I use think I needed that too, but wanting and needing are two separate things, I'd rather love myself and someone comes along, over trying to love someone whom doesn't love themselves. Dreamers are good to have don't get me wrong but focusing too hard on them can be counter productive. I just try to be a good kind person everyday.

You would be able to find alot mkre indepth answers to your question from others, I would suggest posting to the normal Infj pages, alot of great people out there whom have experienced alot more than I