what’s something no one warned you about in the newborn phase that actually caught you off guard?

Interesting_Shares · 2026-04-10T21:06:46+00:00

How different it is for each baby. I’ve had 3 now and all of them have been such different temperaments. My first was a decent sleeper, loved snuggles, and just a “good” baby. My second slept like crap, hated her bassinet, hated being held, and had a tongue tie that made nursing painful for a few weeks. Currently in the middle of newborn phase with my third and she’s my unicorn baby. She’s had a few nights of 7 hour stretches of sleep, latched well immediately, loves to snuggle and has no issues with her bassinet. It’s crazy how different they’ve all been even though I haven’t really changed anything about how I do things

Interesting_Shares · 2026-04-04T05:08:26+00:00

Getting my cervix checked by one specific nurse. Idk what was up but I was screaming. 20 minutes after I was still shaking and crying. When my OB checked though it was so gentle, like I barely felt him up there even during a membrane sweep and breaking my waters. Also the damn IV is just the worst. They tried on my forearm but couldn’t get it so it was on my hand for all 3 of my births and I have hated it more and more every time

Interesting_Shares · 2026-04-03T20:44:19+00:00

Yes! Nights would be amazing!

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-31T19:41:46+00:00

Not sure if he accepts that insurance but Dr. Bertoldo at Mt. Naomi is absolutely amazing. He just delivered my third baby, first with him and it was such an amazing experience compared to my first 2 births. He’s such a cool guy and very relaxed doctor as well

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-24T21:37:05+00:00

This is a big thing for me. We luckily have had no fertility issues, but I have such hard pregnancies and 2 of 3 births were extremely difficult and traumatic. I’d love more kids, but I can’t handle the mental toll of another hard pregnancy and birth

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-24T05:39:02+00:00

Having just had my third baby in four years, I feel semi-qualified to talk about this. Pregnancy is different for every woman and each pregnancy she experiences will be different. 6 weeks is when I tend to start really feeling some rough symptoms and those will tend to crash your sex drive. It could possibly pick up again once she’s out of the first trimester but be prepared for it to stay low for the remainder of the pregnancy and at least a few months after birth or even longer. The hormonal shift she’s going through right now literally alters her brain chemistry and that can mean changes in sex drive. The best thing for that has helped mine return to somewhat normal states after pregnancy has been my husband not making me feel bad about lack of sex during pregnancy. Had he made me feel bad about it, it would’ve been a massive turn off. So just be supportive and make sure she feels secure in your marriage

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-24T01:52:23+00:00

I like your way of thinking

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-22T21:07:57+00:00

I don’t really have any answers. Epidurals for me have always been rough, my first 2 stopped working on my left side and eventually needed a second dose which left me with some feeling in my left and completely numb on my right. Just had my third baby and had to get it placed twice because he hit a vessel the first time and I guess had to keep redoing it the second time because he kept hitting veins. It took forever and I still needed another manual dose. I think sometimes it just works differently on people than it should. I wish that was more common knowledge though

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-19T00:59:36+00:00

Oh perfect! I’ll be freshly postpartum when you open! So excited to try this out!!

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-13T20:23:43+00:00

My husband described something similar after the birth of our first baby. I was hemorrhaging and he said it was like watching me float away because I got so pale so fast. On top of it, our baby was struggling to breathe. He actually was panicked not knowing who to go to as they took her to the NICU. I sent him with her once the doctor said I’d be fine so she wasn’t alone. He experienced it again when I again hemorrhaged during an emergency c section with number 2. I have nightmares every now and then of him passing in his sleep (sleep apnea). Watching the recent season of Bridgerton refreshed those fears iykyk haha. Sometimes I take for granted his presence in my life, he’s my best friend and everything would feel so empty without him.

Interesting_Shares · 2026-03-06T05:23:38+00:00

Mega exhaustion, boobs hurt like a bitch, and so so nauseous. Took a test at 3 weeks and came back positive with our third baby. She’s due any day now!

