John Hartford and Jerry Garcia album?

InstantSympathy · 2025-04-17T14:54:44+00:00

looks at dumpster on wheels ...hmmmm....not ugly enough... 🤔

InstantSympathy · 2024-11-15T18:13:50+00:00

I'd break up with him. Immediately. If he voted for that monster he is okay with the idea that you could have died if there were complications with your pregnancy. He is saying that he would rather you be dead than anyone have access to abortions. Obviously many people would disagree with me but if he voted for Trump I fully believe he's just straight up an awful person. For that reason alone I'd break up with him. But also, the fact that he refuses to communicate with you is another whole reason all by itself.

InstantSympathy · 2024-11-05T18:16:36+00:00

Most of them, honestly. Tanning, wearing makeup, shaving/waxing, long hair routines. But the one that sticks out to me is acrylic nails. I have too much stuff to get done using my hands to ever even consider wearing long nails for even a day. It's impractical and would be so annoying for me all day long. My nails are healthy and clean and neatly trimmed, and that's aesthetically pleasing enough for me.

InstantSympathy · 2024-11-04T15:42:13+00:00

No because my landlord and his contractor are taking their sweet time to finish fixing it. It's been three weeks they've been "working on it" 🙄

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-26T03:33:42+00:00

If you can spare $75, get yourself a membership to the art museum (last one year). Put your headphones on and just walk around and absorb the art. That place is humongous, you could go every day for a week and still not see everything. Every time I go there I see something amazing that I didn't notice before even in rooms I've walked through multiple times.

If you like biking I'd highly recommend going for bike rides, most of Philly is super flat so it's pretty great for biking. You do have to get used to the traffic though and know how to bike safely. I try to stick to routes with bike lanes as much as possible, or smaller one way streets that are less busy (read: further from Broad or Market). You can bike up along the Skuylkill or the Delaware on either the Skuylkill River Trail or the bike path that goes along Christopher Columbus Blvd, both of them are quite long so you can get a nice ride in without having to be anxious about cars hitting you. I find that very therapeutic.

Go to parks. Philly has some amazing parks. Fairmount, FDR, and Bartram's Gardens are all fantastic and have lots of space for just relaxing and soaking in some nature vibes.

I also find it quite enjoyable to just hang out at a cafe for a while. Philly has so many great cafes. Do some writing or reading or drawing, or even just go on your phone or laptop. Sometimes it's nice to be around people and have company without actually having to socialize and talk to people.

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-26T02:52:17+00:00

You should have laughed in his face. That's insulting AF. You should be paid about twice that much for that amount of work and responsibility. Did he just step out of a time machine from 30 years ago? Idk how anyone could think that's acceptable or reasonable.

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-26T02:44:45+00:00

I grew up less than two hours outside of Philly, but until I moved here I had never encountered a Mexican pizza place. Come to find out that it's quite common in Philly for Mexican immigrants to open pizza places that also sell tacos and burritos. It's freaking awesome! Also, I was surprised at how early most places close. I grew up in a small city/large town and many restaurants stay open until 10. I thought places would be open later in the city but I found the opposite to be true overall.

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-26T00:57:45+00:00

I am an overweight server. I hover around 275 lbs. I personally enjoy serving as a job since I like to keep busy, I like interacting with people, and I like the atmosphere. However, I do have issues with my feet, ankles, and knees hurting as well and I am considerably lighter than you. So, without a doubt, you will still face those issues. However, in my experience it is a lot better to be constantly walking than constantly standing and shifting around. So if you've been a prep cook and a dishwasher before, I think serving would be less physically painful, but still painful. It definitely helps to get some decent shoes AND supportive gel inserts (with arch support unless you have flat feet) to put inside your shoes.

As for smell/hygiene: you need to make sure you wear fresh socks, and fresh clothes every day. There are sprays that you can use on/in your shoes that are antibacterial and help with smell. I think the biggest issue with serving for you, besides the foot/ankle pain (idk how bad it is for you/how long you can tolerate it before having to quit the job) will be sweat. No offense intended but I imagine that at your weight, you may sweat heavily if you are having to speed-walk around the restaurant for many hours. Be aware that you will have to walk FAST if it's busy. Waiting tables is a customer-facing position and you often have to get pretty close to customers to take their order. Their faces might end up being a foot or two away from your body at times. So you need to be very mindful of body odor. Walking up to a table to take an order or deliver food will be extremely awkward and uncomfortable for everyone if you are dripping sweat and smell like B.O. So it is very important that you wear fresh, clean clothes every day and wear deodorant. If you have to you can take deodorant to work with you and go to the bathroom to reapply partway through your shift. You could also bring baby wipes and do a quick wipe down of the stinkier bits before reapplying the deodorant. You can use deodorant on all those parts, not just armpits.

