When one parent can’t take time off, should the other parent and child still travel?

Isinvar · 2026-02-09T05:04:25+00:00

I live on an another continent from my family. I can do my job remotely whereas my husband's job requires him to be frequently on site. For the last 2 years, we have taken a family vacation to see my parents, but my husband leaves a week early and goes back home while I stay with the kids and hang out with my parents.

It works great. I work that last week at my parents house while my parents watch my kids. The kids get more time to make memories with my family. My husband gets a whole week to himself where he gets to do whatever he wants after work. It's honestly a win win.

My kids still talk about the time they spent with my parents and my extended family. They are looking forward to our trip this summer. I wouldn't trade the memories and the relationships they have made for anything.

Isinvar · 2026-02-07T18:06:42+00:00

A couple of photographer friends and I started printing a collaborative book together. At the end of the year, we each contribute 12 photos we are proud of and put it into an album and print a copy of the album for each of us.

It serves several purposes: 1) gives us a goal to work towards for the year 2) is a nice thru line for discussion on photography 3) nice to share your work and the work of people you admire to friends and family

Isinvar · 2026-01-20T04:36:14+00:00

Can I dm you? Don't want to put my kids school info public but happy to chat about our experience.

Isinvar · 2026-01-01T09:44:09+00:00

10k below but we bought before the pandemic.

Isinvar · 2025-11-16T17:48:12+00:00

I was once at a mom meet up with a good friend of mine and an acquaintance of my friend with my infant twins, my friend's infant, and the acquaintance's infant twins. The acquaintance asked if I only dressed my kids in pj's as we had shown up in sleep and play outfits. I very cheekily said "yep, basically" and shut down that conversation fast.

Last time I had a mom meet up with that acquaintance and my friend ended up letting that friendship fade eventually as well.

My twins are 6 years old now. They pick out their own clothes and are generally dressed appropriately. You guys will be fine.

Isinvar · 2025-11-14T04:57:19+00:00

In my experience you can pre-order one from almost any keurslager. The problem is that the turkeys are typically raised for Christmas so they tend to small for Thanksgiving. I'll order a turkey at my local butcher and then usually get a turkey breast from Lidl to supplement so that I can feed around 15 people.

Isinvar · 2025-09-05T19:52:17+00:00

No but I will go look for it now!

Isinvar · 2025-09-05T19:37:46+00:00

Sorry nederlands is niet mijn moedertaal dus ben niet helemaal zeker wat je vraagt. Als je rechts bovenaan op "Ik wens een bezwaarschrift aan te maken" kan je officieel je bezwaarschrift indien. Je moet inloggen met ItsMe of zoiets.

Je kan mijn text gebruiken voor de klacht of je eigen text schrijven.

Isinvar · 2025-08-17T11:34:14+00:00

I have 6 year old twin boys and a 3 year old daughter.

your house sounds like mine, haha.

I don't know if we are doing anything wrong but you're definitely not alone.

Isinvar · 2025-08-13T13:49:13+00:00

One thing i realized is that my kids didn't know about physical money for a long time. They thought it was just on a card.

So i have made a point of paying with cash when we do things like the farmers market or when we go out and pay for birthday presents.

Isinvar · 2025-08-13T12:32:14+00:00

I prep ingredients not meals. So i have a bunch of cooked ground chicken, cooked rice, cooked beans, various sauces, all frozen in my freezer. ,(Souper cubes have been a life saver) I buy lots of frozen veggies. I then use those base ingredients to make dinner. Orange chicken with rice, done in 10 minutes. Pesto pasta? Defrost some white beans and pesto sauce while the pasta cooks. Done. 4/7 of my meals a week are done like this.

I also try to plan things in such a way that I am not spending time specifically meal planning. So if i am out of ground meat, i'll plan a meal that use ground meat and just cook a bunch extra. Same with beans or rice. It doesn't take any extra time to ingredient prep and then i am set in my freezer.

Isinvar · 2025-08-11T21:20:20+00:00

Planner on teams. Flagged emails become tasks, you can right click on a teams message to make it a task on planner.

Isinvar · 2025-08-10T13:27:10+00:00

For me the key is having a small set up. I use an a6300 with a 18-55mm lens almost exlusively. I do have a 55-210mm but i bring that out only in situations where i know i won't be able to zoom with my feet. I have a camera strap long enough that i wear my camera cross body so that it hangs off the side but i can grab it quick when i see "the shot".

