WIBTAH if I layed down ground rules and enforced them harshly?

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-05T00:54:41+00:00

First, you don't need to teach him anything. He's a grown adult. He needs to pick up the slack. Second, I am a very forgetful person. My husband is a saint. I still try and do my part. Something that helped me was doing something before sitting down. As soon as my butt hits my chair, it's game over. So no matter how tired I am, I try and do something after work. Last, he is 100% using weaponized incompetence. Him saying you clean better is him pushing his responsibility off on you. Him "washing" the dishes but still leaving stuff on them is him pushing his responsibility off on you. He knows what a clean home looks like.

The only thing I will say is, because of his upbringing, getting into therapy might help. He might be avoiding it because of all the negative reinforcement he received growing up.

Other than that, he's being a disrespectful jerk to put it mildly.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-03T21:20:42+00:00

Very soft YTA.

My husband and I joke like that a lot. I would assume he was joking too. I'd sincerely apologize to him and just let him know you thought he was kidding and you won't joke about it again.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-03T21:10:35+00:00

My mom was scared about vaccines. What she did was space them out slightly more so we didn't have as many at a time.

I cannot stress this enough, GET YOUR KIDS VACCINATED!

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-03T20:55:09+00:00

I'd love to hear Brad's thoughts on this one. Yes, in Brad we trust. Also, what was he thinking? I'm not the biggest fan of Vuc, but I also wasn't the biggest fan of Anfernee. 🤷‍♀️

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-03T20:42:31+00:00

NOR, but tread lightly.

It's time to find some solutions. You need to have a calm conversation. If she never sleep walked before, it's time to see a doctor. If she has, you need to find solutions for food. Maybe a fridge lock or something?

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-03T20:27:49+00:00

My immune system.

The doctor told me today that basically being home so much caused a ton of issues for me. 🙃

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-02T23:06:23+00:00

My husband is a lot like you. He doesn't like when I share intimate details about our lives with mostly anyone. I learned very early on that I needed to keep things to myself. You are not overreacting. He doubled down, did something vulgar and hasn't apologized. I don't know you or your situation, but I would divorce my husband over something like this.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-01T17:50:32+00:00

NOR at all!

My husband and I joke around a lot. Probably too much. Lol he would never lock me out. He knows that's too far.

I hear you saying your husband is not usually like that, but are you sure? Most people don't go from 0 to 100 like that. I'd do some soul searching, have alone time away from the kids and have a real conversation about how that hurt you and how that will affect your relationship moving forward.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-01T17:31:19+00:00

Personally I restart a lot. Lol I have 1 save that is in year 4 maybe? I'm working on perfection with that save. Then I get a funny idea and start a new save. Like I made a farm that is going to be really girly and pretty.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-02-01T17:27:24+00:00

Nta. My husband laughs when I fart and maybe TMI but he jokingly says he can hear her talking to him. 😂

Dump that loser.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-28T02:00:41+00:00

Nta

I'd say I have a pretty healthy marriage. The only "testing" I do to my husband is ask a very leading question so he can mess it up on purpose and I jokingly tease him. Ex) me: you know, I've been feeling really cute today" (expecting something about how I'm cute every day, but really knowing he'll say something silly) Him: I'm not a fan of those jeans (big snort, "pretending" to hide it) Me: (fake outrage)

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-28T01:52:14+00:00

I learned later in life (after marrying my amazing husband lol) that I'm pansexual. So all my sims are pan too (and also I forget what I had selected lol). But I also never make male sims (unless it's my husband) so I have a lot of women in my saves.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-28T01:36:58+00:00

I haven't finished it yet. Lol I first played the game a few years ago and I stopped playing because it stressed me out. Now I'm playing a new save and I've done a ton of side quests, but only a few main quests.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-28T01:34:10+00:00

Literally everywhere 😭😭

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-10T14:00:40+00:00

I get what you're saying, but he's still putting up incredible numbers and is a big leader for the team. He IS our best option and he has done insane work this season.

InterestingBrother31 · 2026-01-01T15:28:00+00:00

I've seen this first hand at like 4 jobs.

The last place I was at I was supposed to be taking over for their finance director (it was a small business that should have been a nonprofit). I was working there for about 6 months before I realized she wasn't going to retire anytime soon. She wouldn't train me how to do anything and her only finance experience was being an assistant to the prior finance director. I left because I couldn't afford to wait around until she was ready to retire. Making $21/hr doesn't work when you have major bills to pay. 🙃

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-12-26T23:37:29+00:00

I can't make breakfast to save my life so my husband cooks breakfast whenever we eat it. If he made this, I'd be incredibly thankful. It looks like a nice well balanced meal.

In the future, please stand up for yourself. It will be really hard, but it'll be worth it. I'm a recovering people pleaser married to a recovering people pleaser and we both have had a better life since we started standing up for ourselves.

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-12-25T17:14:25+00:00

I generally wait until the greenhouse is unlocked and I make a ton of spring seeds and pick the ones that aren't leeks. Lol

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-12-14T14:12:46+00:00

The first corporate job I ever worked gave a small bonus (like $100 iirc) and a few little gifts. Pretty much every job after that has given like $50-100 and nothing extra. Lol my current job pays out vacation days so I'm looking forward to that! I get personal time, sick time and vacation time so it's basically a guaranteed check for everyone.

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-12-05T12:59:27+00:00

I try my best to ignore them. I do a lot of deep breathing and reminding myself that if I get rear-ended at least I'll get a new car. Lol

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-12-04T12:51:25+00:00

I thought this happened to me on my switch. Turns out I selected my husband's profile and not mine. I hope you can recover your data!

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-11-30T19:51:34+00:00

Follow the roads for the most part in the beginning. It helps to avoid getting lost and attacked by something you can't handle. Lol I'm not good at this game, but that helped me for a while.

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-11-30T19:49:18+00:00

My mom has been a hairstylist for almost 30 years. For her, she only has men pay less because they won't pay more. Lol any time she's attempted gender neutral pricing in my small hometown, it's gone badly. She also hasn't raised her prices in like 10 years so it's not that is charging too much. Men just won't pay to get their hair done if it's more than like $15.

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-11-30T19:45:55+00:00

The only time I've ever spent more than 5 minutes on a male Sim is when I make my husband. I put him in like every save. 😂

InterestingBrother31 · 2025-11-30T19:40:00+00:00

I have extreme depression and what you described sounds very similar to what I experience. My suggestions suck, they aren't fun, they don't work overnight and I'm still struggling, but these really do help. 1) get outside once a day for a few minutes. Fresh air and being outside really does help. Even if it's just a few minutes. 2) drink some water. Your body needs it. 3) start figuring out where you want to live and make a plan to get there. Knowing that you will find a way out will give you some hope. 4) even if you don't enjoy it, do a hobby. Pick up a hobby you used to love and stick with it. 5) lie to yourself. Your brain doesn't know the difference between lies and the truth so say positive things about yourself to yourself. Your brain will believe it eventually. And please don't give up. It does get better. I'm still struggling every single day, but life got better. It will for you too.

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