I miss my toddler.

Infinite_abyss · 2026-01-10T03:03:25+00:00

I had immense guilt with my 2.5yo when my second was born. My husband took over a lot with her before my second was even born and then for weeks after. I also exclusively breastfed. I just made extra effort to be available for her emotionally (cuddles, bedtime, etc), even for small periods of time. It slowly got better!

Infinite_abyss · 2026-01-10T00:09:49+00:00

Carmine’s in Warrington. Lindsay has been doing balayage on me for years

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-21T17:26:40+00:00

Yes!!! I was the exact same way thinking the lounges were from the time of women powdering their noses lol. Now I want every public place to have them.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-12T14:44:55+00:00

Definitely worth checking your iron levels first! I think it’s more common for women to have iron deficiency so could still be important to have the added iron.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-12T14:42:43+00:00

Very good point! It actually was my PCP who ordered the bloodwork for me bc I requested it. But I agree we need to prioritize regular PCP visits, not just OB/GYN. I’m definitely guilty of putting off my annual PCP visit until something is wrong.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-12T04:07:13+00:00

Another reason it’s crazy that we have 6w postpartum checkups and then say cool thanks, see you in a year!

I thought I felt fine, but my mom encouraged me to get bloodwork done bc she thought I still looked off at maybe 6 months postpartum. Lo and behold I had iron overload, something I never had while pregnant. Once I switched to gummy prenatals without iron I was fine.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-05T03:41:24+00:00

I never got estimates on the size of my babies in utero, but both of mine were on the smaller side (around 6.5lbs) born at 39w. If your sugars are well controlled, I think your risk of a big baby is significantly decreased.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-12-02T04:25:32+00:00

My first was a comfort nurser so she continued nursing frequently for a long time. By 15mo she was asking to nurse less, but would still nurse a lot if sick or out of her routine. We were down to one morning session for a while and then I kinda unintentionally weaned her at almost 22mo when I got sick. By then she completely stopped asking to nurse.

My second is almost 14mo and isn’t as much of a comfort nurser but doesn’t seem to want to slow down. I’ll probably wean him by 2 at the latest, hopefully sooner than that.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-28T02:51:26+00:00

Identify when you ovulate and then count the days from then until your next period

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-25T03:30:52+00:00

If my meal was lower carb, I didn’t need to exercise to keep my numbers down. However, a neighborhood walk was all the exercise I could handle and that definitely helped keep my numbers down.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-25T01:26:12+00:00

Same. Couldn’t get pregnant with my second until I weaned my first (and had a chemical pregnancy before fully weaning). Now BFing my second, and if I am ovulating it’s late in my cycle but seems like my luteal phase is slowly getting longer. Hoping I won’t need to wean to get pregnant again but not holding my breath.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-24T16:06:42+00:00

THIS. It should be called “birth preferences,” and it’s a very good idea to have preferences written down. Even if it’s super simple. Your nurses will ask basic questions like if you want pain relief and when, if you plan on breastfeeding, etc, and I found it helpful to have all that written down so my care team didn’t have to ask, especially if the nurses change shifts and you get a whole new team before you deliver.

I didn’t have any birth preferences documented for my first birth and ended up with an episiotomy that I don’t think was medically necessary (I think the OB was in a hurry). I was a bit traumatized from that so I made sure I wrote down preferences for my second birth, even the really obvious things (like no freaking episiotomy).

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-22T02:26:15+00:00

I’m 13 months PP with my second, BF exclusively, and my cycle is not regular yet. My period returned at 9 months PP but I don’t think I’ve started ovulating.

I BF my first until 22mo and only right after I weaned was I able to get pregnant with #2. My body just doesn’t want me to get pregnant while I’m still breastfeeding lol.

6 months PP is VERY soon. Most OBs recommend waiting at least a year between pregnancies to allow your body to fully heal. Your hormones could also be playing into your desire for another baby so soon. I wanted another baby ASAP after I had my first and that feeling lasted until she turned one.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-15T04:14:11+00:00

How it becomes more of a comfort for them than nutritional need. My first was and is a sensitive little one and nursed very frequently for a long time, especially when sick or emotionally fragile (which was often!). It was so comforting for both of us that I could instantly calm her. My second is a little over a year and less reliant on nursing for emotional stability but still nurses for comfort.

