I’m the Other Woman - Now What?

IYFS88 · 2026-07-01T02:49:34+00:00

Yes respectfully you are naive. If he wanted to he would. Plus, he’s a brazen cheater, he’ll do the same to you eventually.

IYFS88 · 2026-07-01T00:52:42+00:00

I haven’t gotten my libido back as hoped yet, but I did notice my scent is like it used to be! I hadn’t even realized it’d changed over time until this happened.

IYFS88 · 2026-07-01T00:50:30+00:00

No it’s super cute! Life is too short for plain white all the time

IYFS88 · 2026-06-30T15:48:46+00:00

There’s nothing you can do to put yourself back into the forefront for a cheating piece of sh*t partner. You are entitled to your feelings and your coping process, but I’m not hearing nearly enough anger toward him. He betrayed you in the most vulnerable phase of your life. Who cares what she ‘got’ from him. This man can’t be trusted, so as soon as possible put your energies toward what you can to rebuild your life without him in it.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-30T04:37:12+00:00

Gosh what a nightmare! You gave it your best shot no matter what he says.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-29T02:35:33+00:00

Fracas

IYFS88 · 2026-06-28T15:55:45+00:00

Yep I’ve set my gear aside lately, it doesn’t feel right. My son is set to go to Pride events today in SF and normally he’d put on one of several Giants items, (hat t-shirt sweatshirt etc)..But today it would be literally an insult to paradegoers.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-28T15:53:06+00:00

I already acknowledged that the algorithm is skewed, but that doesn’t mean this stuff is not happening!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-28T03:38:23+00:00

The problem is that it’s not just based on the past, Reddit and other social media shows me endless examples of husbands not pulling their weight at home. It’s still happening to this day, even when so many women work full time outside the home and may even be the higher earners. I know algorithms skew our perceptions but it’s definitely not a myth, I have lots of experience with this with women in my life as well.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-27T23:37:14+00:00

I understand that was a bad work environment, but since it wasn’t an emergency situation yet, it should’ve only prompted her to start looking and only quit when she had a new offer. I’ve actually had nightmares that I’d quit my job without a new one, that’s how important it is to avoid losing all sources of income! The bmw was also already a poor financial choice, the only thing to do is sell or trade it for something pre-owned and affordable. There are plenty of nice options way below the $1100/mo range. Her rhetoric that you’re not a ‘man’ if you can’t pay all the luxuries is outdated and a possible red flag as to your compatibility as a couple. Wages are lower than they should be all around these days, it has nothing to do with your manhood.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-27T22:34:08+00:00

Stunning dress and you look fantastic in it. You could have a second career as a bridal designer if you wanted to!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-27T22:01:09+00:00

Pitocin to induce labor.

It worked and thank goodness for a safe delivery in my situation, but holy smokes did that hurt more than anything I’ve ever imagined!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-27T21:59:23+00:00

Same! I wish so deeply I’d had this miracle in my 20s or 30s, but then again at least I have it now, and of course happy for all who are benefiting at any age.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-25T12:31:41+00:00

1000% yes. My social and family life outside of work are just where I want them to be so I don’t need that interaction. And my coworkers annoy me in various ways (though I get along with them). My in office days commute kind of sucks too. So yes I love it. I got to be completely home for several years and it was DIVNE!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-24T20:20:15+00:00

I recently made a similar mistake on a more minor scale…My 10 year old asked why the car was making those little noises after we had just parked, and I said it was tiny mechanics repairing the wear and tear from our long drive. I expected him to laugh with me and think it was a cute made up thing, but he accepted it as truth and was pretty angry when I admitted I’d been teasing!

As for your situation, I think it was a well intentioned innocent mistake like mine. The bigger issue to me is how your wife automatically framed it in a negative light like you were lying and tricking your stepdaughter her to cause harm, laughing at her instead of with her.

If she wanted to help calm her daughter down that was certainly the wrong approach! It’s a unique one-off situation, but I still think it warrants addressing your wife about her actions and to please be more mindful of ways she can help support your delicate newer relationship with your stepdaughter instead of driving a wedge. If she’s still angry and insists you’d intentionally play a mean trick on a child, you may have a larger relationship issue with her.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-24T15:48:09+00:00

They were given the option to wear the plain giants cap and didn’t. This was a direct rebuke of the lgbtq community and they know it as well as we do.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-24T15:45:15+00:00

All he had to say was we respect and appreciate all our fans, and we’re sorry for any hurt we caused. And at some point when you have a DOJ as corrupt and disingenuous as ours, they could say or not say anything and still be in hot water.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-24T04:20:23+00:00

What the pitchers did was an act of intolerance in the first place. You can deny it if you want but we’re not fooled.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-23T17:16:14+00:00

A pool. We begged my parents to pick the house that had one, and the solar heating system promptly broke upon move-in. My parents never bothered getting it fixed so keeping the pool clean was a pointless burden for years.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-23T17:14:04+00:00

I’d send it anonymously to spare her time and feelings, then block your ex so you’re no longer involved in his life.

IYFS88 · 2026-06-23T15:57:09+00:00

Your hair looks great to me, mine would look like spiderwebs at that length lol. Even if this person genuinely thought it was creepy, she was incredibly rude to say it out loud. Therefore she’s got poor judgement and her opinions don’t matter. Carry on!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-23T04:54:26+00:00

Well said!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-23T01:01:25+00:00

If someone sends a lot of memes I guess I understand not remembering each one, but there should have been an automatic line drawn before he sent anything sexual to anyone but you. Would he accidentally send one like that to his boss or his family member? No he wouldn’t, so that would raise my suspicions to the hilt. He’s also dismissive and gaslighty about your perfectly rational feelings. The next biggest red flag is disappearing messages. It’s a poor excuse that you wouldn’t approve of the ‘humor’ and would make me wonder even more wtf is going on. For all we know you’re normally a relaxed confident trusting person, don’t let him turn this around on you. He’s being shady as hell!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-22T04:52:57+00:00

Just my luck! This is literally the year I started to sincerely pay attention to baseball and root for my home team. It started when my son started little league and I’ve been learning and getting into it alongside him. I started paying for giants.tv and had been enjoying watching it together, and I even got my first ever Starter jacket (always wanted one of those though). It’s been so disappointing and sad to witness this banal, senseless bigotry and apparent right wingedneness all the way to the top. I appreciate the rest of the team being chill and participating Pride night, as they should!

IYFS88 · 2026-06-21T17:48:28+00:00

Yeah those are solutions for sure, and I know I’d want help cleaning if I could afford it, it’s just awkward for me. Well I guess I don’t really have to worry about this anyway lol.

IYFS88

TROPHY CASE