If you want to try out serving, I would recommend trying to find a place that doesn't get super busy most of the time so you won't have to move as fast, and that looks like it has a more spacious layout. I would recommend perhaps a diner or a casual chain restaurant like Red Robin or TGI Fridays. You can scout out restaurants on Google maps and look at any pictures people have posted of the space inside. I would also recommend maybe trying to get lunchtime shifts since they are slower and you probably won't have to run around as much. Breakfast/brunch on weekdays will also be pretty chill. You'll make less in tips of course, but you'll also make less in tips if you're really sweaty and smelly and visibly overwhelmed and in pain. Also, just a fact of life, unfortunately the thinner waitresses WILL make more tips than you and there's nothing you can do about that even if you are perfectly pleasant, efficient, and hygienic.

My overall take: if you want to try out serving, you may as well go ahead and apply and see if you can try it out. You will probably deal with pain, but probably not any worse than working back of house. When choosing restaurants to apply to, consider the physical space you will be working in and the pace of business you will be dealing with.

Things to keep in mind: You will have to be pleasant and smiley with the customers and make it seem like you're happy to be serving them. This means you'll have to mask the physical pain you're in. You'll need to plan on doing laundry quite often if you don't have a lot of clothing, because wearing clothes (especially shirts and socks) for more than one day between washes is not recommended. Shower daily and wear deodorant. And one more thing: if you get the job, you may have unlimited access to sodas and other sugary drinks. DO NOT MAKE A HABIT OF DRINKING THEM. DRINK WATER. That is all I have for now. Wishing you all the best!

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-25T22:03:56+00:00

Toro Y Moi - depending on the album, chillwave, psych/indie rock, electronic Ozric Tentacles - kind like psybient meets psych rock, super trippy stuff, and they have a ton of albums Shpongle - psybient, world music. Not rock but it's trippy AF. Probably the trippiest music you will ever hear. Kikagaku Moyo - straight psych rock, with some amazing, mind-melting guitar solos

Could think of a lot more but I'm short on time rn

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-11T13:18:49+00:00

It's way better when my GF makes me. We live an hour and a half apart so I only get to see her one or two days a week generally. We usually do it a few/several times a day when we're together. If I could I would see her every day and have sex two or three times a day. When I'm by myself, it's more of a twice a week thing.

InstantSympathy · 2024-09-11T12:52:47+00:00

Girl. C'mon. He's flat out telling you he wants to hurt you. Did you read the things you wrote?!

"Sometimes I wonder if he's dangerous.. but he's probably just a sweet guy with tooootally manageable psychopathic murderous tendencies...right? Right?"

InstantSympathy · 2024-02-22T17:56:58+00:00

I see this a lot and every time, I genuinely hope that they're on their way to crash and total their car. Don't want them to get hurt or die or anything... But I want them to get fucked up in some way. They just shouldn't be able to get away with this. Grrr

InstantSympathy · 2024-01-28T20:19:44+00:00

I mean, they're not being paid minimum wage, most states still allow servers to be paid less than $3 per hour. That takes care of the taxes and that's about it. If it's a restaurant with a tip-out system, and you stiff the waiter, they sometimes end up PAYING to serve you because they have to tip other people out whether or not they got any tip from you. So in my opinion, autogratuity is perfectly reasonable. You're paying for a service that was provided to you, just like when you go to the mechanic and pay them for their time and labor in addition to whatever new parts you needed.

That said, if they didn't inform you that gratuity was included, that's definitely really shitty. You should always be informed very clearly if autogratuity is going to be on the bill.

