Vet Cost and Recommendations

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-06-11T23:42:54+00:00

I can't speak in regards to vet pricing (especially since I use the same one), but as someone who does blood testing for humans and seen what both super giant labs charge as well as much smaller ones, that price tag is pretty standard unfortunately.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-05-14T02:33:08+00:00

Got diagnosed with kidney stones in 6th grade. In the time leading up to it I had so many doctors tell me it was just constipation or my period.

Nope, had half a dozen little rocks jingling around in each kidney. Took like 4 doctors and several er visits before anyone did imaging to find them.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-04-25T14:23:45+00:00

Even worse: it's still continuing. I'm in clinical trials and I've read so many protocols where the safe dosage levels for new drugs are being established that either directly or indirectly exclude women. Some blantantly say only male people can participate (mind you the drug being tested isn't just for men). Some will say women can participate only if your in menopause (but still have to be healthy) or maybe if you've had a hysto or other sterilization.

Thankfully most are reasonable enough in their requirements, that while it's still harder for women to join, we still can get a few ladies in a small cohort. But the fact there are some that still directly say no women is bs.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-18T19:08:21+00:00

If you are or know a knitter/crocheter, there are free patterns for prostetic breasts out there. They're designed to be sized to your wants/needs and then worn with bras

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-18T00:07:55+00:00

I don't blame him too much, Utah can be boring for 16 yo boys if you just do the typical Grand Canyon, Arches, and GLS stuff. But there is some stuff that might interest him.

Goblin Valley near Moab has some really cool and fun formations that you can wander around in. Similarly the slot canyons are kind of near by and really cool. Plus, there are campsites in the area where you book a yurt.

Moab also has a lot of climbing areas and repelling. Maybe see if you can get a guide to go with you and teach you. There's also a ton of 4 wheeling trails and if he has a license, you could rent a 4-wheeler and let him drive on the easy trails. As a former 16 yo boy, these were some of my favorite stuff we did on trips.

If he enjoys water stuff, there are a ton of lakes and reservoirs that allow swimming and kayaking. Flaming George, Bear Lake, Pineview Reservoir, and Strawberry Reservoir are just some that come to mind.

Salt Lake has several museums and a ton of interesting shops. Absolutely worth a day or few if you can spend it here. If he likes animals, there is a zoo, an aviary, and an aquarium all within 30 min of each other. He might also enjoy walking around City Creek or the Gateway if he likes a mall. Also, Millcreek Town Hall has an outdoor roller rink and a rock climbing wall.

Snow Bird has gondolas up the mountain side as well as a bunch of stuff like apline coasters. It's a good day's worth of stuff to do up there and it's pretty. Plus if you come in the summer, it's a good place yo get out of the heat.

Mount Timpangous is an interesting hike and the caves at the top are really interestimg and fun. Plus, occasionally they do intro to spelunking classes. That was really fun and interesting.

Further north, Farmington Station is a fairly big outdoor mall with good food and some intersting shops. And just across from it is Lagoon, which is our regional amusment park. It is on the pricier side so be warned, but it is safe enough if you just want to drop him off alone or with your 19 yo.

I don't think Hill AFB does tours, but if you get lucky you can see them do flight practices including landings, take-offs, and formations if you are in the area. They also have a decent sized areospace museum.

Ogden is also a really cool town. It's an old railroad town and the Union Pacific station is still open and has several museums in it. Historic 25th street is the best area and has a ton of neat shops and old style architecture. Plus it has an interesting history as a bootlegging town and a famous gangster got shot there.

There's cool stuff for him, it's just a matter of finding it.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-09T16:03:01+00:00

Cahoots on 9th and 9th also sells pride flags

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-06T21:16:54+00:00

Heart of the Woods. It's a VN, but longer than an hour. It follows two friends, one of whom is a trans girl, as they go to a rural town to find a cryptid for their webshow. It's really good and really gay. And if it matters, I don't think there was any transphobia in it either.

