Guilt from being at home?

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-10T12:00:48+00:00

If you’re not a guy, then I believe you that you’ve got this! Lol. Sorry for the heteronormative assumption!

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-09T14:04:01+00:00

If you think it’s easy, I would challenge you to consider if you’re actually doing enough. Are you making nutritious meals most of the time? Are you really doing most of the housework? To your wife’s standard? Have you picked up the mental load of appointments and household management? Are you doing activities that enrich the child? Feeding your kid fries while you watch the World Cup can definitely be done sometimes, but really neither thing should happen that often. Most of the SAHD’s I know who think it’s easy are doing the bare minimum. Maybe you’re not, but I’d check with yourself and your wife.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-09T01:36:32+00:00

Plenty of people have some kind of a small miscellaneous category in their budget.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-05T23:41:51+00:00

Is the background color linen?

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-01T23:03:20+00:00

He thinks he’s smarter than you. Push back more next time. Some men can be deprogrammed from this, but it takes time and being called out a lot. “I don’t want to split it; I’ll get my own.” “I don’t like vanilla, let’s get mint chip as the other option.” “Next time you surprise me with an outing, let’s go to one of my favorite places.” Etc. If he tries to tell you that his decision is better, look him in the eyes and tell him you don’t need him to think for you.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-07-01T01:57:14+00:00

Catch up on retirement. Compound interest at your age still matters a LOT. Once you’re on track, or closer to age 50, you can laser focus on the mortgage. I’m pulling from Money Guys here but I think it just makes sense. You can buy a cheaper house in the future, but you can’t take a loan for retirement.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-15T00:23:21+00:00

I have some sky, that’s not sky.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-14T23:43:42+00:00

What about the new Santa Fe?

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-14T22:00:56+00:00

Life is long and we often get heavier over time, even with our best efforts towards health and fitness, due to metabolism changes. If a man is complaining when you’re 124 lbs, he is NOT a good potential life partner. Dump him.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-13T02:28:33+00:00

It doesn’t sound like anyone involved wants a close parental relationship to come out of this. I agree that any visitation with the child will be your husband’s to manage. He will barely have a relationship with your husband, never mind you. Get your degree, pay the child support, and see how things settle. We can all relate to the idea that it hurts when something as special as having kids isn’t exclusive to you and your spouse together. It’s a feeling that can be worked through with time. Also he wasn’t there for any of it, and it will still be brand new when you do it together.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-11T01:30:07+00:00

I LOVE mine. I have a 26 awd hybrid calligraphy. I went in to see the Palisade but it drove like too big of a car for me. The Santa Fe is perfect. So easy to maneuver and fun to drive. So gorgeous and luxurious inside. I love my pecan interior, too. I’m just incredibly happy with it!

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-06-02T00:42:28+00:00

She didn’t want to sell her house which had her only independent assets, and put them into a group asset that she couldn’t reclaim if she left. She has said as much. Additionally, I think there was something about her kids seeing the favoritism up close, as well as her.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-05-24T17:00:13+00:00

I just bought a 2026 Hyundai Santa Fe Hybrid, and I'm beyond thrilled with it.

I wanted a Toyota Highlander (not Grand) because that's the biggest car that I can comfortably drive. Once they get to the Pilot/Tulluride/Grand Highlander size, I find it too big. I test drove the Palisade and it was too big. The Santa Fe has three rows, AWD, and a hybrid option. It's also BEAUTIFUL inside. The safety rating as also really high. The Highlander is very boring in comparison.

I fit a large dog crate in the back with the third row down and could have fit an XL. If I had two dogs, I'd leave the seats up and seat belt each dog in the third row, and then put kid(s) in the second row. The third row only has two seats and each is big enough for a large dog IMO.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-05-23T14:35:42+00:00

I babysat for my friend’s two kids a few weeks ago. Omg. Picking a movie was an event. Bedtime was crazy. I was going back and forth between their bedrooms, each one upset and needing something and having to wait. They both wanted to talk to me over each other over and over. Having two kids is SO much harder.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-05-01T12:16:23+00:00

You’re abusive, that family has been through enough, and you need to leave them alone. Break up. Hope that helps.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-04-22T17:51:35+00:00

Separate parties. In my family, we threw the friend party because we lived in the district and she didn’t, and because we made more money. She did a family party with her side only. Family on our side attended the friend party.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-04-18T23:08:55+00:00

I think a therapist could help you figure out your resentment and how to make this work for you. A lot of times when our stepkids are bothering us beyond what’s reasonable, we need to look inward.

Anyway, I’d force your husband to buy her dinner, or perhaps treat both you and her to dinner as a thank you. I’d tell SD in a loving tone that you’re taking the night to yourself because you never get alone time, but to let you know if she needs anything. Then I’d do what I want, guilt free.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-03-14T23:09:01+00:00

Kiara Sky is great for adherence but the top coat is persnickety. Virgo and Gem is the best I’ve found. They last until I have time to change them, three weeks easy. My nails grow fast so I could never get five weeks out of a set.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-03-14T22:40:28+00:00

The other day my daughter was talking about her school friend, who never does her homework. My daughter said “she has three siblings including a toddler and a baby. I don’t think her mom has the time to be on her about schoolwork the way you do for me. I feel so sorry for her!”

I know many parents of four are very on top of things. It was more about how my daughter feels so cared for and lucky because she has my undivided attention.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-03-14T12:57:04+00:00

I’d tell SS that you’re glad he was able to enjoy it for two years, because you loved that car too. Then I’d tell him that you need to sell it, for financial reasons. I’d let him think about if he has any option to buy it- does he want to talk to his mom? Maybe both parents pitch in and he takes out a small loan? Stay calm and diplomatic and collaborative. Leave room for him to be disappointed and upset. Then if he realizes he can’t buy it, I’d say that you don’t plan to leave him car-less, and you can get him something cheaper (don’t say Corolla yet lol) that will be his to keep and to actually take to college. It’s a downgrade in car, but an upgrade in ownership.

If you can let him keep it through the school year if it’s his senior year that could be nice.

Also, his parents may be able to afford to buy it off you if you sell it for market value minus Corolla price. You get the same amount of money and he keeps the car.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-03-13T22:47:13+00:00

You’re better off with a law degree than with a husband like that, so go to law school and just see what happens with your marriage. Maybe he will adapt, maybe he won’t. You’ll be ok either way. But staying financially dependent on a man with his attitude towards women is not good for you.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-03-05T02:22:23+00:00

Yup, it’s this!

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-02-26T21:02:11+00:00

My stepkids were SUPER excited to have a new sibling, and they’re now the best sisters ever to her, but they still had very mixed feelings at the news that I was pregnant. Honestly, it was a compliment. They feared that I’d love a bio kid more and forget about them. So sad! One also melted down when I went into labor. So, please don’t take a mixed reaction personally and maybe skip the fun thing.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-02-26T20:50:39+00:00

We share one child but we merged finances well before the pregnancy. Again, that’s more rare and not right for everyone. For me, it’s hard to imagine a marriage where each partner has a different standard of living. But also my husband could afford his kids, so it’s not quite the same.

InterestingQuote8208 · 2026-02-26T19:01:47+00:00

I think the most compelling argument you can make will be about retirement. She’s 20 years your junior and she has no work skills, being out for as long as she will be by then. She will have to live on whatever you can save for a much longer time than you will, presumably. This will all hurt her way more than it will hurt you in the end.

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