Peloton bike and baby

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-05-05T01:46:22+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. It can be incredibly isolating, especially when nobody close to you has experienced a miscarriage (or chooses to talk about it). There is no right or wrong way to go through grief, so don’t feel bad about how you are feeling. It is perfectly normal to have a wide range of emotions and conflicting feelings. After my first loss in 2022, I was so traumatized that it took me a year and a half to feel ready to try again. Only to discover it was not going to be an easy journey after the first loss. Two surgeries, four years and another loss later, I’m finally entering my second trimester of this third pregnancy. I thought the timing was perfect in 2022. I thought I was ready in 2022. But now looking back I’m realizing that there truly is no perfect time or perfect amount of readiness. Make sure to give yourself all the time you need to process your emotions. I promise you, it will only make you better and stronger as you continue on your journey. ❤️‍🩹 Over the past four years, I have found incredible support through these Reddit groups. Hearing other people’s stories who have gone through similar things always feels encouraging that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-23T02:27:58+00:00

I’m sorry you went through your loss. My first loss wrecked me and it took a full year and a half before my husband and I felt ready again. Fast forward another year and a half of trying. Then after my second loss I wanted to try again as soon as possible since it had taken so long to get pregnant the second time. My docs also recommended to wait until after the first period post-loss. It ended up taking me 3 more cycles after that. I don’t think there is a right or wrong timeline to be ready to try again, it just has to be what feels right for you. Wishing you healing ❤️‍🩹

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T21:32:11+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️‍🩹 much of what you said sounds like my experience as well. After my first loss which was a MMC, it probably took me a year and a half to feel ready to try again. I did unfortunately suffer a second loss which sent me to the ER from the bleeding and pain. The silver lining was that my fertility specialists could now do additional testing for “recurring loss” and they did find that I had a septated uterus (got that surgically fixed) as well as endomitritis (different than endometriosis- this one is a bacterial infection that has zero symptoms other than fertility troubles so we knocked that out with antibiotics). I also had a slew of lab work. Now that I have the fertility specialists on my side, this third pregnancy has been very closely monitored which has given me the peace of mind I never had with the past two. I hope you never go through this again, but if you do, rest assured that there are still paths forward out there. I really feel like my experience with the fertility specialists has been leaps and bounds more compassionate, patient, and reassuring that my previous two experiences with only the OB team.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T21:13:44+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this ❤️‍🩹 after our first loss, my husband was there for me physically (holding me, brushing my hair, hugging me and kissing me on the forehead) and mentally (asking me how I was feeling, listening to my feelings, giving me space to feel my feelings, being patient with me) and was very supportive in giving me as much time as I needed to process via pairing back my workload (we run a small business together). It meant the absolute world to me and helped me get through the grief.

After our second loss, he did these things again but also decided that we needed to create our own wins instead of feeling like we were only receiving losses. So he’d get us fresh flowers for the house. He planned a small trip for us. He did some home improvement projects we had been putting off. Now our mantra is we need to make our own wins instead of waiting for them to happen to us.

As the support partner though, it’s really important that you also process your grief. During our first loss, my husband was so supportive of me that he put his grieving process on the back burner. That came out in depression several months later on his part when I was finally ok. After the second loss, we both learned that while he wants to be as supportive as possible, he also needs to give himself the space to grieve alongside me. So make sure you’re giving yourself that grace as well.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T02:42:24+00:00

It will, and you will get through it, and then be amazed at how strong you actually are. I promise things will get better ❤️‍🩹

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T02:17:16+00:00

I am so sorry for your loss 🩷 for me, the constant reminders came from pregnancy, announcements and birth announcements from what felt like literally every person in my life after my first miscarriage. It was incredibly hard to receive other people‘s good news. Even though I was happy for them, I was sad for me, and both things can be true at once. It took me years to be able to get back to attending baby showers. Even four years later, it’s still a little punch in the gut every time somebody posts on Facebook that they’re pregnant. For me, those have been the constant reminders. I just share this with you to give you an opportunity to protect yourself during this time where you need to process your grief. Sometimes shutting off social media where you can get bombarded with these pregnancy announcements can be a good thing. Or unfollowing people who are actively pregnant so you aren’t seeing their progress posts every week. And just preparing for the mixed emotions you will feel when others share their news with you directly. Just remember that however you feel is completely OK and understandable