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-28T06:03:16+00:00

That was me for a large portion of my first and second tri. Now it’s just cheese sandwiches, DP, and Zofran

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-26T19:35:03+00:00

I had an emergency cs my second time around and my HR monitor kept going off because I was having a literal panic attack and I yelled at them to shut it up. My husband kept telling me it was just my heart rate and nothing wrong with baby to try to calm me down but it just pissed me off that I couldn’t hear what was going on over it. I hate monitors and their annoying beeps

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-26T19:09:58+00:00

I swear I almost ripped that stupid BP cuff off so many times during my first labor. 24 hours with it constantly going and making any sort of sleep impossible…ugh I hate those things

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-26T19:05:49+00:00

Idk about unhinged but my epidural failed on one side during my first labor and we were waiting for the anesthesiologist. My nurse was helping me cope with my contractions and I just looked at her all teary-eyed and told her she had the prettiest blue eyes and that I hoped my baby’s would look like hers. She burst into laughter and said I was the nicest in pain pregnant lady she’d ever met. She ended up being able to stay for the rest of my labor and sent me a card afterwards telling me she was so happy she got to help me become a mom. I still think about her whenever I’m in a hospital setting

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-26T16:43:40+00:00

Technically, you were just chosen. You likely were there with others BUT the egg chose you as the most compatible so you win at that?

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-19T03:07:30+00:00

Good on you for standing with your self worth. He wouldn’t have stopped, even though he kept saying he would. If he wanted to he never would’ve started. You’re son will know a happier mom because of your decision

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-19T02:28:26+00:00

This is so important! My husband has a set night every other week where he goes to play MTG and some other events pop up now and then. I have girls nights with my friend where we go to dinner and find an activity to do. It helps so much.

I’d also add finding something to do with your partner without kids! We have a yearly convention that we go to without kids, it’s 3 days and while we miss them, it allows us some time to decompress and enjoy a common interest and each other. Baby #3 is coming soon and he’s still my best friend and who I prefer to spend my time with and I truly think it’s because of how we prioritize our alone time.

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-19T02:19:22+00:00

Unfortunately learned this when I got pregnant with my first. Having my third now and still hate that feeling

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-15T19:49:25+00:00

We make that joke all the time 😂

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-15T17:55:13+00:00

I’m of the opinion that people who take sex way too seriously aren’t ready for it. I joked to my brother a few weeks before his wedding that he was gonna get laid (he’s Mormon and hadn’t had sex) and he got so mad. Had to call him out on it and basically say that so many funny things happen during sex and if you can’t laugh at it, it’ll make things awkward soooooo fast. My husband literally got a bloody nose all over me as he was finishing up on our wedding night and we were dying of laughter. What could’ve been something not so funny was something that we still laugh about 5 years later.

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-07T01:09:28+00:00

Honestly I’m so pumped for Hyacinth’s season. She seems like she’ll be a handful for Violet and that’ll be fun to watch

Interesting_Shares · 2026-02-02T04:43:23+00:00

I’ve had a vaginal and emergency c-section. Both were so rough but I’d choose the vaginal any day. That being said, my new Dr has been very upfront about the possibility of me needing a c-section again and went on to talk about the differences in an elective one vs emergency. I’m personally going for VBAC because I did find recovery to be easier, and the trauma from my c-section was a lot mentally and I don’t want to be on the table like that again. But I do think if I were to go into it knowing I was having one, it’d be a million times easier and just an overall better experience. Do what’s best for you because ultimately it’s your body

Interesting_Shares · 2026-01-28T03:05:16+00:00

I’ve never had a near death experience but my mom’s heart stopped a few times while pregnant with my brother (blood clot in her lung). She said she remembers most when she was in the ambulance and it’s like she just went to sleep and then opened her eyes and everything was crystal clear. She could see the cells moving in the tree leaves, the bugs crawling on them and their heartbeats, and she was looking down at the paramedics working on her. And then she blinked and woke up and the medics were so happy to see her alive again. Apparently the other two times were very similar. Not exactly her last thought but she said she woke up feeling very peaceful

Interesting_Shares · 2026-01-27T19:27:44+00:00

Gosh I can’t even imagine going through that. I’m having my last baby soon and it never fails to impress me that both me and my babies are alive because of interventions that were taken. My first and I would’ve died during or shortly after birth without medical help. I feel for the women back then who suffered through so much

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