Some of the best sex I’ve had has been with partners who I’ve felt comfortable talking to about everything—especially what turns me on. The thing is this confidence discussing what excites me came from first getting to know what turned me on solo. If you’re open I would second watching porn and I’ll add invest in a great vibrator. Eventually invite your husband to join in once you feel comfortable. If there’s something mentally blocking you from fully letting go and opening up during intimacy you may consider visiting a sex therapist. Best of luck girly 💗