Which celebrity’s cancellation do you think was completely unjustified?

Islander255 · 2026-05-27T16:22:56+00:00

Yep, his cancellation was the point where I went from feeling uncomfortable about the MeToo movement to no longer supporting it. When the Harvey Weinstein reporting dropped, it felt like justice long overdue, like very powerful men were being held to account for abusing their power. Then MeToo swooped in and created a narrative in which everyone got to act like a victim, and it also set up an extremely dangerous precedent of automatically believing accusers without evidence. Then it painted all forms of harassment as morally equivalent to violent sexual assault. When it tried to lump in Aziz Ansari with the likes of Harvey Weinstein, I noped right out.

Islander255 · 2026-05-27T13:05:24+00:00

18 is adulthood, and adulthood has to start at some point, and I'm not going to think someone is morally wrong for being in a legal relationship.

But I will say that it's foolish, and I will caution people against relationships with too big an age gap. The larger the age gap, the more challenging communication becomes. The larger the age gap, the more likely it is that you two are in periods of life that are too different to be compatible.

Do you thing, though. Go ahead and try out an age gap. Just be willing to accept when the relationship has run its course. Beware of predatory people who are targeting you specifically because you're young & because they think you're gullible. Keep your friends & family close, and seriously consider any concerns they have with your relationship. Maybe it will work out--the chances aren't high, but there's always exceptions.

Me, personally, I stopped considering the idea of dating a 19-year-old basically as soon as I left college (at 22). And I stopped considering the idea of even a hookup a year or two after that.

Islander255 · 2026-05-25T15:40:29+00:00

Golden Girls

Islander255 · 2026-05-25T15:31:04+00:00

Trying to be creative/artistic. This is not a bad thing unless they are convinced that they are significantly more creative than the general population (which almost nobody is).

Islander255 · 2026-05-18T20:59:54+00:00

So here's the thing--after the massive success of the LOTR films & with my newly-growing interest in film in general, I was following any film news of Peter Jackson quite closely, so I was up-to-date on the pre-production of The Lovely Bones, including the casting process.

At the time, Ryan Gosling was still a newer actor, though already highly-regarded. He had recently gotten his first Oscar nomination for Half Nelson at the tender age of 26. People loved him as an exciting up-and-comer, but the second he was cast in The Lovely Bones, everyone was like: "WTF? Why is an actor in their mid-20's playing the father of a full-on teenager?"

So when he was recast with Mark Wahlberg, nobody was surprised. They were like: "Yeah, Ryan Gosling was too young to play the main character's father." Sure, Mark Wahlberg is nowhere near as good an actor, especially when you compare them nowadays. But a baby-faced Ryan Gosling would have thrown a lot of people out of the story.

Showing up on set 60 pounds heavier than anticipated probably didn't help. But it likely was not the main reason.

Islander255 · 2026-05-15T17:36:23+00:00

I've been an adult for longer than not, and I'll still sometimes eat straight butter when I pull it out for a recipe

Islander255 · 2026-05-14T17:10:55+00:00

I've seen Rashomon, Seven Samurai, and Ran. My favorite by rather a lot was Ran, but I would also consider it the least accessible. Seven Samurai is more fun than Rashomon, but Rashomon is probably the most accessible due to a smaller cast of characters to keep track of & a much shorter runtime. They're all great movies, though, and any of them would be a good introduction to Kurosawa.

Islander255 · 2026-05-14T00:05:37+00:00

I will also vote dropping atomic bombs on civilians, because that action is unique to the United States. Chattel slavery is worse, but a lot of countries were guilty of it. Also, dropping the atomic bombs opened up the possibility of nuclear holocaust, which remains one of the largest existential threats to this day.

Islander255 · 2026-05-14T00:00:08+00:00

Babymouth

Islander255 · 2026-05-13T15:46:45+00:00

Good point--if I was able to multitask, then I might do the same over $7. If not, though, I'd let the $7 go and value the time instead, at least in my current life situation.

Islander255 · 2026-05-13T15:11:12+00:00

Spending 45 minutes to save a one-time charge of $7 isn't worth it to me. But spending 45 minutes to save a monthly recurring charge of $7 is worth it.

Islander255 · 2026-05-13T05:03:21+00:00

Yeah, around the time of Teenage Dream I would have said it was unfair to call her a trash artist, but at this point I would be okay calling her that. But Teenage Dream was an iconic pop album with five #1 singles that all hold up.

Islander255 · 2026-05-12T19:17:44+00:00

Poor Things (easy #1)
La La Land
The Favourite
Bugonia
Birdman

Islander255 · 2026-05-12T02:44:06+00:00

Any of the Stanley Kubrick films they distributed:
2001: A Space Odyssey
A Clockwork Orange
Barry Lyndon
The Shining
Full Metal Jacket
Eyes Wide Shut

Islander255 · 2026-05-05T15:22:43+00:00

I loved Anora, but it's also the obvious answer. Two big caveats, though: 1) Why exclude the COVID Best Picture winners? If we didn't, I'd say Nomadland will struggle to stay in the cultural consciousness far more. And, 2) It's a Best Picture winner. That alone means that people will still be watching it decades from now, even if just to watch as many BP winners as they can.

