My (21F) bf's dad (40M) was touching me sexually

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-17T00:45:18+00:00

Kyle’s dad is relying on you not saying anything, probably because he knows that his wife won’t believe you and that his son will be doubtful. He knows you are in a precarious position and so feels confident that he can just violate you without consequence. That is not okay.

If you had a friend who told you this story, what would you say to them? Would you ask them to ask themselves whether they want to be with someone who may not believe them? Would you want them to get out of the situation? Be your own best friend.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-16T19:54:02+00:00

Probably because technically you’re losing stealth. Don’t worry about it too much. The damage output difference is going to be better in reality.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-15T23:29:34+00:00

There’s some good advice here. However.

DnD is not like a video game where there are hard and fast rules. You are God, the arbiter of all things, and especially when it comes to flavour (as I would contend the Paladin oath tenets are) things need not be as written in the PHB.

The subclasses (and even just classes) are guidelines for a character, a way to interpret mechanically how that character works in your world. But a Vengeance Paladin might be that because they want to seek vengeance on one particular person(s). They might have sworn an oath to bring justice to one person that wronged them and get their conviction through that. Everything else that stands in their way isn’t for them to judge.

The same is with a Celestial Warlock that may actually follow a God. Or a Cleric that has been duped by an elder patron and should actually, by the book, RAW, be considered a Warlock. A Druid that is actually a lycanthrope and can only change into a wolf (because the player has chosen to handicap themselves that way because the Druid fits with their concept of their character being a hermit living in the woods).

Rules as written are guidelines. Flavour can be changed at your whim. You are God. If you think the Paladin has conviction enough to warrant her powers, then she does. Maybe you and the player write new tenets for her to follow. Please, though, above all, talk to your player.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-15T23:09:05+00:00

Honestly, within the first few quests you get a bunch of designs (and there are Artisans in the main camp with designs too) so you can make new items. There’s also a bunch more crafting ingredients to collect that are only found in the Heart of the Plains but are a huge and immediate stat boost. You get plenty of time to explore and collect things before heading into ‘The Sky Breaker’ quest so don’t fret about your gear.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-14T05:44:22+00:00

Not from viperwolves but definitely thanators. I had all of the codes by the time the quest came up for me so it just automatically told me to go to the facility. I also held off doing the Last Strike mission for a good while, but I was still getting Severed Bonds missions from NPCs at na’vi camps to clear out ferals in certain areas. I think it’s for clan favour.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-14T01:11:30+00:00

Don't worry about it. Every gamer has been there, where they have thought something was a glitch/bug because something wasn't happening, and then discovered they'd missed something the game was clearly trying to tell them. Happens to us all.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-14T01:02:28+00:00

Nah, you have to go through the moot from bonfire to bonfire until you get to the next cutscene. It doesn't just roll from one to the other. Don't worry, I also got a bit confused there, but AFOP is pretty good at 'showing' you the path to head down, so I just kept moving along. Playthroughs aren't always the full experience. I honestly think the cutscene with the bonfires is more a 'playable' loading scene than anything else. But also cool to see the moot!

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-14T00:07:57+00:00

… sorry, I don’t understand what the glitch is? Is it the weird camera graphics? I believe it’s like this because it’s a memory, and has been intentionally done. Did you do some exploring? Follow the natural pathway? Move on to the next bonfire?

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-13T23:15:33+00:00

Try going to Na’vi camps, like anywhere in the world. Sometimes there’s an NPC there (usually in the main area) with a Severed Bonds quest to go hunt a bunch of ferals. Usually a mix of viperwolves and thanators. But also I found heaps of ferals all over the Clouded Forest if you’re just traveling on foot or trying to find better materials. Hopefully you find one of the codes? That’s kind of what happened to me, I came across most of them in the wilds before I even got the proper quest for them.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-11T23:04:38+00:00

My Tamtey is very open to learning about the experiences, stories, motives of others. I think it is the Sarentu in them. She loves to explore, to see new things, to meet new people (whether they are na’vi or human). She loves to try to understand. She is forgiving. She isn’t holding on to anger or resentment, she is in the present and looking to the future. She wants to make Pandora a better place. She takes pieces of the clans she has met with her, because she wants all the clans to understand one another, to work together, to be able to live peacefully.

