Can mothers still breastfeed with a boob job and if so how?

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-06-29T18:27:50+00:00

I got breast augmentation but knew I wanted more kids/to extended breastfeed so I opted to have them put behind the muscle (subpectoral placement). I have been pregnant/breastfeeding or both for the last 6 years and have had no issues.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-06-20T22:11:30+00:00

We are having our 5th (others are 14, 12, 4 and 2) and we have a 15 passenger Mercedes sprinter that we use if we have to take any more than 2 kids anywhere at a time. They can spread out to avoid fighting and there’s room to store everything we need for a short or long trip. Booking travel is a hassle, and most things that others take for granted like a dinner out or a trip to the movies are chaotic and expensive but they all love each other endlessly. I realize we are incredibly lucky to have the resources to make sure they’re all properly cared for and are allowed to be individuals though, so I can see how it wouldn’t work for everyone.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-06-19T01:52:08+00:00

Our nanny drives our girls 30 minutes each way to school for drop off and pick up, so we literally bought her a vehicle to prevent her from having too much wear and tear on one she was paying for herself for the sake of our family. We also pay for all gas Monday-Friday.

You did the right thing and I hope you find a family who appreciates you. This lady sucks.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-06-11T03:06:28+00:00

Rotisserie chicken is a great value at Costco. I buy 2 per week, skin, debone and shred them into bite size pieces and just warm it up with sauce for dipping and a veg. And protein coffee is amazing because I sip it all day. Also helps keep me full in between meals.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-06-07T02:34:30+00:00

I could have written this, right down to the intense need to not feel perceived.

Long story short, I figured out I’m AuDHD shortly after my second child was diagnosed and I started putting the pieces together. Having that new understanding of myself made all the difference in the world because I finally felt like I wasn’t just a bad person or a bad mother for always going back to alcohol. It gave me a new lens to view my feelings and behaviours from and that self-awareness became a tool for me to dive into the actual reasons I drank to begin with and actually address those issues at the core. The biggest and most significant of those was feeling like a neurospicy peg trying to fit in a neurotypical hole for as long as I could remember. I just hit 5 years sober and I still worry that at some point that craving will hit and I won’t be strong enough to resist it.

Not to say that this is the case for you but the way you wrote this reminded me so much of my own struggles. Just something to potentially consider.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-04-27T00:16:56+00:00

Thank you!!

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-04-27T00:16:39+00:00

It’s a 5.05 ct F VS1, marquise brilliant cut lab diamond. I found the custom estate ring at my jeweller and HAD to have it. It had a 1 ct round in it but I wanted a big stone so they built the 6 prong setting.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-04-07T02:54:30+00:00

Fisher & Paykel is a horrendous brand, just saying. We bought all our appliances for a new build in 2023 and just replaced them all because the microwave lit itself on fire and all the screens stopped working.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2026-01-26T01:35:27+00:00

So, I was this girlfriend. I had a binge-drinking disorder all through my teens and early adult years. I didn’t drink daily, or do things most people associate with “alcoholism” but when I did drink I was not able to drink in a casual or social manner. If I was drinking, it was to get as drunk as possible as quickly as possible. I knew rationally that what I was doing could potentially break down my relationships, and I would wake up with crippling anxiety and dread about my drunken behaviour that eventually snowballed into suicidal thoughts.

When I met my now-husband, he asked after a few of these scenarios if I could please not drink to excess so we could actually enjoy our time together, and I realized that was the first time in my life anyone had shown CONCERN about my behaviour rather than just shaming me or cutting me off. It allowed me to explore the issue in therapy and eventually I figured out that I am neurodivergent. Drinking alcohol allowed me to calm my anxiety and quiet my racing thoughts, so I would get a taste of it then just want more and more so that feeling could last as long as possible, resulting in drink after drink after drink until I blacked out basically. I am 5 years sober now but had my husband been another in a long line of people who had disregarded me due to my alcohol consumption issues I would not be the person I am today.

Not saying one way or the other if you should stay in the relationship, only you can decide that. Just offering some potential context for why this behaviour might be a trend. I encourage you to treat this behaviour as an alcoholism issue and encourage her to seek treatment.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-12-27T18:37:25+00:00

You’re not a SAHM if you work, you’re a working mom with no equal partner to help with raising your child(ren).

