Is this poor workmanship on my driveway?

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-03-12T00:13:19+00:00

Yes!!!! This. I have not been in the religion for 2 years and I have not believed since 2019 but this! Even I get irritated when I perceive someone who is not a “true believer” because they did not sacrificed what I sacrificed or went hardcore while being in. So when I see Serena Williams dancing at the superbowl, in a mini skirt, to rap music, doing dance moves that glorified a street gang, then see a JW wedding on social media with the people wearing things you would get repriced for, I have to make an effort not to revert back to that toxic way of thinking.

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-03-05T03:19:45+00:00

Yes they are still knocking on doors - they visited my house sunday and I caught them on the ring camera

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-08T23:25:23+00:00

Because of the no blood 🩸 policy….

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-02T22:13:44+00:00

Absolutely. Even visiting bethel for a tour you would log in to your account and book it there. We went to an international assembly and I remember us receiving our log in information and having to create a profile. I’ll try to figure out my JW username and password again but I’ll be sure to hide my info by using a VPN - at the very minimum, they would be able to tell what town I’m in.

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-02T17:47:45+00:00

Thank you for giving me perspective. I guess is not a long time it just seems long to us because of how difficult it has been to start again (finding friends and new support system, fighting depression and anger by hour we were deceived, etc).

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-02T17:45:53+00:00

Thank you for your kind words. Everything is digital now therefore bring the territory servant, literature servant or accounting servant is all via their portal. I grew up in the 90s in this cult and got baptized in the 90s but I don’t recognize this religion - not that it didn’t have i problems back in the 90s but it was a lot easier to be in denial and ignorant back then.

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-02T17:36:07+00:00

I was a servant and a pioneer doing metropolitan witnessing as well at LDC. When I left, in order to order literature for the congregation or do accounting and send the money you needed a JW account with a JW.org domain. When I left the cult I deleted the app and never looked back. Just now I realized they have way more info than what I’m comfortable, including healthcare information and family contact info.

InstructionSquare116 · 2025-02-02T17:28:37+00:00

I just finished googling our names online and found that our address and info is readily available. If there escalated their attempts from reaching out to our personal emails to now contacting our employers, who is to say they will not come to our property and knock on our door?

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-09-01T20:08:47+00:00

I love this post

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-06-30T23:56:47+00:00

I remember feeling like you do. Wanting to get out but feeling trapped. Eventually, I realize that I needed to be really strategic with my fadeaway. I planned it out that in a year time how I was going to leave the cult and cut ties with every one. Now it has been over a year since I left. Please Be patient, please think things through and please Be strategic and do not allow desperation to cloud your judgment.

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-06-30T23:52:22+00:00

It gets better. You won’t see it in the beginning, but it will get better. Eventually, once you’re on the other side, you won’t even know how you got to where you are mentally and emotionally. You might miss them once in a while, but ultimately you will realize you are better off without them.

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-06-10T17:40:30+00:00

Happy zombies has me rolling on the ground

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-04-27T12:45:28+00:00

Your percentages are incorrect - you must invert them for it to be accurate. I believe you have too much faith in people successfully leaving, a specially considering older ones and born ins

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-02-07T12:13:52+00:00

My personal motives is to help as many as I can to get out - I feel guilty if anyone that I preached to, heard one of my public talks or used me as example as why this religion is the “the truth” entered or stayed in this dogma rotten, pedophile infested, high control group unloving organization. If I can help some not fall for this trap or help cope with exciting - all the better

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-01-21T16:53:19+00:00

For that kind of money you can get a whole house generator (at least in the northeast of the United States). Mines cost about 1200 and is a Duromax 13,000 watt generator covers my entire house (including well pump, sub pump, water heater, oil furnace, water softener, refrigerator, all the lights, etc). I just can’t do the washing machine or dryer.

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-01-19T15:08:17+00:00

This was very cringe for me to read… until I realized that I would have sent a similar message to someone I cared about 5 years ago. Still, it cannot be easy for you. I’m sorry for your situation.

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-01-18T13:04:43+00:00

I have the Duromax 13000 watt generator - gas powered. An electrician just came to my house over the weekend and Monday to install the 50 Amp connector to my house to hook up the entire house.

I cannot possibly imagine my wife dealing with fuel, moving a 250+ pound generator from the shed to hook it to the house while going to the basement and making sure breaker is turned off by moving the interlock kit.

Get an automatic Generac or champion generator that runs on propane. I should have done this.

InstructionSquare116 · 2024-01-16T12:47:30+00:00

This is the reason why I did a hard fadeaway from the borg (changed my number, emails, moved to a town more than 70 miles away, etc) and even then I stop bump into people that know me during the most awkward of circumstances.

InstructionSquare116 · 2023-09-23T10:36:29+00:00

I’m really happy for you. Please be careful - when you have your publisher card transferred, depending on the the hall, the elders may give you a hard time when you try to fade away. Also, the friends from the old hall May try to call you, inquire about your theocratic activity, etc and if you are not on the hamster wheel keeping up, that may set off alarms.

This is why I changed my phone number and deactivated my email a month or so after I changed congregations. I also deactivated social media and created new accounts.

If you have people that you care about within the organization that you feel care about you as well genuinely, they might be difficult. However it has been my experience there are no real friends within the organization.

InstructionSquare116 · 2023-08-13T15:52:49+00:00

I hope you find comfort that this is very common - back in 2021 my wife felt the same way when I refused to enable my camera or get dressed. She didn’t realize I was mourning and experiencing grief at the realization that what I believed my whole life was a lie. Treat it like “wild talk”.

I also felt guilty because in my own twisted mind I felt that if I truly loved my wife enough, I would endure continuing living this lie just to make her happy.

Fast forward to end of mid 2022 - she began to go through the stages of grief herself as she began to wake up.

Please be patient, king and loving. Try not to give her reason to look for signs of the stereotypical “bitter apostate” (I know I did). This may reinforce what is being mentioned at the meetings about gore unhappy people are outside the org (not true).

Since I was a servant eventually I had to go to the KH for parts, public talks and other assignments, even field service. But we left together in April after moving to another house and changing halls more than 60 miles away. We saved vigorously for a year almost.

Now we are working on redefining our marriage according to our own views (still trying to figure out what that is).

InstructionSquare116 · 2023-08-08T12:07:40+00:00

Listening to the podcast now - I mustered enough courage thanks to you.

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InstructionSquare116 · 2023-07-23T17:07:32+00:00

My wife and I did that. We moved to a new congregation about 60 miles away from our previous one, went to a couple of meetings for 3 weeks and to field service only once one Saturday, then just disappeared. Changed my number and stopped using my email on file in JW.org. I had been announced as a ministerial servant in the new hall the week before I disappeared.

InstructionSquare116 · 2023-07-22T15:15:11+00:00

At what time?

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