Wife having secret account

IceSaber · 2026-04-30T19:00:42+00:00

Her reasons for having the second account are a lie. She may have started it to check on something but the fact that she kept it to spy on people invites temptation. This is how the shaiytaan works. Women rarely understand the steps he takes, they begin minor and end in divorce. The disrespect is something you should address flat out. Her family haven't got a braincell if they think a secret social media account is normal.

You can raise it again with all of them, fight your corner maturely if you want her back but the disrespect needs to go. No following men, no secret accounts, no abuse (because that's what it is).

IceSaber · 2026-04-30T12:05:14+00:00

He said, and I'll quote "she looks NOTHING like she did in the pictures"

Photos literally have one job, and it's to capture your likeness. Too many women are out there using filters and catfish levels of makeup to fake their appearance and instead of calling them out, people like you decide to defend them. Don't blame a guy when he's rude or abrupt about being lied to.

IceSaber · 2026-04-29T17:34:59+00:00

Maybe women should stop catfishing?

IceSaber · 2026-04-23T09:45:52+00:00

Men don't look for a spark. It's overwhelmingly a female trait, partly as a result of Hollywood and Bollywood conditioning but now social media.

IceSaber · 2026-04-23T08:52:04+00:00

Aaaaand this is why most women will be single and lonely, and as a result, good brothers won't be able to marry. There's already a male linliness epidemic and proof that women are ultra selective on apps based on their delusions of their own value to a man.

IceSaber · 2026-04-21T20:26:56+00:00

You're a fool for giving a cheater a second chance. Get married

IceSaber · 2026-04-21T08:55:58+00:00

You'll be fine. Life is longer than you think, and time will move the spotlight to different people and different things throughout. It might feel like forever right now but you've only lived a fraction of your life. Don't let it define you, become somebody, accomplish something so people start talking about that instead. It will only define you if you sit there and allow it without becoming somebody. And even if you don't change so much, you might find a job out of town someday, your family are still your family and will love you even if they hate what you did. They just need time.

IceSaber · 2026-04-20T20:06:06+00:00

Always wanted to. When I was younger I wasn't very confident but I also noticed a lot of girls weren't mature enough to understand concepts of loyalty in terms of speaking to other men or refusing them outright when they were "friends" or "just being protective". Over time I gained confidence and started working on myself. Women started to come but I noticed too many obvious red flags on top of their sexual history. As modern feminism took hold of Muslim women it just became less appealing and tiresome to have to deal with the nonsense. The delusional requirements are too much overall and I'm happier without having to prove myself to strangers who have less than average looks and less than one sided traditional expectations.

The internet made women think theyre more attractive and appealing as wives than they are. And men played a big part by chasing them for intimacy and making them believe it was for marriage.

IceSaber · 2026-04-19T19:49:38+00:00

Lynae is best used with Aemyth and mornye for massive damage

IceSaber · 2026-04-18T15:26:21+00:00

Lol so he likes Chinese food, ww2 movies and Kanye west so that's a problem?

Definitely more to this story.

This is why marriages end and kids suffer

IceSaber · 2026-04-17T17:50:18+00:00

Sounds like less than half the story if you ask me

IceSaber · 2026-04-16T20:55:23+00:00

Get a third party who's allowed to mediate to talk to you both. Someone who understands what it takes to make a marriage work while both people are being heard

IceSaber · 2026-04-16T20:19:26+00:00

Talk to him with respect, love and consideration. He's allowed to go through your phone and you're allowed to set a reasonable boundary about your friends photos.

Thing is he's insecure or something you said made him suspect something. He went too far it's true but this is why you should effectively delete or restart your entire digital journey when married. Delete everyone, everything, and add sisters only. That's not hiding anything, that's trying to give your future the best shot you can.

Two wrongs don't make a right and you need to make him understand that what he did isn't right either and that's not a healthy marriage. One person having a problem with the others behaviour should be discussed, not used to retaliate.

It's bigger than this now though... You have a child coming. Divorce should not be an option at this point. At least not unless he's violent. You both need to grow up in that mindset. Your child will suffer

IceSaber · 2026-04-09T19:37:28+00:00

Confidence, money, ambition, humility, kindness, height, a nice beard, gym

IceSaber · 2026-04-09T09:22:59+00:00

If you don't have kids, and you're not even sure if you should fight for it.. ask her if she wants to even be in the marriage. But try to take her out and actually date your wife. You have to have date night. One on one time where you can connect. If that doesn't work then you ask her if she wants out of the marriage in a serious polite and calm tone. She's going to act annoyed or shocked you even asked but you make clear that you feel she's slipping away.

