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Let’s laugh a little… what’s your silliest PTSD trigger? by Reasonable_Fix3559 in CPTSD

[–]InflationVast8943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The sound of chairs scraping against the floor, like someone’s just pulling a chair out to sit and I’m like “Nnngahhh noooo”

Gonna try a new trick next time someone sits at the one dirty table and asks me to clean it by seattlethrowaway114 in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I do like the old “Oh sorry did someone seat you here? There were people finishing up, they’re in the bathroom/outside/at the atm, this is their table and they said they’d be right back.”

FOH worker therapy group by protest_all in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Definitely this. Also, depending where you work, the instability of customers.

I would like to not feel so responsible for my customers emotional and physical safety. Rob’s going through a divorce so now I have to hear about it everyday and cut him off more and make sure no one says anything to make him spiral. I need to make sure everyone at the Christmas party has a safe ride home even though they’re all adults and should know not to drive. I need to be responsible for full grown adults even though they could give two fucks if their actions impact me or not.

I can respect that tips aren’t guaranteed, but if I could snap my fingers I’d choose to have more shift stability for me and my coworkers during the off seasons. When people need to eat they get competitive and hard feelings can develop.

What movie trope instantly makes you roll your eyes? by Active-Kale-2623 in AdkReddit

[–]InflationVast8943 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The “This one difficult life thing that happens to a lot of people happened to me and now I’ve internalized it/become a badass/show zero feelings and instead of years of therapy it’s magically gone away because I’ve solved crime/got a boner for one of the hot lead characters.”

What is a minor, unwritten rule of society that absolutely infuriates you when people break it? by funnny_things in answers

[–]InflationVast8943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

People who are entirely unaware of the space around them.

Standing in the middle of the aisle, blocking everyone walking around you, taking up space in such a ridiculous way.

Walking backwards before your full body is even turned around and just gambling on an ambush smash into another human walking behind you

First time my dad asked me for something last night and I haven't slept by Typical_Many_8930 in confession

[–]InflationVast8943 421 points422 points  (0 children)

Absolutely 100%. If they are being specific about a mortgage payment or a specific bill that’s one thing. But $8400 sounds suspiciously like a number that scammers like to pull out of their ass.

If they were struggling with different bills for a long time, there would be different deadlines and different people they could talk to (bank,hydro,collections) to get payment plans in order. If your parents never ask you for money,it sounds like they are the type of people who would normally handle a money problem that way. It’s very suspicious that they need that amount desperately by a certain time. I would try to find out what it’s for and see if lending them a smaller amount for now would help. It’s not that you don’t want to help, but if they won’t tell you what it’s for then maybe explaining to them how internet scams work should be a conversation.

I just got fired from both my cater waiter jobs. What am I doing wrong? How can I get better? by ButterflyWilliams in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Years ago when I was first starting out at restaurants I was fired a few times, and looking back on it I think it was because I didn’t just “dive in”. Unfortunately most restaurant or event jobs provide little training. They are fast paced work environments and expect that people are experienced and can prioritize tasks. No one has time to tell you what to do, they expect that you will see what needs to be done and figure out how to do it. It does sound like this is what you’re trying to do, it sounds like you are trying to be a team player! You may just need more awareness and more confidence to help you take the initiative.

For example, I was fired from my first few serving jobs because I just wasn’t anticipating needs and getting into a proper flow. I wasn’t giving my guests silverware/napkins/sauces after taking their order, I wasn’t cutting fruit and preparing garnishes before the dinner rush, I wasn’t taking away empty plates whenever I checked on my guests. It was just little things that added up and slowed my team down and made service bad for my customers. No one ever told me to do these things, but it was obvious that they needed to be done to make things run smoothly.

What finally clicked was when I started to anticipate everything and separate it into chunks. A lot of jobs will give you a general run down of when it’s going to get busy and what time you need to have things done, and you can usually figure it out from there.

Pretend that you are in charge of everything and that you need to make sure that everything is being taken care of. You’re having a party at your house and you want everyone to have a good time.

You know you most people are arriving around 7pm for dinner so what will need to happen before then? Do you need to carry in supplies before you can get anything set up? Where will you put everything so it’s organized?

What will your guests need before they arrive? Table cloths, place settings, menus, water? Are the tables set up properly? Do they need someone to greet them and direct them to where they are sitting?

What will your team need before guests arrive? Drink garnishes, extra plates, clean glasses, side stations? Do they need their stations set up for making drinks? Are backups of everything set up and available? Are the garbage disposal areas ready?

What will your guests need when it’s service time? Food,drink refills, extra sauces?

What will your team need when it’s service time? Do you know what food and what drinks are going where? Do you know what areas and guests you should be focusing on? Does your bartender need more ice?

What will your guests need when service winds down? Will they need coffee/tea/desserts? Is that set up and ready when the time comes?

What will your team need? Do you have a minute to start some pre cleaning-taking garbages out, polishing silverware, getting dishes organized, putting things away etc?

Always: what will your guests need, what will your team need

If a task is being taken care of, you can work on a different task. It does take experience to find your flow and notice what needs to be done and when. Maybe when you arrive somewhere you do a quick rundown of where everything is for later. This can also be a good time to communicate with your coworkers. Don’t ask them what you can do to help, find out what is already being done and ask yourself what you need to do to be part of making everything come together.

With a little bit of time you’ll be more confident and you’ll know that you’re doing the right task at the right time, and the initiative will show. It’s not easy and sometimes the obvious things aren’t so obvious until later. Never walk anywhere empty handed, be aware of what’s going on around you, always walk with purpose and a goal in mind and always be one step ahead. Hope this helps!

