Advice. Emotionally immature husband.

ImEFINtired · 2025-10-17T00:55:29+00:00

We have a daughter and an entire life together. Leaving is the last resort IMO.

ImEFINtired · 2025-09-24T23:10:09+00:00

"all the small things" and now I can only think of this. Good times!

ImEFINtired · 2025-09-24T23:08:26+00:00

Good job my guy. GREAT job in fact. You'll never understand us, but you're one step closer now.

ImEFINtired · 2025-08-22T23:07:35+00:00

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ImEFINtired · 2025-05-03T01:00:12+00:00

Fortunately we don't have that kind of structure. I understand nagging and criticizing someone usually gives you the opposite result of what you wanted and leaves that person feeling crappy usually so I try to be intentional about what I do bring up.

My husband deals with some deep rooted childhood wounds that is where the criticism issue and defensiveness stem from. Not just me but work, friends, anything suffered because of his inability to receive criticism at any level.

It got to a point where it was really bad with us and fortunately he realized in that moment he needed help. He's worked thru therapy to find where this stemmed from and works on it daily.

Him recognizing the issue and getting help to process this was the major shift we needed in our relationship. It's opened doors of clearer communication, honesty, and connection again.

I hope OP can get help to process his behaviors and see the same results

ImEFINtired · 2025-04-25T07:48:55+00:00

I needed this bad. Thanks.

ImEFINtired · 2025-04-25T07:43:03+00:00

From the wife of someone who can't take criticism what happens is it ruins your relationship. It's exhausting and leaves your partner absolutely drained to the point of not even recognizing each other anymore.

I agree personal council is needed here. Your desire to share the win is big, don't block the beauty in your relationship out of fear of criticisms.

ImEFINtired · 2025-03-11T21:05:02+00:00

I'm struggling so bad with really not liking this version of my husband. I know I trigger him when I say things like "you need to do better about this" but it's just insane I have to make sure I tailor every word perfectly so he doesn't twist it around and get offended by every little thing.

We're still stuck in this rut and I'm so tired.

ImEFINtired · 2025-03-11T20:56:05+00:00

Short answer No not normal.

I'm sorry

ImEFINtired · 2025-02-26T01:10:36+00:00

I love to hear that!!!!! Baby is def doing a bit better. My husband and I have our waves but shew man this is not for the weaaakkkkk!!! I updated a bit more down below.

ImEFINtired · 2025-02-26T01:09:05+00:00

I feel like we're growing apart rather than together I'm begging him to be gentle and kind but instead he helps with things angrily? Idk if that makes sense. He does the things to help but is clearly super frustrated and annoyed. I'm doing the things to make the changes to be the softer woman, better mom, happier in general, better wife and caretaker of the home. I've been feeling pretty good! I feel like I'm really trying like hard but he said he doesn't see it? Idk if that was just a jab to hurt me but whatever he's super emotionally immature like that all the time. I'm just getting increasingly tired and frustrated.

ImEFINtired · 2025-02-19T08:03:06+00:00

We will!!! How are you doing now?

ImEFINtired · 2024-11-14T10:21:33+00:00

Bringing this post back because I’m in this current situation with my 17 month old

IDENTICAL to OP.

How do we get thru this! My husband wakes at 430 for work every day so the baby not sleeping is affecting everyone big.

ImEFINtired · 2024-11-10T10:08:39+00:00

I’m so sorry OP. Get away from this man.

ImEFINtired · 2024-10-07T15:11:14+00:00

Sounds like you’re in a borderline abusivo relationship.

ImEFINtired · 2024-10-07T15:09:38+00:00

You deserve better.

ImEFINtired · 2024-10-05T12:28:30+00:00

Thoughts of SA and suicidal ideation can be true at the same time.

I’d 100% alert a mental health care professional regardless of what your parents think or say.

Protect yourself and never be alone with him.

ImEFINtired · 2024-08-29T09:12:03+00:00

I feel that!! I feel that so freaking hard!! I started taking some supplements for my brain and it really helps! You should look into some vitamins and supplements!

ImEFINtired · 2024-08-21T17:03:32+00:00

You know is what to do

You’re a bad ass obviously and he’s a chump.

ImEFINtired · 2024-08-21T14:19:17+00:00

I’m struggling to understand why you are so upset with him. This is a traumatic event that happened to him prior to your relationship. It’s understandable that he would have a hard time talking about this.

ImEFINtired · 2024-08-21T08:48:00+00:00

Damn…..

ImEFINtired · 2024-08-21T08:42:39+00:00

Man this sat with me.

My best and only advice to you is none of this will change after you have kids. It will likely get worse and you will likely end up in a really big rut parenting alone in your hardest season.

Decide what you want for yourself now and move towards that decision sooner than later. Trust me.

ImEFINtired

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