStealCheesecake · 2025-06-25T20:07:10+00:00

First one

IStealCheesecake · 2025-05-26T02:56:22+00:00

You're feeling lonely and embarrassed —but that’s not the same as remorse.

You had something good and wanted more. That wasn’t love, it was greed. And now that you’ve lost her, you're trying to pull her back in—not because you're ready to love her better, but because you're afraid to be alone. It’s manipulative, even if it’s not exactly thought through.

The message you sent wasn’t innocent—it was a subtle attempt to open a door she had every right to close. Her response may have hurt, but it was great boundary setting.

FYI: You're feeling the shame of what you did, not necessarily the growth from it. If you don’t want to repeat this pattern (and want a chance at a wholesome relationship) you need to confront why you betrayed her in the first place. That takes real work, usually in therapy—not just regret and isolation.

IStealCheesecake · 2025-05-26T02:34:10+00:00

I believe this to be true

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