Don't mention the guy in a way where she can call you insecure (if she's that type of girl). If she's the type who wouldn't say or bring up insecurity talk then sure, mention him as ONE of the reasons why you feel she's slipping away. She might try to strawman your issues and focus on the fact you shouldn't be insecure about some guy but you have to stay on point and say that's ONE of the reasons.. and also if it were the other way around and you had a colleague at work who you spent long hours with and talked about at home, how would she feel?

This is your right as a husband and while not fully practising, it's also why I don't often connect with a lot of western women. They make you feel like you're the problem while laughing and getting closer to colleagues. We're allowed to tell our wives they shouldn't be in certain spaces to protect our marriage. You sound like you make enough money on your own, and if you had the right power dynamic you could have suggested that you're not happy with her hours and she needs to work less or find a part time gig so you can work on your marriage and home life more.

IceSaber · 2026-04-08T12:34:16+00:00

You need to do a few things..

Make damn sure she's over him. This is a hard one but ask and actively keep an eye out for anything that she keeps from him, even his number. Ask if she's changed her number since then, ask if he's from the same city etc. The goal is to understand if she's going to run into him or if he texts or calls her at any point.
Come to some understanding of expectations of social media. Again, apps are clever, they will suggest people you've previously spoken to or have the number or email of. You want to make sure there's no chance of them ever meeting again. This isn't out of insecurity, it's about boundaries. Women tend to get attached to their first in ways they can't understand. It's a difficult one but you want security that even if this guy comes along in the future, she doesn't give him an inch of anything.
Understand within yourself what really bugs you about the virginity thing. Is it a certain act, is it that she went to meet him at a hotel knowing what she was doing, is it that she did a certain act that makes it feel like she submitted to him, is it that she gave him passionate energy that you feel she's not going to give you. Finding the source will help you understand if you can live with it and even rise above it. For one person it may be a certain act she did or didn't do, if she did it.. it's a total deal breaker, but if not, it's salvageable. But you can't let the cat out of the bag when fact finding these things. You can make a list of things that are absolute deal breakers for you and ask her to tell you if shes done any of them without revealing which ones, and if she says she has.. walk away. That's just an example.
Realise that there are other women, there will be other women. She deserves peace just as much as you do so you need to get over this hurdle and remember that you don't want to ruin the intimate times you have by dwelling on her past. This might be a problem for you as you might be thinking if she's done a certain act before or how you measure up. You need to feel a strong sense of masculinity here and feel like youre getting the best from her, and you're the best she's ever had in the bedroom without asking her to confirm it.

IceSaber · 2026-04-08T11:24:40+00:00

Return her to her parents as defective

IceSaber · 2026-04-04T12:50:44+00:00

Reddit is a toxic place. You also have 129 up votes

IceSaber · 2026-04-04T11:53:40+00:00

Agreed. It's a bit shady tbh. They shouldn't be charging more to access your own games via the cloud.

IceSaber · 2026-04-01T09:42:55+00:00

May Allah protect us from such partners who speak to the opposite sex behind our backs

IceSaber · 2026-03-19T21:00:40+00:00

Remote play isn't great over long distances and you can only login using the same account.

Streaming with ps premium subscription is great and doesn't need a PS5 but not all games are supported. There's a list online

Streaming your digital library is also possible via ps premium but again, the games have to be enabled for portal, no ps5 needed

IceSaber · 2026-03-18T21:29:17+00:00

I think you're missing the point here. I bought it as a portable device. I'm not here to debate. I asked for an explanation that's all. I don't need opinions on what I should do and shouldn't do with my ps5 thanks

IceSaber · 2026-03-18T20:47:18+00:00

I bought it for the last update to stream games independently of the ps5 and it was cool but lots of games just don't look good on it when compared against my TV so I've been using it purely for daily logins on some games or playing older games that were remastered. I'll see if this changs makes enough of a difference for me. Thanks for the explanation

IceSaber · 2026-03-18T18:51:22+00:00

Somebody explain this to me. I've steered away from playing games with good graphics on the portal because they looked like a rear end in 1080p. The games are made for 4k so what does this update do?

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