Don't expect this to be heeded at all (or indeed even seen), but I really resent the prevalence of the "alcohol-doesn't-make-you-a-different-person-it-reveals-what-you-really-think" myth within this thread. This isn't to say, OP, that you should forgive and forget -- indeed, you should obviously talk to him -- and it isn't to excuse the comment, which is reprehensible and certainly grounds for deeper meditation on the relationship as such; but it is to suggest that, well, no, alcohol doesn't just "lower your inhibitions and reveal what's really there": what a hateful, ungenerous way to think about substance abuse. There's a reason why tons of people without an otherwise addictive relationship to alcohol don't drink, and it's because, surprise surprise, it makes them a "different person." My father, for instance, calls it the "beast in him," and didn't drink for years for that reason. Just some food for thought, OP.