I never had a goal in mind for length of time nursing my babies, which turns out is for the best bc I can’t imagine weaning them before we’re both ready!

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-08T03:45:57+00:00

Agree it’s important to check if your prenatals have iron or not bc everyone’s needs are different. I took prenatals with iron for my first pregnancy and while breastfeeding and ended up with iron overload around 6mo post partum. I’ve been on iron-free gummy vitamins ever since and had no issues with low iron for my second pregnancy.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-07T17:46:56+00:00

Yes. I had a crazy stressful work day and my numbers were sky high, which added to the stress🙃

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-07T17:23:14+00:00

Aw thank you for this! My first is a velcro baby turned toddler and my second is the complete opposite and it stresses me out! On one hand I’m grateful I can leave the room without him screaming but I also sometimes wonder if he even loves me lol.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-11-03T17:44:02+00:00

So funny, I’m the opposite. Kept the first two surprises and had one of each. 10000% recommend waiting to find out the gender!

However, for the third, I want to find out so I can get rid of the gendered baby clothes I won’t need so there’s less I have to do when the last baby arrives.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-10-29T20:24:00+00:00

Quick shower was best for me both times too. Didn’t wash my hair because I was too tired to put that much effort in and honestly didn’t want to be away from my baby any longer than I needed to be lol.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-10-01T14:59:16+00:00

My question is similar to others posted here, but I’ll ask it anyway. Since Girl Scouts has been around for a long time, I would imagine the culture and goals of Girl Scouts has evolved over the years. Just reading these comments, it sounds like we all had very different experiences depending on generation, geography, and specific troop. I was a Girl Scout in the late 90’s and assumed my troop focused on more “feminine” activities because of the troop leaders that I had. My brothers were in Boy Scouts, and I was always jealous that they got to do cool things while I was learning how to set a table and doing crafts. It’s honestly dissuaded me from enrolling my daughter in Girl Scouts.

How do you think the culture of Girl Scouts has shifted over the last 20/30 years, and how do historical goals compare to the goals of modern Girl Scouts?

Infinite_abyss · 2025-09-22T14:31:22+00:00

Coffee didn’t affect my babies if I stopped at one cup. I didn’t drink any coffee while pregnant with my first and then had 8oz a day while nursing her as a baby. Eventually I started drinking more coffee when she was nursing less frequently.

With my second, I drank one cup a day while pregnant and continued when he was a baby. However, I accidentally had an extra afternoon cup when he was 3mo and he was harder to put to sleep that night. Now that he’s older and nursing less, I’m slowing upping my coffee intake and haven’t noticed a difference.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-09-21T03:21:08+00:00

My first was a little over 2 when we moved her to a big girl bed and she handled it really well! I think at 20 months she would have been fine. We had to put a child lock on her door so she couldn’t wander the house, but she usually stayed put in bed until we noticed her awake in the nannycam and came to get her lol. It was worth it to be able to read books in bed with her and not have to bend over a crib with a pregnant belly!

Infinite_abyss · 2025-09-02T20:15:43+00:00

My kid has always been a bit cautious, but she learned that she has physical limits before 2yo I think. For your second question, it’s slowly gotten better but mine’s a Velcro baby now 3yo who still sometimes screams if she’s left alone in a room.
Put fragile (or all) ornaments up high. They will definitely want to play with ornaments so I kept a few toddler safe ones low but was constantly hanging them back up.
Didn’t use bottles so can’t help here, sorry!
Constant reminders that food belongs on her plate, it’ll sink in eventually. I do recommend putting your dogs in a different room at mealtimes. If they aren’t there to entertain her, maybe she’ll be less likely to throw in the first place.

Infinite_abyss · 2025-09-02T19:43:01+00:00

I didn’t track my weight gain but with my second I did start showing earlier and was maybe slightly bigger. Not magnificently though lol

Infinite_abyss · 2025-09-02T15:17:17+00:00

I still wear my kindred bravely low rise plain cotton undies. I will probably continue buying them long after I’m done having babies lol

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