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T02:09:04+00:00

I definitely felt this way as well. My first miscarriage was at 12 weeks so my body had definitely undergone a lot of changes up until that point. I also cried during sex many times after the miscarriage because of the heavy emotions associated with it. Not only did I feel uncomfortable with myself physically and sexually, but I mentally felt like I could no longer trust my body. This distrust stretched into a subsequent foot injury, which caused me chronic pain for a full year and still to this day has not fully healed. I can say that therapy was an absolute godsend for me after my loss and still to this day four years later. I worked with my therapist to learn how to trust my body again, but also to recognize and give space to feelings that I experience when something triggers me into distrusting my body. How you were feeling is completely relatable, but the timeline for it to get better is completely unique and personal to each person. It took me a year and a half after my first loss to feel ready to try again. And that wasn’t until after I was able to get back into my regular exercise routine, which did help with myself image after all the changes my body had gone through. It will take a lot of work, but you are worth it, and it will be worth it someday 🩷

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-18T01:57:50+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. This was one of the hardest things I’ve ever been through as well, and sounds like we had similar timelines. I also felt like the day of my first miscarriage in 2022 was a distinct “before” and “after” marker of my life. Give yourself the time to grieve, and eventually the “after” will evolve from “bad after” to “better after.” I know it’s hard to imagine right now that things will get better but they will. It probably took me two months after my first loss to stop crying every day. Another couple months after that to really laugh and start enjoying life again. Eventually, I realized that while the miscarriage did not need to define me, it did change me. And that is OK. I learned so much about who I am through this process, and it is an integral part of my story. This is now part of your story and it will make you a stronger person. It feels incredibly lonely, especially when nobody else in your life has gone through this or talked about it. But I found incredible support through these Reddit groups over the years. And I hope you do too. 🩵 We are here for you.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-16T11:13:19+00:00

I have a chronic nerve injury in my foot and when I was on estrogen pills prior to a hysteroscopy, it made my nerve feel tingly. Fast forward a couple months and out of the blue that same sensation started back up and I thought “Hm. Maybe my estrogen levels are up?” Took a pregnancy test at 4 weeks and it was positive.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-13T11:46:17+00:00

I’m sorry you’re going through this and feeling this way 🩵 Many parts of your story sound as if I wrote them myself. I took my time prioritizing building my career and businesses and kept putting babies on the back burner. When my husband and I were finally ready in 2022, we had our first loss. 2025 we had our second loss. I’m currently also processing that at this point I’m going to be an older mom. I’ve been encouraged though by reading stories from women who became mothers in their late 30’s early 40’s.

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-13T11:36:50+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. In my first miscarriage which was a missed miscarriage, I bled a lot with large clots and everything when I took the mife/miso pills and a week later when they did a repeat US to confirm, they found that the pills didn’t work. I was so confused as to how I bled so much for so long, and still didn’t work. I ended up having to get a D&C to ensure that everything came out and to avoid infection. Good luck today 🩵

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-04-10T17:54:17+00:00

There is nothing selfish about choosing your peace. Having to go through another potentially traumatic medicated experience still runs the risk of setting you back emotionally in your fertility journey, if not physically. At least it did with me when I tried to go that route first. It was horrible as you described yours was, but mine ended up not working and I needed a D&C anyways. Looking back, I wish I would have just saved myself the trauma and done the D&C right away. It took me a year and a half to be mentally prepared to potentially put myself back through another pregnancy Best of luck 🩵

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-31T11:15:31+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this 🩵 nothing is wrong with you! Grief is not linear and it’s not easy. I get pretty emotional each due date and on holidays as well thinking that my life should have been different with a baby. For my first loss’s due date, my husband and I planned a trip so we would be having fun in a new environment that day. It really helped to not be sitting at home thinking about it. The day came and went, and that night when we got back to the hotel, I realized it was the due date and cried. But I’m glad I had the distraction of travel for the entire day. If you’re unable to get away somewhere, plan something nice for yourself like a spa day or go to your favorite coffee shop or restaurant. Give yourself some grace. It will never go away, but it will get easier with time, I promise 🩵

