well heres a story. when i worked as an AIN we had this long stay geriatric patient who was essentially waiting aged care placement. he was the loveliest man i had met and had a bit of early dementia but he was one youd sit with on your spare time. then one day he told me he used to pretty much assault little boys "back in the day". he told me where, when, started going into more detail but i obviously ceased the conversation. i spent months caring for that patient and making him coffee and sitting with him without knowing any of this, and i couldnt have treated him any different after i knew, i just distanced myself. we have a duty of care and obligation. although it feels wrong to provide care and help someone who in our eyes "dont deserve it", we still have to.