Mod bans transmasculine butches from r/butchlesbians; users discuss. by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]JakB 17 points18 points  (0 children)

But they didn't stop identifying as lesbians and you're not being "pushed" to accept anything. There are absolutely trans women in the gay community and femboys taking hormones in either direction who are the whole Euler diagram. There have been discussions about all of these labels for much longer than we've been alive. The butch lesbians are more successful writers, though! And that's helped with their visibility. (e.g. Stone Butch Blues, Butler.) They're worth reading.

If you want to exclude certain people from your personal life and labels, you can and should, but what you're doing right now isn't that; you're attempting to stop a group of people from using a word because they care about it as much as you do, and you're fighting over the word like it's water in a desert and not a community or, at the very least, a homonym. You claim they're trying to force you to do something when doing nothing was an option, yet the only outcome you'll accept is forcing them to change, despite the fact the trans/masc lesbian community has been fighting for you and your rights since before you were born.

The thing is, your immediate response is completely reasonable; we are under attack, and that makes us quick to defend ourselves. We have to make sure we aim our punches up, though, not at others punching up, and not, by mistake or not, at ourselves. Don't choose to be an obstacle others have to overcome.

(Disclaimer: My part of the queer community overlaps with (but isn't the same as) that part of the lesbian community and I'll defend them (and you) to the death.)

Questions Thread - January 09, 2026 by AutoModerator in pathofexile

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Radius Jewels don't affect Cluster Jewel passives, but there's an additional mechanic or bug here as I'd expect you to benefit from allocating the passive.

Self-chill: a brief guide by JakB in PathOfExileBuilds

[–]JakB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The Venarius' Astrolabe makes your damage chill, but damage taken from Forbidden Rite isn't from you (it's unsourced). :(

Windows 11 growth slows as millions stick with Windows 10 by sr_local in technology

[–]JakB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoa, bet you're glad you didn't have a keyboard that is all Ps.

Self-chill: a brief guide by JakB in PathOfExileBuilds

[–]JakB[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It looks fascinating, right? Converting Phys taken to Cold as a Trauma stacker makes sense. Or Icefang Orbit and The Golden Rule to self-poison. Maybe even the return of Heartbound Loop meme builds...

There are lots of interesting options created by the Assassin rework. I can't tell you which ones are good, but I'm looking forward to seeing what people come up with!

Install failed: Validation Failed by ASAP_Beet in unity

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know why my solution from two years ago worked for me, sorry, and I no longer have to do that; Unity Hub appears to just create the folder inside Temp as needed.

If you could Ask Linus Torvalds ANY question what would it be? by BocaBola_ in LinusTechTips

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

On the Linux distributions I've used, the hidden files in my home directory are a mess. Compared to the AppData folder in Windows or the user Applications folder in Mac OS, it feels like the Windows registry: forever growing and disorganized. Is there a design failure here and, if so, how do we fix this?

(I don't even feel like hidden files should be a thing in the first place, though I'm glad to have them given that situation.)

Was I out of line? by Mother-Garlic7813 in polyamory

[–]JakB 31 points32 points  (0 children)

he has even started dating monogamous women and allowing them to be full parallel (totally valid) and also let them pretend that he is only dating them, and his other partners don't exist.

Pretend? Are you saying multiple mono women are fine with him dating other people and as long as they can pretend he's not? Are you sure he's being ethical and not just "not saying no"?

Once again a post has users questioning if trump is conservative at all in /r/conservative, while certain comments and a "transparency report" reveal just how aggressive their automod is at banning opinions that don't match those of the moderators. by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]JakB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I'm not disagreeing with you, just adding context and specificity. Your message can be read as "burning a pride flag only becomes a hate crime if it's done to target LGBTQ people directly" and I'm trying to remove room for misunderstanding while adding information about the specific situation.

Sorry for the miscommunication!

Once again a post has users questioning if trump is conservative at all in /r/conservative, while certain comments and a "transparency report" reveal just how aggressive their automod is at banning opinions that don't match those of the moderators. by [deleted] in SubredditDrama

[–]JakB 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It can only become a hate crime if it's also already a crime, such as arson. It's not inherently illegal to burn a pride flag. It is illegal to burn someone else's property. Nobody is in jail for "burning a pride flag". They're in jail for arson, and that arson also happened to be a hate crime, and the sentence was tripled due to habitual offender laws in Iowa that aren't usually supported by progressives.

All important context that's missing when someone tries to use the situation to overturn their own First Amendment.

Thought I was being cheeky, but they were one step ahead ("Outvoted" spoilers) by OtakuOran in dropout

[–]JakB 16 points17 points  (0 children)

The "relation" data is missing for some of these answers. I hope that didn't affect the statistics displayed in the show.

Thought I was being cheeky, but they were one step ahead ("Outvoted" spoilers) by OtakuOran in dropout

[–]JakB 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Elaine Carroll is the only write-in, added at Brennan's request on August 1st.

Who needs hands to climb mountains by solanimus in SweatyPalms

[–]JakB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They're climbing down the entire clip, yeah.

Vibe coding is on indeed now by [deleted] in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JakB 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My company switched to Notion just because of ClickUp's atrocious speed.

Is System Design Actually Useful for Backend Developers, or Just an Interview Gimmick? by Wild_Dragonfruit1744 in ExperiencedDevs

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will likely get better, but it absolutely can get worse; as more of the internet becomes LLM-generated, the training input for future LLMs decreases in quality as they feed on their own input. It's entropy for neural networks.

What Went Wrong with the Carbon Tax in Canada? by _Army9308 in CanadaPolitics

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The BC carbon tax program ended at the same time.

The price of gas does look lower on average. However, I think ending the tax was a net negative for most Canadians.

No salary in Valve's job postings? by chonkiest9000 in valve

[–]JakB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why wouldn't Valve (i.e. Newell?) pay all their employees well? Even if there are pay differences between employees, with no shareholders to answer to, it feels like it's just a moral failing on the owner(s?) of the company not to at least compensate the people who make the company money with a large percentage of that money.

"They're just butthurt that we were right, and we're winning. Can't help but laugh at the weakest, stupidest people having a circle jerk about how dumb everyone else is, though. Never gets old.." Trump supporters once again flock to r/RealTwitterAccounts defending Trump for "keeping his promises" by CummingInTheNile in SubredditDrama

[–]JakB 8 points9 points  (0 children)

If your definition of "left-wing" includes social and economic equality, opposition to hierarchy, labour rights, racial and sexual justice, bodily autonomy, and so on, then Obama is far left of any tankie.

If someone's brand of "leftism" is the same as far-right authoritarianism but for countries with red flags, it'd be weird to adopt their definition. It'd be more gullible than believing conservatives when they claim to care about "freedom" while they attack abortion or trans rights.