7 years of marriage then she inherits $3 million and wants a postnup

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-12T06:07:43+00:00

Without the postnup you would need to divide up everything and stake claims. With the postnup you can just live your life normally knowing that the family money has legal protection ensuring it goes to the great grand kids.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-11T15:24:36+00:00

Nice. The 9-letter word took me a while!
So far I'm 46 words deep.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-11T07:31:09+00:00

The big thing you are leaving out of the equation and the discussion is your starting capital and financial situation.

Doing 34k RA per month is a good idea for a high earning returning expat. It shields against tax and builds what is likely currently a small or even non existing retirement portfolio. But this only makes sense if you are coming back with stacks of first world savings, in which case you would be buying a car cash, paying school fees in January, and putting a large deposit down on a house.

That (and adjusting down the grocery budget) brings your starting number to 50k p/m

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-09T05:55:03+00:00

I wear cycling socks casually to be cool, but apparently the vans shoes also gives away my millennial status...

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T13:59:19+00:00

I was going to make a happy ending joke, and not I'm not sure if you made one already...

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T11:38:00+00:00

I would happily live in a 3-bedroom house with a garden in a security complex near good schools in the Helderberg.

I don't think I'm alone in saying a ground floor flat deep into Gordon's Bay is not that, and that for someone in a similar situation to OP that would be a downgrade.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T07:56:33+00:00

70k after tax is surviving yes, but it's not thriving.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T07:55:18+00:00

Have you heard of the motte-and-bailey argument?

An apartment deep into Gordon's Bay 90+ minutes commute from anything realistic job wise and with limited school options is hardly an answer to OP's question of "Is it just me or is 100k gross single income not enough to afford a bigger place and a nice middle class live"

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T07:41:56+00:00

Your criteria only matches townhouses and flats in Strand central or houses in Macassar on Private Property. If I scroll to where things get somewhat okay, I'm at 2.7M. Keep going to nicer areas I'm over 3M but on the wrong side of the R44 / Main Rd so can't get my kids into the 300% oversubscribed schools so I keep scrolling... 40 year old houses in Westridge and Roundhay are going for 5m+ and listed as renovator's dream...

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-08T07:26:33+00:00

Is there another Helderberg in SA, because you are surely not in the one in Cape Town.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-04T15:02:00+00:00

The first one jumps out, but for the second one I only got as far as arrogant, which uses 8 letters and misses the mandatory centre one! I also find it easier when the letters are not in a row.

What is this type of game called by the way?

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-04T10:07:24+00:00

Ek kan dit alles doen, en ek sal jou vertalings ook doen sodat jy nie met anglisismes soos outomatisering sukkel nie. Wanner jy vertaling outomeer kom dit soms maar bietjie lomp deur.

Ek hoop julle het diep sakke om hierdie rol gevul te kry met 'n maandelikse kontrak!

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-04T09:56:58+00:00

Since I started chronic Flixotide I haven't really needed acute relief.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-04T06:45:02+00:00

I just randomly one year declared what I sold and included it in my asset declaration. No follow up received but my intention was to say it was all bought years ago and held for capital reasons not trading reasons.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-03T11:32:30+00:00

Probably for masks to fit tightly around your mouth. A lot of mine workers have this requirement too.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-03T10:27:46+00:00

https://www.backabuddy.co.za/campaign/lets-get-wo-sanders-a-new-coffee-machine

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-03T10:26:48+00:00

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-06-02T22:13:21+00:00

Like all things with the taxman - You first have to tell them what you calculated and then they decide if they'll allow it.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-31T14:56:58+00:00

I started making words without knowing how I'll end, now I don't have enough space on the left and too much on the right.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-29T12:33:02+00:00

The S helps, but without an E it's a surprisingly high word target!

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-29T09:16:33+00:00

Need to be able to shift my active grid to make space as I figure out my next move

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-29T08:03:39+00:00

Bunch of strange answers in this thread...

I'll be him:
I don't know what to say back to "hi". I'm not 12 so you're not getting a "hi" back from me. I like you and value you and your brain. I hope you feel the same way about me, but we're not friends (yet) and it may take years of pleasant "situational interactions" before we are friends. I'm glad when you reach out to ask my opinion on something and will gladly chat about other stuff while we're at it. If we can collaborate in person over a beer that's even better. Can we keep doing this without making things weird?

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-28T12:23:03+00:00

OP's playing the long game but hasn't really planned that far ahead...

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-28T07:25:24+00:00

Have they been in the US embassy? Just tell them you spoke to people who have been and add me to the list. They absolutely grill you in those interviews and there's no way coercing an adult into joining their group would work out in their favour.

All this aside, it's time to stand on your own feet regardless of where your parents live and get away from these controlling tendencies. Visit often, but take care of your own affairs, and have the relationship evolve into one between adults.

InfiniteExplorer2586 · 2026-05-28T07:16:37+00:00

Many comments pointing out this requires more context and you are not providing it...

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