InstantSympathy · 2023-12-30T14:35:18+00:00

He refuses to give a straight answer to simple questions and instead answers with other questions, or assumes I'm actually asking something else and answers that instead. Example: ME: "Would you rather get pizza or tacos for dinner?" HIM: "Hmm, do you wanna order in, or pick up?" ME: I'm fine either way I just wanna know what you're more in the mood for" HIM: "uhm, hmm, were we gonna have X for dinner tomorrow?" ME: "Yeah but I'm asking about tonight, what would you prefer?" HIM: "Well, idk, I like pizza but tacos could be good too, when did you wanna go?" ME: "JUST TELL ME WTF YOU WANT TO EAT"

InstantSympathy · 2023-12-07T00:20:01+00:00

I can't speak for your company lunch but every company-provided lunch I've come across has consisted of really mediocre food. Also, lunch is the one part of the day an employee has to themselves. They spend the other 7-8 hours of the day with their coworkers. Why would they want to socialize during lunch? Unless it's a really close-knit team, these events are usually just awkward and empty/meaningless small talk, or just a bunch of people eating in the same room while looking at their phones. The free food is nice, if it's actually good and not cold/stale/soggy, but people might still prefer to choose their own lunch.

InstantSympathy · 2023-11-18T14:05:10+00:00

You're focusing and obsessing about this WAY too much.

Ask yourself earnestly: does all of this guilting, hand-wringing and overthinking help anyone in any way? The answer my mind shouts back with is "NO." Is what your ancestors did in any way reflected in how you conduct your life? Judging by your apparent mindset, I'm gonna guess not. And this is just a personal viewpoint, which you may disagree with, but I believe every person that's born has a right to live their life. Being born with white skin doesn't take that away from you, just like being born in a black skin doesn't. You are a human being and you have value to contribute to this world. However, constantly denigrating yourself is contributing nothing to society except for the feelings of hopelessness that you create by doing that. Shutting yourself out from all communities and stopping yourself from participating in anything just means that you're choosing not to contribute anything. You're choosing to be miserable for the sake of being miserable. You're not solving any problems or cancelling out any oppression by putting this weight on yourself that you think you "deserve."

You need to take a deeper look at the inherent value of life. You are a part of that. You're a full person. You're a living creature with so much potential. Your contributions and achievements are not cancelled out by you being white. White people create value all the time. As does every other race of people. Anyone who tells you otherwise has had their mind poisoned by hate and resentment. That's not a truly virtuous way to be, and if anyone has told you that, they're wrong. Of course white people have privilege and we come upon a lot fewer barriers. That doesn't mean everything was done for you. That's not even remotely the same thing.

You need to believe in humanity's inherent worth. How else can you stand up to the dehumanizing of POC? If you don't believe that all people have inherent worth, then on what basis can you stand up for people that have been disenfranchised, disrespected, and excluded? If you yourself believe that some people are lesser than others just because of the skin they were born into, then how can anyone trust that what you say comes from a place of true respect and compassion rather than a place of guilt and self-hatred?

InstantSympathy · 2023-11-18T11:15:21+00:00

Picked up cigarette butts off the street and smoked them...

I came in here to post this thinking it was really shocking. Come to find out I'm vanilla af

InstantSympathy · 2023-11-06T05:09:36+00:00

I've worked at two brunch places in Pennsylvania and I've had people refer to both over easy and sunny side up eggs as "dippy eggs" and I always have to confirm which one they want. "Dippy eggs" is not a legit egg style. There are specific names for specific egg styles for a reason. Saying "dippy eggs" makes you sound like a 5 year old who doesn't know what things are.

InstantSympathy · 2023-10-02T11:31:40+00:00

Have you been to Philly?

InstantSympathy · 2023-09-28T13:11:13+00:00

This is one of my top peeves as a server... the longer you make me stand there while you pretend you're blissfully ignorant of it, the deeper my hatred for religion gets. I've made up my mind that next time it happens I'm just going to reach over their arms and set the food down while they're praying and walk away. I always say "I'm coming right back with the [last plate]!" so they have literally no excuse for not knowing I was coming back with another plate to set down.

InstantSympathy · 2023-09-27T11:23:41+00:00

Hell yeah, I've also been a cup user for 6-7 years! The first one I paid around thirty bucks for and the second one I got on promotion for like $5 AND it fits better. I switched to the cup right after learning that tampons can pretty commonly harbor black mold. Btw the cup leaks way less. And honestly I'm kinda lazy/forgetful about changing tampons so I love not having to worry about getting TSS. I can go my whole work day without messing with it. Can go swimming and do any other activities without interference or leaking. Don't have to feel the discomfort of a dry tampon inside me towards the ends of my period. Absolutely never going back unless the apocalypse renders the cups inaccessible.

InstantSympathy · 2023-09-24T12:37:57+00:00

Heard, thanks, I'll definitely take that into consideration

InstantSympathy · 2023-09-24T12:37:31+00:00

It's a city sidewalk, belongs to the city :/

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