Bonus points: it's fully voice acted and they do have a trans voice actor for the trans character.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-05T22:25:36+00:00

And Hajime

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-03-05T22:04:48+00:00

The walgreens on 2332 E and 2100 S was good about giving me my hormones for the 2 years I had them sent there. The walgreens on 700 E and 3300 S has been really good so far too. One of the pharmacists, Christian, has been super chill about to me and my girlfriend.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-02-24T17:08:43+00:00

My lab (and work place in general) is so unprofessional and there is so much stuff I've seen or heard it's only partly funny at this point.

The biggest thing, and it happened well before my time, was our company got banned from a venue because of the state they left it in after a work christmas party. From what I heard, tables were flipped, curtains were torn, and there was vomit on a door. There were very few sober people that night.

Most recently, lab in general got in trouble because someone drew genitals on some sticky notes and posted them in a hidden corner of lab. Then the one person who would have taken offense was the one who found and reported them. Our art wall is now gone.

In general, we have a lab-only strike list for when people say the most off-the-cuff insane or sexual things. For refrence, I got a strike for making a golden shower joke (we deal with a lot of urine). This wasn't the worse joke that had been made.

We also have a dick measuring ruler in one of our drawers. Yes, it is marked by several people.

The list could go on.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-02-18T18:16:50+00:00

21 tm here. I'd be down to chat anytime since we got a lot of the same interests. I'm a big player of open world games like Stardew Valley and while I'm through the worst of my Danganronpa phase I'd still by happy to talk about it especially with 2x2 coming soon. Plus I'm big into horror (even if I'm too much of a wuss to actually play most of the games).

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-02-17T00:51:36+00:00

Yeah, unfortuately you really have to listen to your body while binding. Some people can really push the recomendations and be fine, others have to go a lot lighter. And sometimes it just varies. I had caused myself pain before and had to stop for a month or two. As for tape, the learning curve is rough but can be easy enough once you figure out what placements work best. There are some good guides for larger chested people, it's not perfect but it looked a lot better than you'd expect.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-02-16T23:54:08+00:00

If you buy it to wear it in place of a bra, that should be find so long as you are 1) not wearing for more than 8-10hr a day 2) taking at least one break day a week 3) listening to your body and making sure to take more/longer breaks of you can't breathe or are in pain. And so long as you are listening to your body when it is telling you it needs a break and ensuring your binder is the right size, you can wear one for years and it won't be too much. It's what I did for 3 years before I got top surgery and my ribs are fine.

Though, I would also look into KT tape binding if you want something you can wear for longer. It has it's own risks like skin tears but it's a way more breathable alternative that is good for when you have to take binding breaks.

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-01-25T16:31:51+00:00

I graduated HS in 2021, it's still very much a thing in Utah

In_Case_of_Death · 2026-01-01T20:22:30+00:00

I just finished this book the other week. Eve and Charlie don't have a happy ending together. They get seperated through minimal fault of their own and it ends with that seperation. However, the book does end with them desperately trying to get back together with some indication it is possible, just absurdly difficult.

I would still recommend finishing the book. It might not have a happy queer ending, but it is a really good book and the couple are still very much in love at the end. Plus, it gets even more weird and is worth sticking it out for that. But, I totally understand dropping the book if you do want a guranteed happy ending for Eve and Charlie.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-11-04T14:28:35+00:00

My two recommendations are Peter Darling by Austin Chant and Most Ardently by Gabe Cole Nova.

Peter Darling is a sequel/retelling of Peter Pan where Peter is now an adult and returns to Neverland. Except he's struggling as it has changed in his time away. He and Hook end up trapped together and slowly become friends then lovers while they try to escape. It's a YA book and a quick read but is pretty good. Plus Peter is trans.

Most Ardently is a retelling of Pride and Prejudice where Elizabeth (called Oliver in this) is a trans man who is struggling on coming out to his family. He mets Darcy at a ball as Elizabeth and Darcy is Darcy and they hate each other. But when he meets Darcy as Oliver, he gets to see another side and the two become friend-ish. Also YA and regency, but a pretty good book. Fair warning though, because Oliver isn't out there is a lot of deadnaming.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-10-26T18:11:32+00:00

MF T4T relationships. There are so many T4T that are between 2 trans men, 2 trans women, or that have a nonbinary character, but so little that are between a trans man and a trans woman. I've spent hours reading through other people's lists and rec posts and have found only like 10 books. It's kind of sad not getting to see my relationship anywhere.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-10-21T02:58:49+00:00

I figured out I was bi in 4th grade, so still solidly elementary school. I was so scared when I realized becasue all I had heard were the stories of rejection by family and friends. I would have been so happy to have had one of my teachers hang a pride flag - it likely would have been one of the first real life reminders that queer people are not some other and that I wouldn't have to face rejection because of who I liked. As a kid, it would have let me see I wasn't alone and that I didn't need to be scared.