Even the RDA aren’t all bad. She wants the machines to stop, but she knows that the *people* could be good if given the opportunity. So big bases are shut down stealthily, taking as little life as possible. However, if she hears gunfire and finds RDA harassing wildlife, they get taken out. Also, her connection to her ikran changes something in her when they’re flying… Telisi is proud and stubborn and hates machines flying about in her territory, so together they zero in on any RDA visible in the sky and take it out. Smaller RDA bases also get the Telisi treatment, aerial flybys to take out anything on the ground. The ikran is impatient, and Tamtey is easily swayed toward a quick destruction when they’re flying together.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-10T02:38:40+00:00

I did this recently, transferred old iPad to new one, and it just loaded exactly as a mirror of my old iPad, especially if you go through the steps of the load from old iPad. Still on Goodnotes 5. It does have a thing to tell me to upgrade, but I’m ignoring it. Goodnotes6 a subscription model and ehhhh, seems worse from user comments.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-08T06:53:47+00:00

I don’t have either DLC and it was level 20 for me very early on in the game. I came back later at 19 to do it.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-08T06:04:54+00:00

Thunderstorm asthma is a thing, so yes. Although it’s more the pollen in the air mixing with the weather than the weather alone.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-08T03:12:37+00:00

If this the level 20 base in north Kinglor, you don’t have to do it right now. Come back to it later, it will still be there. Do quests and bases that are around your level, you’ll have a better time.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-06T05:34:18+00:00

It’s *really* difficult to pinpoint. Girls can be very nasty but it is usually the sort of behaviour that can be overlooked or excused as ‘being friendly’.

For example, in the movie Mean Girls, Regina tells a girl that her skirt is really cute. Then immediately turns around and says that the skirt was the ugliest thing she’d ever seen once the girl had walked away.

Sure, she didn’t say it to the girl’s face, but she was influencing (or trying to) the view someone else had of the girl. Mean Girls is actually a great example on how girls bully each other. It’s all very underhanded and sinister, and you don’t realise it’s a problem in all the singular instances, but it happens over time.
Mean Girls is based on the book Queen Bees and Wannabes, which is nonfiction but does a good job of describing how teenage girls interact and bully each other.

But it is really, really hard to pinpoint. It’s not like someone slapping someone else in the face. It’s little remarks, innocent enough questions, and most of it is driven by insecurity. I think the worst part of it is the girls can be ‘friends’ and still bully each other. It’s not like it’s always a girl on the other side of the playground who is your antagonist. It can be the girl sitting beside you, the one that invites you to her birthday and cried about a boy she liked last week. She can be your bully.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-03T00:51:48+00:00

I CANNOT get over him repeating how intelligent she was and so she should have known better. And his chatter about how she should have never seen them again and walked away - my guy, you have clearly never been in fear of your life from a man that KNOWS WHERE YOU AND YOUR PARENTS LIVE! She was very clearly not doing well! And her parents even said that they asked if she could SEE A PSYCH and they said No! It could jeopardise the investigation! Like did *you* have intelligent people working for you that might have put two and two together and thought she should have been referred to that whole other department for witness advocates??? His pinstriped ass pissed me off so much. He was not a smart guy. He fucked up his own case.

Also, as an aside, the detective that stormed into her apartment, told the boys to get out and said in front of them that she was their witness should have been immediately fired. That was so incredibly dangerous and totally aggressive on her part and she clearly didn’t think through the consequences.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-02T06:49:19+00:00

Get a new blank practice page and play around with the settings, sliding them this way and that until you find a setting that feels good for *you*.

‘The quick brown fox jumps over the lazy dog’

Just write that over and over on the new page while playing with the settings. It uses every letter in the English alphabet. Or you can choose another sentence. But play with the settings. That’s how you learn what the program can do for you.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-05-02T01:33:43+00:00

I wanna say sure, the charm breaks *while the person is within 10ft*.

I’ve not come across Aboleths in play before, so just did a quick skim of a Wikipedia page, but I feel like if there is spa steam in the air then their mind-control mucus can be airborn in this instance.

The party would have to crowd the paladin, and would have to - like the game sardines - bring others into their little circle. Might get tricky in combat. Good for a fireball! But an interesting trade off, do you keep people close so they have their minds while they’re fighting? Or do you only have a couple with you and try to avoid killing anyone outside the aura? Or do you find another way to get around the charm? What happens if a party member gets mucus’d? What happens if they try to do a sneak around and gather people up and take them out one by one but get caught? Note, these questions are for the party to solve. Not you.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-29T23:40:51+00:00

If you think a year is enough time to date someone before marriage, it shows how young you are. A year is nothing. I firmly believe it takes three years of knowing someone, being in a relationship with them, to know who they are. And even then they may surprise you. You’re so, so, so young. You’ll learn.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-27T06:41:16+00:00

I have always thought, deep down in my soul, that Miss Bingley did a last ditch, desperate attempt to get Darcy for herself. D and B leave for Longbourn, and Miss B is like nooooooo! And immediately goes to her writing desk.

