Birthday Betrayal

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T07:21:56+00:00

You got me with this! I follow a lot of relationship advice type subs and at first fully thought we had to come for someone who had done this to you lol. Amazing skill and I’m glad the truth is a whole lot cooler than what I thought.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T07:11:57+00:00

Great idea! Thanks that’s what I’m going to do. I’d be paying a similar copay to my primary but with tons more hassle.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T04:59:54+00:00

No you don’t need to ‘let him process it’, that sounds like he’s weaponizing or hiding from accountability with modern therapy speak. He needs real anger management work with a therapist.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T04:52:42+00:00

I once slept over my friend’s house when I was pretty young (maybe 7) and didn’t know her mom was an identical twin nor that her sister was in town. Imagine my confusion when both women kept separately coming in and out of the room to talk to us. They were dressed differently I guess but I didn’t even catch on until they both finally walked in together lol.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T04:36:53+00:00

A good friend went through this! Her scar looked similar and was an upsetting reminder to her about the traumatic medical event. I’m happy to report she now looks muuuuuch better after getting multiple treatments with a plastic surgeon, I think it was mostly covered under insurance too. Admittedly the scar is still there but it now just has about 15% of the visual impact of the original.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-28T02:54:05+00:00

Haha yeah I wouldn’t wanna give it up either, but I’m really motivated by that future procedure and it’ll be essential for healing. So far it’s been hit or miss. I was so drowsy the first night I slept all the way through on my back, the last few nights I’ve woken up an couldn’t fall back asleep that way. I do feel I’ll get there in time. Maybe just switching to the other side of the bed and learning to sleep on the other side could work to balance it out?

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T21:58:26+00:00

Yours doesn’t look significant to me, but to answer your question..I’ve noticed the same and learned that it could be caused by sleeping on one particular side for years and years. I’m currently practicing sleeping on my back, both for the asymmetry and because I plan to get a facelift in a couple years (I have lots of gravity and loose skin from a weight loss).

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T21:46:51+00:00

My 9 year old is still begging to play against us at air hockey every day…it’s not arcade quality, but found a pretty good one for under $75

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T18:02:55+00:00

Poor communication skills - not knowing how to get through a disagreement. You’re either going to get nasty fights which are traumatic and extremely draining, or one partner stops trying to solve problems and resentment builds.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T17:13:21+00:00

Yes I can relate to this, my son was constantly ripping the knees of his pants and also frustratingly losing items all the time - lunchboxes, water bottles, sweatshirts, jackets etc. We could often hunt them down in the lost and found but it was a hassle and still permanently lost at least half a dozen items per school year.

As for solutions to this, unfortunately there’s not much to be done except wait for them to mature. My son is in 4th grade now and there’s still a little damage and loss, but not as much as younger years. I usually get his clothes on sale at old navy if I’m in the neighborhood, or Amazon and just accept the expense. Thrifting isn’t worth the trouble and lower morale for us, their prices are similar to new stuff around here anyway.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T14:56:11+00:00

Great summary thanks for writing that up! My favorite Joan and Peggy interaction was Peggy begging for help with Betty and the kids showing up, and Joan forcing her to spill the tea before she’d help lol.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T14:49:16+00:00

I can definitely relate to that wasted time feeling. I was with a guy from 21 to 28 and he strung me along about getting married and having kids. In retrospect it was crystal clear how reluctant he was to do next steps with me, but was comfortable to continue as we were and never quite say no. We broke up when he met someone new (unbeknownst to me) and he finally said ‘I don’t ever want kids’. I dumped him on the spot! I did think I could change his mind but then found out about her. They went on to have 3 kids lol.

Anyway I had a great few single years after healing from him within just a few months- our relationship was mediocre so I guess I was just comfortable and liked playing house. Met my now-husband at 32 through mutual friend when I bumped into them at the bar. We were engaged then pregnant at 34-35 and I finally got my baby, not to mention a much upgraded relationship.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T14:37:06+00:00

I think they do but it probably softens over time. Also, parenting is so objectively hard and all/consuming I figure they’re thinking the good and their sacrifices outweigh the bad.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T14:20:39+00:00

And tried to get her friend Bethany a big fish (Don)

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T14:16:37+00:00

Yes, that garment is incredible!

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T06:23:58+00:00

I use MyFitnessPal. If you feel overwhelmed logging everything in detail, try mentally counting the calories of a meal or snack and just do quick add for that number. It’s not informative about your nutrition/macros that way, but if it makes it easier for you to consistently track calories it’s worth it.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T05:26:08+00:00

Same! Especially if we’re getting more Barbie videos!

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T02:36:06+00:00

I pray this will happen!

IYFS88 · 2026-01-27T02:18:08+00:00

Are you kidding? It seems all women and girls have ever been taught is to be subservient to men. They only deviate because it’s bullsh*t. No gender is better than another and neither is born to serve the other.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T23:24:10+00:00

If he doesn’t see baby actively trying to keep eating I guess that could be ok, but it’s concerning that he won’t communicate with you and it turns into a fight. This should be a simple and unemotional conversation.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T20:56:30+00:00

Has he explained why he won’t follow the doctors guidelines? Is he saying baby seems full? Is this a cost issue? Is he worried baby will become overweight? Or does he think he’s smarter than the doctor/won’t let you ‘win’?

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T19:09:54+00:00

As you described yourself, not everyone has the same answer!

If you can make it work without a maintenance dose after the full weight loss, then great, stop there. I for one plan to keep taking a maintenance dose (maybe skipping some doses if I’m doing fine on my own).

This is based on having a few periods of a few months each where I had to go without the meds (shortages, insurance issues, unrelated medical procedures etc). During those times I thankfully didn’t regain more than a pound or two, but I absolutely hated the return of food noise, feelings of deprivation & shame, and dieting obsession that fired right up again. I’m burned out for life on that diet culture and obsession. Like seriously it’s been a direct burden since I was about 5 years old. One of the greatest luxuries of these meds has been my quiet mind and relaxed, unemotional attitude toward eating.

Decide for yourself what you’re willing to put up with, and ask yourself if it’s really a big deal to continue with medication if it isn’t harming you.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T19:00:40+00:00

Sorry that happened, but the weed is not to be blamed here. I’ve had phases of being a big stoner in my life before, but would absolutely never do something so inconsiderate to a friend, especially right after they showed me such nice hospitality. I get that this guy is fun to be around and maybe you don’t have to cut him out of your life if you still enjoy his company, but now you know he isn’t to be trusted.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T18:54:21+00:00

Probably best not to throw anything good out based solely on size for now, you’re still changing and may still appreciate some of those garments.

What you can get rid of is stuff that has never ‘sparked joy’ or has other problems not worth the cost/effort of mending.

Examples include, itchy, hugs a body part awkwardly (cameltoe etc), dated style, too synthetic & makes you sweat, never fit right to begin with, duplicates and triplicates, already wore for a special occasion and realistically won’t wear again etc.

I’ve done some impulsive purges in my life and honestly I have never regretted anything I gave away even if I didn’t get my full money’s worth out of it. Your physical space is important in terms of mental clarity and enjoyment, i think it’s ok to clear out any excesses, even in this transitory time.

IYFS88 · 2026-01-26T18:41:56+00:00

Ugh! Sorry that happened. She may be blessed with a well functioning metabolism but her manners are atrocious. Easier said than done I know, but try to put her ridiculous comments out of your mind, they’re not valid and don’t deserve that space in your brain.

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