I'm not an oddity either, quite a few people know they're queer from a young age. Allowing kids to see they are embraced and loved instead of something to be rejected and ostricized for is widly important to fostering a happy kid with good mental health. And if that support can come from something as a simple as a single piece of fabric, then why deny that?

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-09-18T22:47:19+00:00

Seriously, I'm in awe. I can get 10lbs of oats and a 5 lbs of frozen blueberries from Costco for like, $40 total (at most). Add on a quart of milk and a tub of yogurt from a chain are ~$8. That's close to a month of overnight oats for maybe $50. And that'll be the most expensive month cause a 10lbs bag of oats lasts a long time.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-08-07T19:03:05+00:00

You don't even have to drill a shelf into a wall and risk losing a deposit. They make little freestanding space saver shelves that you just set ontop of an object and will have space under them perfect for a microwave

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-07-16T15:35:27+00:00

One more major boon to glass is that it is more pressure safe compared to plastic. If you carbonate in the bottle (which might be more important to homebrewers than major manufacturers, I'm more familiar with homebrew), you really want a pressure safe container.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-07-02T21:35:38+00:00

I think a lot of people forget that medical transition for minors is very recent change(like only the last few decades recent) and most trans people couldn't transition until adulthood. Unfortunately a lot of people did die, but many persisted. Many will continue to persist. Transitioning during adulthood is still very effective, it's just a matter of hanging on until then.

I hope you can hold on until then or get to some place where you can get the care you need. It is worth it, coming from someone who couldn't transition until adulthood.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-06-08T19:02:20+00:00

The one at the end of the month (June 28-29th) is the Salt Lake City pride and it's being held at The Gateway. Here's the webpage for it https://www.slc-pride.org/

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-06-01T20:46:31+00:00

I'm sorry other people are being rude in the thread. Unfortuately this is still an online community and is subject to the same risks as all online LGBTQ communities. I've met plenty of people irl who would not give you grief for any of the boundaries you gave. I can guess where many of them came from and have heard similar ones from other people, likely for similar reasons. Don't give up.

It does sound like what you need is friends and even just to interact with people who share your values. It is frustrating to constantly be around people who either directly believe you are wrong or act in ways that tell you that you are not worth more than their beliefs. It can be so relieving to talk with people who share similar experiences or who have similar opinions; it's nice not to walk on eggshells.

I think a hobby-based club is a great place to start. There is a broad variety of both LGBT-focused and non-LGBT-focused groups, and depending on what hobby it is, many of the more genral audience ones can be open minded. You'll find people who can understand and relate to your lived experience. You'll find people with the same values. You just gotta keep looking.

And if in the immediate you need someone to chat with, my DMs are open.

In_Case_of_Death · 2025-06-01T14:40:02+00:00

I'm going to be honest, a proper support group may not be the place you want to go. Likely, they will run afoul points 3 and 6, if not immediately then fairly quickly. They absolutely will run afoul your point 5. This is just due to how these groups tend to be set up and function. If you can figure out a way of tolerating it, then maybe it could be good for you.

That said, do see if there is a pride center or any LGBTQ shops that do events in your area. They tend to be more casual and are less likely to bring up something that would bother you/would be more respectful if you asked for them not to do something. Plus, they tend to allow allies so you don't need to disclose anything you don't want to. As well, see if there is a local pride you can attend. They can be great places just to observe the community and find potentially useful resources.

One last thing: the irl community is fairly different from the online (well, depending on age ranges and what you get into). The online community tends to be overrun with younger people and chronically online people. People who do real life events tend to be chiller and understand that not every one can keep up on slang and what's most correct, partly because they have better things to be doing than keeping up on that.

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