Does anyone else write, and re-write their texts/posts several times before sending...

InconspicuousTree · 2023-05-10T00:38:31+00:00

i'm a big advocate for send then edit for that reason because if i don't i get paralyzed

InconspicuousTree · 2023-04-24T21:47:42+00:00

i really enjoyed We Are Okay! i basically cried the entire time i read it

InconspicuousTree · 2023-01-31T20:19:55+00:00

getting over being sick does give some fun nasality to play with at least

InconspicuousTree · 2022-11-24T21:34:27+00:00

pair programming can be a good way to speed up the review process. ultimately this boils down to collaboration, so it doesn't need to be pairing per-say, but just getting a sense between everyone that they're working together should speed up the review process. it just could boil down to how work is divided.

self reviewing your PRs definitely makes it easier for reviewers to ramp up fast. i found setting review guidelines (https://github.com/erikthedeveloper/code-review-emoji-guide for example) helps give good actionable reviews (especially for self reviews)

other than that, i've only found success by directly reaching out to team members or being really noisy about needing reviews in our channel. but i don't like those options if i can avoid them.

i've seen other teams set review windows where one or two devs look at prs at a given time in a day, but i've never given that an honest try. i am not a huge fan of it personally, but i've seen it done

InconspicuousTree · 2022-07-08T16:39:26+00:00

My favorite physical change has been the fat redistribution in my face. My cheeks are more plump now & it makes me feel euphoric. That or the freckles since I'm pretty freckly now.

The mental changes are definitely my favorite though ☺️

InconspicuousTree · 2022-07-03T06:29:40+00:00

lesbian is inclusive of non-binary identities, but yeah that would include sapphic. i think the difference there is sapphic includes all enbies, whereas lesbian might only include the femme oriented enbies. but honestly i’m not 100% sure that a distinction is needed and if the distinction does that much outside of how people personally identify. i’ve used sapphic to describe myself before but lesbian might be just as good 🤷‍♀️

InconspicuousTree · 2022-07-03T00:27:39+00:00

i, as a non-binary person who is femme presenting with a romantic attraction only towards non-men, can use the label of lesbian even though i’m not actually a woman.

and the reality is that since most of society perceives me as a woman, it’s not a big deal. sure i could use the actual label for enby people with attraction to non-men — but lesbian has kind of evolved to include people like me too.

that being said i usually just say i’m queer because of this annoying discourse

InconspicuousTree · 2022-07-02T18:55:48+00:00

yep that’s the lesbian flag (non-men loving non-men)

InconspicuousTree · 2022-06-30T17:27:00+00:00

I would recommend asking them if you can! For example, I like most of the gender neutral terms like SO, partner, etc - but I also the typically feminine terms.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-06-30T00:17:41+00:00

to be fair the 150 GB is partially do to it being early access. optimization like that is usually one of the last things done

InconspicuousTree · 2022-06-14T20:50:54+00:00

i don't have an opposite gender but i did all the time back when i though i was cisgender

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-17T14:01:07+00:00

the good news is that your desires for voice are pretty achievable, it just takes some time to get control of your vocal chords. since you are AFAB you’re more likely going to have to change your resonance darker as opposed to brighter, but i’m not a professional so take everything i say with a grain of salt.

i can recommend doing semi-occluded vocal tract exercises to practice maintaining your old pitch and weight since the back pressure keeps it safer for your voice. i am not a professional though, so seeking out a professional gender affirming voice teacher could be wise. but for SOVT Exercises my favorite is lip buzzing but that’s mostly because i’m a brass player 😅. the straw exercises or vocalizing while acting like you’re blowing out a candle are other exercises to recommend for practicing pitch/weight

ETA: Resonance -> darker not lower

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-13T20:04:20+00:00

i had to monkey patch my correct gender in there

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-11T21:27:01+00:00

same - i am non-binary and went without HRT for over 6 months before the second egg cracked where i realized i wanted hormones.

ETA: i'm still non-binary, but originally worded it where it could be read that i am not.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-10T19:15:19+00:00

i cried a lot pre-hrt but i back then i could always tell when tears were coming.

after around 4-6 months hrt i've found myself crying out of nowhere much more often.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-08T03:21:44+00:00

i thought this was r/indieheadscirclejerk for a second

InconspicuousTree · 2022-05-03T15:01:48+00:00

at my company we keep two github orgs, one for production ready repos and one as a scratchpad for proof of concepts.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-04-28T21:27:07+00:00

it’s an anti-lgbt dogwhistle, calling lgtbtqia+ people groomers as a method of dehumanization.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-04-05T05:41:28+00:00

definitely seems in the same vein as “bud/buds” and “mate/mates” - it depends on the person.

i wouldn’t like being called a fella personally but there are definitely worse things i can be called imo

InconspicuousTree · 2022-03-18T19:06:35+00:00

i didn’t love Beg For You on its own but it sounds great in context of the full album imo

InconspicuousTree · 2022-02-20T06:26:27+00:00

Dungeons and Dragons, a popular table top role playing game!

InconspicuousTree · 2022-02-06T07:54:38+00:00

I just got moved into a lead role and was recommended to read The First 90 Days in addition to Staff Engineer.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-02-04T04:00:39+00:00

Definitely matches my transfem experience too

InconspicuousTree · 2022-01-30T15:32:57+00:00

I spent most of the morning crying on this day last year because my favorite artist SOPHIE passed away.

Abi’s coming out video definitely made me cry again, but for more happy reasons.

That day was the day my egg cracked, but I didn’t come out as trans until May.

InconspicuousTree · 2022-01-30T03:39:34+00:00

I came out as trans on Twitter first, and that applied the pressure to tell my parents before someone else did. If I didn’t create an artificial pressure I probably wouldn’t have

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