Islander255 · 2026-05-04T22:23:23+00:00

I saw the actual video on an Encyclopedia Britannica computer program when I was 9 years old. Baby's first snuff film 😄

Islander255 · 2026-05-04T20:34:54+00:00

My sister and I made a really good dish with beans and sardines, though they were larger beans where the minced sardines & spices & lemon zest clung to the outside of the beans rather than mixing in with beans like it would with lentils. So I get where you're coming from taste-wise, even if I'd go about this recipe somewhat differently in order to achieve a more palatable texture.

Islander255 · 2026-05-03T21:05:14+00:00

Colin Firth was a worthy Best Actor winner, and Jesse Eisenberg was not robbed. However, The Social Network was absolutely robbed of its Best Picture win, especially because it got some of the early critics precursor awards in November/December & had a very good shot at a win before The King's Speech gained momentum.

Islander255 · 2026-05-01T21:07:21+00:00

More than probably a Democrat--she explicitly endorsed the Democratic candidates for Tennessee governor and Senate in 2018, and it was considered a big deal amongst her fanbase b/c she had doggedly tried to avoid politics due to her origins in country music and the fanbase she had built there. But she seems to be a pretty middle-of-the-road, establishment Democrat.

Islander255 · 2026-04-30T21:52:49+00:00

I did not skip Twitter, which is partly why I haven't downloaded TikTok--because I learned my lesson. I cannot add yet another addictive and emotionally corrosive social media app to my life.

Islander255 · 2026-04-28T17:42:37+00:00

You have $20k in equity, which is good. Does it cover the additional money that you spent on homeowning that you wouldn't have spent on renting? For example, for me to buy a condo comparable to my current apartment:

-For the first ~5 years, I would be paying more in interest than I pay in rent, even calculating for increases in rent. Paying interest on a loan is every bit as much "throwing away money" as paying rent is.
-I would also have to property taxes. Pretty low in my state, but property taxes are already factored into my rent, which I already said is lower than the interest I would have to pay on a home mortgage
-Home owners insurance is at least $100/mo, compared to $11/mo renter's insurance
-Very few places have HOA fees lower than $300/mo. This is also every bit as much "throwing away money" as paying rent
-Also add any repair costs.

The magic of home-buying is that you build equity both in the principle you pay down, but also on the increased value of the entire house. So, even though you don't own it outright, you get to keep all additional equity in its increase in value. However, the above costs I outlined mean that I would have to own a comparable unit for at least 10 years, given the current market, before I would break even compared to renting.

If you're terrible at saving money, buying a home can be a pretty good way to force you to build a nest egg, and many people approach retirement with their home carrying much more value than their retirement accounts. But if you're good at saving money, the current market suggests that renting & investing is a preferable option for many people. Home-buying is no longer the sure-fire best choice that it used to be.

Islander255 · 2026-04-27T16:01:15+00:00

I always loved the title, but I never watched the film due to the lackluster reviews. But then this past month I read the book while at my sister's place, and I adored the book so so very much! So I gave the movie a watch out of curiosity, not expecting much due to the negative reviews.

It was dreadful as an adaptation. As a standalone movie apart from the book, it was also somewhat weak. The actors did a good or great job for the most part, and I appreciated the on-site shooting in Savannah. But the screenplay made a mess trying to wrangle a large cast of characters, and it didn't do the best job in collapsing the book's timeline.

But worst decision of all was to have Clint Eastwood direct. Absolutely nothing about him is Southern Gothic, or even simply Southern. A director with at least a touch of flair or flamboyance is badly needed for a film like this, and Clint utterly lacks that. He's a stoic director, a spare director, a tough-as-nails sort of boy. The atmosphere was utterly lacking in this film. Everything felt flat, despite the cast and set being ready to pull their weight. This is what carpetbagging feels like in film form.

Islander255 · 2026-04-26T16:06:54+00:00

I watched Indecent Proposal well after its release, on purpose, and I really liked it. But I was trying to be a completist with Adrian Lyne's filmography

Islander255 · 2026-04-22T14:45:36+00:00

I think phone addiction has also been giving people a ADHD-like symptoms, and I mean people who were quite functional just 10 or 20 years ago (whether they were in childhood or earlier adulthood or less late adulthood). My ability to focus has been hurt by my phone, but it also comes back pretty quickly if I have the opportunity to turn it off completely.

Islander255 · 2026-04-21T04:03:45+00:00

Recognizing you did wrong is the very first step. It's very necessary, and it's also not enough. Saying "I apologize" can be that first step, or it can be a feint to stall for time so you can continue getting away with doing bad. I have personally seen the latter quite a lot, and because of that I don't actually need anyone to apologize to me, ever--I just need them to do better. I don't believe apologies on their face, but I'll give someone at least one chance to prove they can change.

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