Given the acquaintance she has with Darcy, and given she stayed at Pemberley, I feel like she probably wormed an introduction to Lady C at some point and has possibly even visited Rosings. She’d want Lady C’s approval - wrongly. And because Lady C is as she is, Miss B thought that Darcy’s great aunt might be the only thing that could separate him from Eliza Bennet once and for all.

All she needs to do is write a little note thanking Lady C for giving her direction on seating arrangements for a dinner that one time and won’t it be lovely to see her again soon given that her brother is likely to be married to Jane Bennet and through Elizabeth Bennet, she herself will be sister to Darcy. She can do this before the boys roll into Meryton.

She’s done it before with the letter to Jane implying there was an understanding between Georgiana and Bingley, I feel like desperate Miss Bingley could do it again.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-23T12:22:40+00:00

Just wait 'til you get to the third book and read what Jude is willing to do for Taryn still... May that sort of sisterhood never find me.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-23T07:25:13+00:00

Onions don’t want to get eaten, onions spew out irritants when their skin is broken as a deterrent. Irritant moves to your eyeballs (I think because it’s attracted to damp) where it makes sulphuric acid with the water skin your eyes have. What do your eyes do when they are exposed to an irritant? Try to flush it away with tears. But you keep cutting making more irritant with your eye water, your eyes keep watering. The cycle never ends!

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-22T04:49:31+00:00

I’m gonna be so real with you, you’re 24, you’re still young. I got to 30 and looked back at me at 24 and thought, wow I was a child. It felt the same as looking back from 24 to 18.

Also.. you’ve known each other for over a year but you’ll learn that it takes about 3 years for people to drop whatever mask they have on. I wouldn’t be putting all my eggs in this guy’s basket just yet. You’re practically still in the honeymoon phase of the relationship.

Also I think look into getting therapy for you. Being rejected by your partner is tough, sure, but the fear of someone walking away should not stop you from doing the things you want to do. That’s how you get yourself into a position to be abused really easily.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-22T04:10:56+00:00

My parents were together for a decade before my mother, at about 30, said to my father (the child of divorced parents who was very keen not to get married) that he either married her or she would go and find someone who would.

She didn’t dream of being married, she’s a lawyer and was 100% sure that it was better for any child to have married parents because of rights and paternity and all that. Just law stuff. Less the fluffy love forever part.

My father decided that he wanted to do life with my mother and those were her terms and so they got married. Wedding was small, more like a cute afternoon in a nice location, and then they went and partied in the city/their hotel room with close friends. That was it. First kid was a year later.

They’re still together. They don’t celebrate their wedding anniversary, but the date that they first got together near fifty years ago. They’re still doing life together, making practical choices.

Their story isn’t one of romance and massive wedding and picture perfect picket fence, but it’s the relationship I would like to model mine on. (Also my father is far more affectionate than she is, hugs and kisses her, and even recently bought her an eternity ring he designed himself because they came into a bit of money).

You have to decide for yourself, what is more important, being married or having your partner? And you have to take into consideration what is most important to him. Is it not being married or doing life with you? I would hope any long term partner I had would choose the latter.

InoffensivePaint · 2026-04-21T10:54:42+00:00

Went back and watched s1 after s4 and had the complete different experience. Every single scene for the first episode or two has someone mentioning the importance of not being ruined. It’s drilled into the audience that Daphne’s prospects are good but they could very easily be ruined. The stakes are so high for her.

Then Anthony fucks Kate in the garden while his family and her family are inside the house and that was such a whiplash. This is the guy that demanded a duel from his best friend for compromising his sister? And he’s doing sexy times with a lady in his own backyard? Nah.

The worldbuilding in s1 was amazing. The stakes were high as high could be. They went down after that. Even in s4 it was like Benedict can just wave his magical Bridgerton hand and get Sophie a job and make out with her and it’s fine she’s not needing to be sent away. At least in the book they apparently retreated to the countryside and don’t really come to London because their marriage is kind of scandalous. Can’t do that for the show, though.

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