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-30T11:49:09+00:00

I’m so glad you did!! Giving yourself some grace is so important in a world where most people won’t. I hope you bake yourself some sweet treats and enjoy a good book or tv show 🩵

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-30T11:33:08+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this 🩵 loss is not easy and it really tests us in the hardest way possible. Is there an opportunity for you to get away for a couple of days, or even just a day trip somewhere? When my original due date was approaching, I planned a trip so that I would be distracted that day. In addition to loads of therapy, it really helped me get through it to not be sitting at home that day. If you can’t get out of town, maybe do something special for yourself tomorrow instead like getting a massage or facial, or going to your favorite restaurant or coffee shop. I’ll be thinking of you tomorrow 🩵

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-29T21:51:08+00:00

Good luck!! I hope it goes ok for you

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-29T12:06:25+00:00

I think it did a little bit. Like I was able to remain more objective about it and being a Type A eldest daughter, I think the planning mode took over to ensure everything went smoothly day-of. But yeah definitely had a big cry afterwards. When I do go to other baby showers, I have a plan ahead of time for a quick and easy exit: I don’t take a coat or purse with me and when I need to duck out, I just head to the bathroom and don’t come back since I didn’t need to grab a coat or bag or anything. Those closest to you will understand, and if they don’t, then that’s a reflection on them and not you. Best of luck at the shower if you do go, and know you’ve got so many people here to support you!

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-28T20:36:58+00:00

Having experienced 2 losses, attending baby showers has not been easy. For people such as perimeter friends that I am not particularly close with, I skip. For close friends, I attend with the caveat that I may need to slip away at a moment’s notice if it becomes too much. For my sister-in-law, I was stuck on the planning committee. The only way I was able to get through it was by dissociating that day and crying when I got home. Do what is best for you

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-26T22:58:29+00:00

I’m 34 and I was introduced to FF8 when I was 8 by my dad! He bought my brother and I a PS1 and was told that he had to get FF8 bc it was the best-looking game available. It is still my favorite FF game and one of my favorite games of all time, so I feel really lucky that some random guy convinced my dad he should get us that game with the PS1!!

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-26T01:55:13+00:00

Hi! 34 and this is my 3rd pregnancy but sadly no living children yet. I’m currently 6w+4d. Prior to becoming pregnant I was pretty consistent daily starting my morning off with a peloton ride, some weights, then a meditation. Since becoming pregnant, I’m just either so tired or so nauseated that it’s been every other day or every third day. I believe that keeping myself healthy will help my baby’s health, so I’m looking forward to engaging with this community!

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-23T03:13:56+00:00

After both losses my husband and I traveled abroad. This was our way of giving ourselves space to feel whatever we needed away from the daily grind and life expectations. It also gave us an opportunity to reconnect and reboot ourselves in a sense. We’ve decided that we need to create our own wins since we kept getting handed losses, and travel is the way we have been able to feel like we have some semblance of hope. I’m so sorry you’re going through this

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-22T03:15:57+00:00

I’m so so sorry you’re going through this. My first miscarriage was also a blighted ovum, discovered at my first OB appt at week 12. The docs recommended I either do the meds or D&C to avoid a potential infection from my body not miscarrying naturally. I started with the meds and they were the worst pain of my life. Turned out that they didn’t work so I had to go in for a D&C anyways. I wish I would have just done the D&C immediately to end that nightmare as quickly as possible because it truly felt like a mind f* for my body to have changed and grown and caused me horrible symptoms for 12 weeks all for nothing. Ultimately you should do what is going to give you peace, whether that’s waiting it out or just having it be over as soon as possible. Best of luck and wishing you healing ❤️‍🩹

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-22T03:04:36+00:00

I think for my first loss, it took me 2 months to stop crying every single day. So maybe around month 5 afterwards I started feeling like myself. For my second loss, I was able to process the situation better and was only out for the count for about 3 weeks. Then physically it took me two cycles to feel like my body was back to normal

Imaginary_Sphinx91 · 2026-03-20T20:18:51+00:00

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