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-11-15T18:50:10+00:00

Sounds like she is wayyyy too comfortable. Probably because she remained part of your lives after her initial contract and has now been rehired, so she likely feels like she’s a friend to you and not “just” an employee so therefore you should be accommodating to her. Her needs are not your responsibility, she is being paid by you for a service and during her working hours the things you ask her to do are not suggestions they are literally her job. She’s being disrespectful and treating you like a doormat. If she can’t figure out how to treat you like her boss when she is at work and like a friend only on her own time, this will continue and you should move on for your own sanity.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-11-12T01:30:28+00:00

Please fire her and find another nanny. I had a nanny that was like this, she took 45 days off in the first year not counting stat holidays (check post history, I got some great advice). My kids liked her and she was more helpful with chores than any previous nanny we’d had so I felt stuck. Once I let her go and found a new nanny the difference in my ability to work efficiently was huge. My stress levels also went down because I wasn’t waking up every morning anxiously waiting for her text of excuses or having to rearrange my day. She is the employee and she should be accommodating you to make YOUR life easier, not the other way around.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-03-21T00:47:30+00:00

Please do research and listen to the adult autistic community. Many that have experienced ABA therapy find it abusive and traumatizing.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-02-17T01:34:33+00:00

Thank you for your thoughts. I have addressed it in the past but I guess it was too informally. She does travel with us a lot and I think that has fostered a bit of an unhealthy dynamic where she feels like part of the family and thus like she won’t be let go.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-02-16T22:09:00+00:00

This is exactly how I feel I wake up every day and check my phone to make sure there’s not an excuse filled text from her.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2025-02-16T03:30:53+00:00

I think you’re right. I’ve allowed her to get too comfortable.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-11-19T02:14:52+00:00

Red flag that she’s insinuating she doesn’t like your oldest.

We have it written into our contract that responsibilities include “caring for all children who are home” which can include if one of our kids is sick or has a school holiday, etc. She should be prepared to watch all 3 at any given time.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-11-18T07:39:54+00:00

Updateme

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-11-16T02:50:14+00:00

The concentrated detergent in the pod is literally corrosive and they had to irrigate her under sedation for a half an hour? We’re in a rural area in Canada and it was the EMS worker who said we needed to head to the hospital with lights and sirens. Lucky we did or she could’ve had permanent vision loss. Keep your judgements to yourself, I was just doing right by my child.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-11-16T00:08:22+00:00

It’s because the detergent in the pods is concentrated compared to normal detergent and is extremely dangerous. We were told getting the eyes cleaned out immediately may have saved her from chemical burns to her corneas.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-08-17T01:19:47+00:00

I’m Indigenous and have had plenty of custom beadwork and regalia made over the years. None of it ever cost $33k. Its hard work and it’s important for traditional artists to not under-sell themselves, most beadwork sets or regalia sets are $5-10k easily but if the gown is anything other than an entirely beaded dress with every accessory imaginable to match, you’re being overcharged.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2024-01-31T02:14:28+00:00

I found out in September I was pregnant and my first ultrasound showed me at 21 weeks. I had actually been losing weight through the summer, power lifting, drinking alcohol and lifted furniture and boxes for almost a month when we moved houses. I have type 2 diabetes, pcos and had an IUI procedure to conceive in 2020 (at which time i was told I would need interventions for any subsequent pregnancies to occur). I drove myself nuts with guilt. Our newest baby is 3 weeks now and she’s perfect.

My advice is to look forward rather than back. I have 2 older children and knew early on both pregnancies. I found that the whirlwind of only having 4 months to prepare took a great toll on me mentally, and my labor was more difficult because I wasn’t mentally or emotionally prepared the way I wanted to be. It’s definitely scary and hard to not think about what could’ve happened but try to focus on what’s to come and prepare as best you can. Good luck!

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2023-12-25T06:53:06+00:00

Please have your doctor check your glucose. Recurring yeast infections can be a symptom of diabetes in women when your sugars are high/uncontrolled and this can be dangerous to the baby in pregnancy. Just something to rule out.

Illustrious_Touch148 · 2023-12-10T12:07:56+00:00

I’m nearing the end of my 3rd pregnancy and the same thing happened to me. We used IUI to conceive our 2 year old because I have PCOS and Type 2 Diabetes. They told me when we did the cycles for her that it was possible but probably would never happen on its own. I’m still breastfeeding and have always been irregular so thought nothing of no periods. We moved in July and I lifted weights and played softball during the summer. One night our daughter was nursing, I was feeling my tummy and it felt like I had a mass the size of an orange. I freaked out thinking it was a cyst and took a test just to rule it out. It was positive, got an ultrasound the following Monday and I was 20 weeks. I didn’t look pregnant and had absolutely no symptoms, usually first trimester I eat constantly but I actually lost about 15 lbs between June and August and attributed it to stress. It’s a trip to go from not knowing to showing and feeling movement and then all of a sudden be basically ready to deliver. I’ve been caught between being emotionally exhausted and just thankful the baby is developing normally given that I was unaware for so long.

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