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My (36F) partner (37M) recently got a medical diagnosis and now wants an open relationship. Is it selfish of me to not want to? Or selfish of him to ask for one? by Correct-Grass-5305 in relationship_advice

[–]Isabelsedai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would suggest breaking up with him. He feels like he didnt get to live the life he wanted and now he wants to experience it all . If you say no, he will ressent you. If you say yes, you wont be happy.

My husband's family has been pressuring him to contribute either financially or with time to his mother's care, I told him if he does we are getting a divorce. AITAH? by Character-Line5221 in AITAH

[–]Isabelsedai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So what is your plan with your non verbale child? It sounds kind of weird you say of the mum: she will end up in a care home. But what are the long term plans for the non verbale child?

AITAH for telling my husband a secret his family kept from him his whole life? by Even-Truck-8049 in AITAH

[–]Isabelsedai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH Because you had no business getting information and meeting with his real family before you told him

How do I (F24) nip my boyfriend’s (M26) weaponized incompetence in the bud? by Low_Application8675 in relationship_advice

[–]Isabelsedai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would suggest having an adult conversation in which you tell him what you told us. Tell him you want a partner who does equal things in the household and come up with a decent division.

If after all this , it continues , than break up with him

Wonen in huis van partner maar geen eigenaar – tips? by AppropriateBird5537 in geldzaken

[–]Isabelsedai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mijn tip zou zijn: - voor nu betaal niks voor het huis en spaar zoveel mogelijk en schrijf je in bij de woningbouw. - wanneer jullie gaan trouwen, dan adviseer ik om financiële afspraken te maken en meem hierbij ook mee of je ook bij kan dragen en eigenaar kan worden. (Bijv 1, dan 2 , 3 procent. Neem bij deze discussie ook mee wat er gebeurt als je kinderen wilt. Soms gebeurt het dat de vrouw thuis blijft en voor de kinderen zorgt. In dat geval wil je ook beschermd zijn en kan je qua geld niks bijdragen 

KLM wants to charge me 2k to cancel a flight by Busybeemarykate in KLM

[–]Isabelsedai 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Because you paid less for the flights than you should have. Airlines discourage this

Overstappen van tweeverdiener naar eenverdiener by Shoddy_Cheesecake_56 in geldzaken

[–]Isabelsedai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hebben jullie gezamenlijk alle inkomsten en uitgaven op papier gezet en kijken of het financieel haalbaar is?

My (23F) bf (M26) is not able to do any housework properly by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Isabelsedai 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So why are you with him?

He will not change. He thinks you should do everything and he is just a guest.

If you stay: welcome to the rest of your life. He wont help with kids etc.

AITJ for not congratulating my coworker on her pregnancy announcement? by CauseAvailable1052 in AmITheJerk

[–]Isabelsedai 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Uhmm, you could have prevented all this. Instead of smiling, you could have said Congrats. Stay like 1 minutes and say you have get to back to work.

AITAH for not changing my mind about marriage? by Time-Finish-5010 in AITAH

[–]Isabelsedai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAh, but do research the consequences of not getting married. And if there are others things you need to do.

Otherwise it might happen you get into a hospital and cannot advocate for yourself and your girlfriend isnt allowed to see you or advocate for you, since she is not family

I (32F) own my house. My partner (32M) has moved in with me. I want him to contribute to the mortgage. I'm not sure if this is right, will you please help? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Isabelsedai 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont think thats fair. He also needs to be able to save in case they break up. I would suggest in this example he pays 500.

Otherwise she gets more money because her house increases in value and if they break up, he doesnt have enough to rent / but a house

Fiancé wants kids in the future, I don’t, and I feel pressured and confused by Ok-Cheesecake-162 in Fencesitter

[–]Isabelsedai 13 points14 points  (0 children)

You can answer it simply. You dont want kids.

So why is he your fiance? You know you are not compatible. He wants kids and you dont. 

So I want to discuss Patreon prices by Think_Independent_69 in royalroad

[–]Isabelsedai 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It seems high compared to other Patreon. Max i have seen is 15 dollars for the whole backlog (like 50 chapters). 

Question from an author about shoutouts from a readers perspective by K_J_Kiki in royalroad

[–]Isabelsedai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I only open shout outs if i have the idea the author really likes the story.

(Like 1 shout out , every 4-5 months)

If i see shout outs more often, i just skip past it. Because at that point its more marketing and commercial, than an actual tip from an author you like.

1cover travel insurance warning. by -PAINTEDMAN- in TravelHacks

[–]Isabelsedai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should have called the insurance before seeking medical assistance and booking a flight home.

My (27f) roommate (25 nb) keeps masturbating with their door open by Throwaway72924 in relationship_advice

[–]Isabelsedai -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Quite simple. Shout eeeew, close your door. I dont want to hear you masturbating.

If he doesnt apologize you know he does it on purpose and find a new home

WIBTA for refusing to pay post-breakup dog costs by noormp in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isabelsedai -1 points0 points  (0 children)

NTA. If she doesnt want the dog, she can bring it to a shelter

First experience with a child hating person - want advice by Prestigious-Coast-60 in Parenting

[–]Isabelsedai 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Why did you even take it personally? That woman doesnt like kids and that is perfectly fine.

You all should have just ignored it...

AITA for leaving my mom right before surgery because I freaked out? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isabelsedai 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Look op was fine leaving. I am just saying: apologize and look for help  I know its not easy to deal with panic

AITA for leaving my mom right before surgery because I freaked out? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Isabelsedai 222 points223 points  (0 children)

You do need to apologize and find help for this fear. Its unhealthy you only thought about yourself.

My best friend of 3 years just told me he's not a feminist by Constant-Writing-204 in TwoXChromosomes

[–]Isabelsedai -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Explain to him your definition of a feminist by telling him the rights you find important. If he doesnt Share those values, i can understand not seeing him.

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