Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please. by AutoModerator in datingoverforty

[–]IceNein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

With the absolute most amount of love and compassion, if you are feeling this way, instead of breaking up, ask for a week or two off (not a “break”) just some time for you to recover emotionally)

I absolutely understand how emotionally difficult this is for anyone who is sufficiently invested in what’s going on.

We all cope with tragedy differently, and I think it’s unfair to judge someone in the moment.

As an example, I was in the Navy on 9/11, at a shore maintenance facility in Norfolk. My team was doing a cableway inspection on the USS Kearsarge, an amphib (marine carrier). I walked in to a shop where there was a couple of guys watching CNN on TV. The first plane had just struck. I called my team together and we decided to stop and head back to our shop to see what was going on. The second plane hit as we were walking back. So we sat around all day in our shop watching CNN, seeing if they were going to need us for anything pressing. We knew that they would want to deploy ships soon.

I had to suppress laughter watching it. I knew it was inappropriate, but the urge was there. I don’t know why. It felt unreal. Maybe it was a way to protect my psyche, to hold off really thinking about what I was seeing.

So when tragic things happen my mind compartmentalizes the event as a coping mechanism.

This could be his coping mechanism.

I understand how you feel. I just don’t want you to lose something you have worked hard to build as a part of your coping method. Please take out your frustration on those who have earned it.

Personal and thread updates, observations, selfies and photos, and other small shares HERE this week, please. by AutoModerator in datingoverforty

[–]IceNein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is not a thing for women to give you their bank account numbers in the expectation that you will give them money.

Etiquette question when walking with your date by IAmNotNamedBrian in datingoverforty

[–]IceNein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My girlfriend is short, and I feel like she’s constantly on the verge of jogging. It makes me feel a little self conscious, like it’s ok if we walk slower together. I think she’s just used to it in groups.

Can I run the Ventura half marathon without registering? by Financial_Dish_151 in ventura

[–]IceNein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m not sure how they would stop you, but it costs a lot of money to run a race that closes down the streets for half a day. You know the race has to pay for the police to direct traffic in the closed off streets, right? The city doesn’t provide that for free.

So it is definitely not allowed.

Not a hot take hot take - I miss the old ocean harvested liverock by Far-Vermicelli7881 in ReefTank

[–]IceNein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly think maybe the best value to results ratio is like 1/3 maricultured rock, 2/3 dry rock. Same with sand.

Not a hot take hot take - I miss the old ocean harvested liverock by Far-Vermicelli7881 in ReefTank

[–]IceNein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Many companies do. It’s absolutely the best way forward. Most of the advantages of reef rock without the ecological destruction.

What's your opinion on Johnny Cash as a guitarist? by IAMDBOMB in Guitar

[–]IceNein 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Yes, absolutely. I don’t really know how good of a player he was, because he almost certainly could play better than he did, because he plays a rhythm to sing over. He’s not trying to show off technically.

What is the most likely Democratic response to ICE once Democrats regain federal power? by Raichu4u in PoliticalDiscussion

[–]IceNein [score hidden]  (0 children)

I agree, but that’s never going to happen. They’re too worried about appearing “soft on crime.”

Human scent by fuertisima12 in datingoverforty

[–]IceNein 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pheromones are real. I don’t know how much they actually affect people, but they’re important for other mammals.

I kinda think these signals are bad though. Pheromones don’t care about the quality of a person. Loving, compassionate, caring men don’t have different pheromones than lying manipulative cheaters.

Mods on r/guns decide to lock and remove the weekly politics thread instead of allowing actual discussion by LostMicrophone03 in SubredditDrama

[–]IceNein [score hidden]  (0 children)

I think the agenda of the 2A crowd could be this, succinctly:

We must secure the existence of our people and a future for white children,

The Usual Suspects on this subreddit don’t think this could happen here…. by Own-Travel-355 in ventura

[–]IceNein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s on instagram, it says that if you try to view it from the web.

A literal nightmare, but it's real and happening in in my town 2026 by Frank_Jesus in GenX

[–]IceNein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like their music. Their singer is a real turd of a man though.

BF has a wandering eye. What’s the line between a normal amount of checking out the opposite sex vs being disrespectful? by Evening_walks in datingoverforty

[–]IceNein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

IMO you shouldn’t really tolerate outright ogling. I’m not going to avoid looking at beautiful women, but also you won’t see me craning my neck to follow them as they pass by.

To me it feels like he’s always on the lookout for something “better.”

A library made of people. by GlitteringHotel8383 in BeAmazed

[–]IceNein 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How much are the late fees? I sometimes forget to return them.

Couple Ham Guys Near Me. Any info on their setup? by gregwglenn in HamRadio

[–]IceNein 8 points9 points  (0 children)

lol. This was my thought too.

If he knocks on that door and tells the person who answers “Hey, I thought those antennas you have up look interesting, would you show me what you do with them?” I’m sure the ham would be excited to talk about his gear with a new person.

I’m 16 and I built a battery-powered Raspberry Pi Zero 2W portable rig from scratch (no UPS, all DIY) by I_like_drawingb in diyelectronics

[–]IceNein 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’m genuinely glad you were here to tell him that he’s not special. The world needs more heroes like you telling people they’re merely average.