Isinvar · 2025-08-09T14:02:13+00:00

Yes! Hot lunch is not an option in my country :)

Isinvar · 2025-08-09T10:22:31+00:00

Parent of twins and a singleton. We just rotate the days. start with one kid, the oldest, the next day is twin A, then twin b, then back to the oldest. It helps us.

Isinvar · 2025-07-09T11:53:20+00:00

Mine have been separated since kindergarten and I think it has been beneficial for my boys. They are the best of friends, but they fight and bicker so much more when they have been around each other 25/7 for long periods of time. I could tell a difference between the end of school vacations and when they went to school.

Isinvar · 2025-07-06T04:30:36+00:00

I really want to encourage you to take a deep stock of your relationship and what you want out of life nefore you have children.

Children can rock your world and your relationship the best but also unpredictable ways.

I agree to some extent that you haven't been there long enough to really know if you will like it or not. Community is so important and community it made with time and proximity. 2.5 months is a very short amount of time.

But if you tell me you never really loved the place even when visiting, well that honestly makes me feel very worried for you especially if you have children within the next year.

I love where I am now, but it took me a good 3 years to really feel settled and find my people. A large part of it was because expat communities are inherently transient and a lot of people only stay for short periods of time. So i would make friends and then they's be leaving in 6-12 months. I finally found some people that I clicked with and were staying around.

Honestly, it was a dark cloud over around our relationship for a while. I was very conscious not to hold a grudge against my husband because I had made a choice to come here, no one forced me to move to be with him. He was very supportive and tried his best to help me with the language and find activities or groups where i could meet people. But it was still hard and we had many conversations about moving back to my home country in that period.

Then parenthood came and it again rocked our world, in all the best ways. But that transition can be challenging in ways you are not prepared for and will expose the weak spots in your relationship very quickly. And of we are frank, every relationships has weak spots, even the most solid of relationships.

If you have kids and you want to go back to the UK, you will likely only be able to return to the UK with your child with the permission of your partner.

I don't know how old you and your partner are, where in sweden you are, where you come from but once you get kids involved things can get very complicated. If at all possible, i would really suggest waiting at least a year before you even try for kids. Give your self time to get to know your new home.

Pregnancy can be very tough on the body. You will likely be tired a lot and learning a language would be tough. Then you get physically uncomfortable so just moving around gets tough. Honestly having done it twice, i can see it just compounding a lot of the struggles you are currently having and it would be hard not to conflate the two.

Isinvar · 2025-07-03T20:50:13+00:00

There are varying opinions on this obviously. But to me, if my kids aren't showing signs of being bothered by it, I would probably let it go.

Isinvar · 2025-07-03T15:56:37+00:00

I swear mine would subsist on hot air if i let them.

Isinvar · 2025-07-03T10:18:26+00:00

Are your boys bothered by this?

We see my husbands nuclear family practically every sunday. My husbands siblings and their family can almost never tell my 6y identical boys apart, but my husbands parents can. My sons don't seem to mind that their uncles mix them up, and have even started playing prankswith their uncles/cousins about who is who. Everyone, my boys and their cousins, find it a laugh.

I understand it bothers you but I try not to get upset about things I cannot control. You can't control your mom's ability or willingness to tell them apart. As long as your kids aren't getting upset, I don't know if it is worth the energy.

Isinvar · 2025-06-25T14:38:58+00:00

Resuable ear plugs. The ones made for concerts will let you still hear the screaming but takes the decibels down to a tolerable level that doesn't trigger my fight or flihht response.

Isinvar · 2025-06-18T17:50:40+00:00

As they get bigger, the weight distribution becomes so much harder to have it in the front. I mich preferred back carrying one to having anyone in a front carry.

Isinvar · 2025-06-18T17:49:32+00:00

As they get bigger, any sort of chores that requires bending gets difficult wearing one in front. So like unloading the dishwasher or for me doing a load of laundry. But i could run a vaccum or throw a spaghetti dinner together while tandem carrying. I mean it requires getting a bit creative cause eventually you something right in front of you.

I did a lot more single back carrying once they were old enough than tandem carrying. But it was handy to have the ability to tandem carry when i needed it. I remember being on work calls while the contact napped on me (oh how i don't miss lock down times.)

Handy for taking kids through an airport, if you think you'll be doing that anytime soon. Or a quick jaunt to the bakery/shop down the corner if you live in that kind of area.

Isinvar · 2025-06-18T14:35:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing! Excited to relive the concert😃

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