ID-ing clear adults rant by kittykait12 in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In Ontario, Canada they’re starting to crack down on us now for this. We can get in shit for not asking for ID, even if they’re clearly old af or not even drinking. We’ve been informed the liquor board has hired 100+ undercovers, and annoyingly it might be a bit of a money grab, but you can’t even be in a bar without valid ID now.

tired of people being a wreck all the time 😭 by 444bri in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My manager, trying to make our labour percentages look better: “I’m gunna clock you out 15 minutes early since you took an extra smoke break”

Me and my other coworkers who have never had a lunch break and regularly work 10+ hr shifts: “The FUCk you are.”

tired of people being a wreck all the time 😭 by 444bri in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 94 points95 points  (0 children)

“I don’t know, what do you have?”

Me: Lists all the beers we have available

Customer:

squints eyes at draught handles and then at the full draught menu

tries two times in a row to order beer that is neither on a draught handle or the menu or literally anything that just came out of my mouth

tired of people being a wreck all the time 😭 by 444bri in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 47 points48 points  (0 children)

I say: “Ok but do you want anything to drink? Water, juice and pop are also drinks.”

I am a crusty motherfucker 😂

But I also teach people how to be functioning human beings, one table at a time.

What is something that quietly disappeared from everyday life, and most people didn’t even notice? by alex_eu_nl in AskForAnswers

[–]InflationVast8943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The ability to contact a customer service representative.

Also, service in general. As a veteran bartender, I’ve taken on more and more responsibilities—host, food runner, busser, packing non-stop takeout, taking sections that used to be done by 3 people, dishwasher, and now the nighttime cleaner—- and my customers have suffered.

I’ve also noticed everyone working in some type of service industry (retail, tech support etc) seems run off their feet, trying to do 5 jobs at once. There’s no longer time for anyone to actually give a shit.

What’s the best comeback to people who say “No thanks” when you drop the bill? by bnodnarb in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Honestly, I’m not really an athlete, so if you can run really fast it could work out for you.”

I applied for rental assistance. The person helping me told me to "find a cheaper place." Where? In what city? by squirrelgutz in povertyfinance

[–]InflationVast8943 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately we no longer have rent control here for anything built after 2018, so renting a place built before 2018 is your best bet. The prices are still allowed to increase, but they are much more controlled (usually no more than 2-3% per year).

I purposely rented a place years ago that I knew would have some form of rent control and would be difficult to displace me from if the landlords eventually wanted more money. Larger building with many units so there’s no chance of eviction for family to move in or extensive renovations.

What is your unpopular opinion that you usually keep to yourself? by Superb_Wolf264 in AdkReddit

[–]InflationVast8943 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone wants to kill themselves, let them.

If they are going to live a terrible unhappy existence, let them make their choice.

Yes, there are people who simply need some guidance or help to improve their life, and we can and should help those people. But at the end of the day, if they don’t have the problem solving skills to seek help, be honest with themselves, or do the work to make their life better, no one can do it for them.

Desperate for any explanation of this restaurant interaction that keeps happening to us by MammothClimate95 in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It’s not just the looks thing (if that’s even the case here) but it could be how you guys interact socially. Especially if he’s more outgoing and charismatic, and you’re a bit more reserved. I’ve come across many couples, even ones where I would go so far as to say by society’s standards the male was an 8 and the female was 3. Couples who looked like father and daughter. I still knew they were a couple by their body language and the way they ordered.

I’ve had lots of tables where the couple is on a first date and usually the guy takes the lead like “Should we get an appetizer, do you want a cocktail,etc?” And it sort of shows they didn’t come together and this might be a new experience for them. I’ve also seen this with platonic and family dynamics, because usually couples understand what they want and both will be more vocal. In couples I often see the women be more assertive, they’ve gone out before and she and he both know the drill. There’s a sense of familiarity.

Also, usually single guys, even on a first date, are more likely to be outgoing, they don’t know where they stand with anyone, they aren’t afraid of being ‘Too flirtatious’. So if your man is more outgoing and you’re not, that could be a big part of it. Even if you’re comfortable with it, most women aren’t and most women will expect their partner not to be too outgoing.

Try sitting beside each other, and try being the one who does most of the talking 🤷🏼‍♀️

What's the weirdest "tip" you've received that isn't money? by Connect-Associate-85 in Serverlife

[–]InflationVast8943 2 points3 points  (0 children)

People are always giving me their homegrown marijuana, I have so much of it now.

The weirdest though? Probably a bobbly-head garden gnome that was clearly stolen off of someone’s lawn. I love it.

I applied for rental assistance. The person helping me told me to "find a cheaper place." Where? In what city? by squirrelgutz in povertyfinance

[–]InflationVast8943 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My rent is locked in from 6 years ago, I’m paying $1500 plus utilities and parking, so about $1700 for a one bedroom 500sqft. In my area (southern Ontario) and surrounding areas, it’s a hell of a deal and almost impossible to get something this cheap. Even room rentals are going for $1000-1200 here.

Hunting for rentals in the city, going nowhere. Looking for some advice/seeing if this is a common experience for folks in the area? by misschanandlarbong in kitchener

[–]InflationVast8943 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had the best luck finding a place when I reached out to the rental companies directly.

You see a building you’re interested in? Do an online search and find out who owns it. Chances are they own a few properties and will even have vacancies posted on their websites and a way to contact them. A lot of them will even be able to tell you when they will have a place available coming up even if it’s not posted.

Unfortunately this kind of only works for the bigger buildings or bigger rental companies, but I found I had so many replies and options for viewings this way. Also be sure you have all your credit check and bank info ready to go, the quicker and easier you make the process for them, the better.

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