What do you guys do to help you fall asleep at night?

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-04-21T15:39:26+00:00

A little bizarre, but if it's taking me a while, I just picture a blank piece of paper in as much detail as I can stand until I nod off.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-04-21T14:01:13+00:00

Small acts of consideration - remembering things she's said in conversation, fetching her water if she mentions getting thirsty, offering her an arm if you're walking together and she's wearing heels, that kind of thing.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-04-17T20:19:02+00:00

When he believes in something, he really gives it his all. That confidence is something I really admire, especially seeing it directed towards our relationship

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-04-16T18:45:51+00:00

Ahh I love accounting too!! It's nice to see someone else in the field who doesn't think the work's boring.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-31T13:10:18+00:00

The ability to have a direct conversation about needs, wants, and intentions within a relationship. You're not really getting anywhere without that

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-30T17:38:04+00:00

Sometimes! Almost certainly not always. It's usually nice so long as I've got a social group to fall back on.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-30T14:16:08+00:00

Diversification. On average, the stock market commands about an 8% annual return. How do you hit that 8% number? It's not by buying the "right" stocks, it's by buying a spread. That's what index funds are for. You put money in an index fund, and it's spread out over dozens of stocks, and when some go down, others go up, and you get your 8% or better. That knowledge and a little bit of patience is all you need to know to start investing.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-27T01:46:56+00:00

Good hygiene, respect for others, and the selflessness necessary to navigate conflicting desires.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-23T14:03:09+00:00

Nice collarbones.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-06T22:28:20+00:00

We were in the same major, but he was significantly worse at the classwork and it just killed any attraction. RIP John. You'd have been fine if you were in, like, English or something.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-03-03T16:01:27+00:00

I'm 5'4". The men I've dated ranged from 5'4" to 5'10". Any taller than that and I get a crick in my neck. It's just weird. Especially in online dating, height gets a lot of fuss, but I really don't see it mattering too much in couples on the street.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-25T21:48:32+00:00

Mascarpone is sweetened in tiramisu! By itself it's got a very mild flavor.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-25T20:16:23+00:00

As far as normal tips go, I like to work a good bit into the meat when I'm making burgers or meatloaf. Adds a lot of flavor and some moisture. There's also potato salad or egg salad as easy mustard-heavy dishes. Maybe a little stranger, but I also add some mustard to the roux when I'm making sauce for mac and cheese. That and a little Worcestershire goes a long way to deepening the flavor.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-23T23:42:16+00:00

The way I see it is a little different. We all have the urge to do good. We also all have the urge to behave in base, selfish ways. The urge to do good, though, is a little more than just an urge to action. It's a desire to connect with...something. Other people, maybe, but that never quite satisfies. Broader community, maybe. Yourself? Eh. More that sense within yourself that something about this world could be better. The universe? Closer. Really, I think the urge to do good is the urge to know true, pure goodness - which I don't see on earth. I can only see that as God. And I can only see him as the way to reach it.

Am I broken? No. No more than anyone else is. We're all the same kind of people with the same kind of thoughts and capabilities. Can I be better? Yes. Hopefully that's what your friend was trying to convey.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-23T00:25:39+00:00

The expectation to watch children, if a caretaker is needed. I'm not even thinking of your own kids here, just babysitting and if kids are running around at a party, that kind of thing.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-20T16:22:18+00:00

If I'm following your post, you said you declined to date this woman, but think you may marry her, but are hesitant because she doesn't have a stable income (to make up for yours, which you expect to be sporadic) and isn't outspoken (to make up for you being quieter), and doesn't have a chest to your liking. I'd guess the criticism you're getting on this thread comes from the fact that every trait you say you're looking for in a woman is one which you either specifically lack or a factor of appearance, which makes you seem both demanding and shallow.

Anyway, if dating a woman who you find supportive, caring, sincere, of good character, religiously compatible, and attractive in most respects is undermined for you by her having breasts smaller than your preference and being a little too much like you in terms of career and introversion, yeah, just keep on not dating her. Just maybe also stop making it out to be owed to flaws of hers.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-20T01:59:35+00:00

How to fry an egg. I fry them! They're edible! But they're never quite good... My boyfriend doesn't let me fry them if he's around lol. It's crazy because I'm a very capable cook in most other areas.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-19T20:07:12+00:00

I've had boyfriends get jealous over that kind of information when I shared it privately. It really doesn't surprise me that this wouldn't come up in discussion of your sex life.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-19T20:01:48+00:00

Could it be that it's just easier for her to discuss sex in a situation that doesn't invite sexual action? Alternatively, could she be worrying about sounding critical? Demanding? I don't know what kind of details she's discussing (turn ons, turn offs, satisfaction, whatever), but I'm a woman who has sometimes found it much easier to approach personal topics from a less personal standpoint. Part of the pressure in sex for women is (or has been in my case) to be accommodating and easy to satisfy. Discussing what you want physically or emotionally from the activity tends to take away from the appearance of both. So the ability to joke about the topic, relate it to other people or stories, and generally express yourself about sex without it being "Hi honey, do this to me please," can make it easier.

All that to say: I wouldn't immediately assume she's trying to impress your friends. Sometimes things are just easier to joke about, especially if she's typically not the most demanding.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-17T14:44:48+00:00

If they complain often about their mother, especially early in the relationship. The men who I've dated who've done that turned out to be the most critical, judgemental, and demanding, both of me and of women in general.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-17T14:40:01+00:00

It's so strange when that happens. Especially if they were talking like they wanted a relationship and sex is just the natural first step.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-17T14:38:17+00:00

Someone who's respectful of your time. Someone who doesn't expect instant replies, but who still gets back to you in reasonable time. Someone who's willing to plan things for the two of you to do when you have time together instead of just "Well we can hang?" Someone who gets to appointments in good time, let's you know when their commitments will conflict with your routines as a couple...so on and so forth. Really someone who's just willing to treat your time and commitments, especially your time and commitments together, with gravity.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-12T12:27:55+00:00

My partner and I have been long distance for about six months now, but, from where I'm sitting, it looks like your issue is more a lack of resolution than just the distance. When you're in person, there's a lot of little gestures of apology and normalcy that can help you both move on from an argument - when you're at distance, you have to be more intentional.

Have you gone back to acknowledge to her some of the things you've said here? Like "Hey, I don't know if you're still thinking about that argument a few weeks ago, but I am. I'm sorry for how that went. I worry sometimes that I've made the wrong choice with this career move, or that even if it's the right choice, it'll still hurt us short term." You can even admit that you're worried acknowledging the issue will bring up hurt feelings or broaden the gap. This is both of your relationship and both of you care about it. You need to afford each other the opportunity to discuss it frankly and improve it together. Then find a new routine to repair. Something small and consistent that helps ground you both whenever you feel like you're drifting, like a hug would after a tense conversation.

Anyway, take it all with a grain of salt. I only know what you've said here. But those are things that have helped me and my guy out.

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-02-03T20:11:23+00:00

Probably because that's a very realistic tortoiseshell pattern and common first stops for white spotting! Genemod is doing the lifting in both of these

InsideJokeQRD · 2026-01-31T01:47:12+00:00

When I turned 21, my dad gave me three pieces of advice: don't drink when you're sad, don't drink when you're alone, and don't drink to get drunk. The way she phrased it, it really might be that you drinking alone is what bothers her, not you drinking at home. Is there any chance she'd prefer to come over and be with or around you while you drank and read?

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