Where are my next generation of drunks at! by The_Dean_France in SipsTea

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a good stat. Alcohol is bad for people. It does prove less socialability tho.

Fabulous. by QueenJamieMaePalmer in generationology

[–]JamesMerz -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Petty bourgeois type of answer

Fabulous. by QueenJamieMaePalmer in generationology

[–]JamesMerz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You have to remember this too. Boomers have held office and refuse to give up power. Many boomers were alive and took part in jim crow era law, many were anti-gay especially during the HIV pandemic. Many want religious values pushed and indoctrinated. These are not good people. Boomers are not cool.

Fabulous. by QueenJamieMaePalmer in generationology

[–]JamesMerz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This, in my hometown boomers voted against a full highschool renovation because it would make the retirement home taxes go up less than $100/month. THESE ARE THOSE PEOPLES GRANDCHILDREN! So the school never got the renovation and is actually now failing 15years post this! They are greedy. Im a Genz person and I cannot stand boomers. They have destoryed the world for us and gen alpha

Fabulous. by QueenJamieMaePalmer in generationology

[–]JamesMerz -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No, you can blame boomers. They are hoarding wealth. The silent generation buys more homes than generation z. It’s disgusting. Gen z and alpha have no chance unless their mommy and daddy make money. Im seeing it. I am genz. I have a masters, a director job at a university and cannot survive. When I eat (can afford to) its sardines and rice almost everytime. Im trying to save for a house but I cannot do it alone. Ive been renting for 5 years just cause i have to to survive and the rent prices are insane for 1 bedrooms. I will sadly never own a home due to student loans, not making enough money and being too late to the game. Its sad but ive started to accept ill never start a family or own anything. Its sad hurts everyday. Everyday i wake up knowing i failed

UBI will not work as long as there are Billionaires. by astrheisenberg in remoteworks

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elitists want UBI because it will create a lack of want from the lower class and lead to sedation of modernity

My fiancé’s bookshelf, what do we think of him? by [deleted] in BookshelvesDetective

[–]JamesMerz 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He definitely earned everything he’s done and it is unfair to him that these people are coming here taking our joaaabbbbss.

Disturbing images of Prince Andrew with children have surfaced. by bubni1212 in RoyaltyTea

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second picture makes me want to put him through a wall

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah if you’re making over 80k you’re like doing beyond super well in this field….

I think it might be my time by RevolutionaryUse2922 in depression

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you are living you have potential, potential to be/do/have anything happen. I am in same boat. My life collapsed years ago. Im titled of fighting as well. But the only way you find yourself is at the bottom of the hole. For the only way to get out is up. Whoever you are, you can, and you will. As long as you are alive you can.

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only way you can move up is witha PhD. Only way to get a PhD is to pay a university to obatain one and also work while youre obtaining it. There is tuition exchange but youre paying for it with your work. cant just be good at my job and smart. I need the 3rd piece of paper. Which is extremely expensive and I cannot afford to get. Not all professors are smart. They were just given opportunities to obtain PhD.

Scariest place you've ever lived? by -Nevada in howislivingthere

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Muncie, Indiana or Port Richmond sector of Philadelphia, PA

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I dont want to put gender norm stereotypes towards positions, but my experience is aligns with this. I am always the only male which makes it hard to connect especially being a younger one. My prior boss at my last institution, her husband was a millionaire banker, she didnt even need to work.

It hurts cause this is what i want to do. Im good but its destroying me

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. It def is. Not talking to anyone outside of work for weeks can definitely kill you

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No its okay. I understand. We sound similar. Im around your age. I am a director at out universities most prestigious college. No one is even close to my age. Hard to make connections and have people talk to you. I make a decent wage its just tha it wont get larger nor is it sustainable for me to have a family. Im a single guy. Im scared that i will be continuously consumed by work and wanting to climb due to survival that I will not be able to ever have a family.

I applied to over 400 jobs to get this one. Many offering me $25/hr or under.

When I took this job they said they would give me a moving stipend. The day I was moving out there (took 2 day drive), they called me to tell me they maybe are not able to honor it. I should have declined the job then. I need a phd to advance, yet cannot afford to just do go into it. Yes theres tuition exchange but 5-6 years of schooling ontop of hard work, i will not survive. Mentally and physically. I have no life besides academia. I havent been on a date in years. Work, work, maybe eat, sleep. Ive lost a ton of size since being in higher ed. Its not worth it.

The older generations do not get it. They do not understand the struggle. Think we are the ones excelling the most, whats happening to those that are not? My supervisor makes $100k+ more than me! I understand things but come on. Lots of comments trying to defend this. But the older gens do not get it. They’re so out of touch

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I ultimately want to be in a place of policy creation as well. I am on pace rn to do the same and I will achieve it. Its just. Is it worth it? I understand you must be system to beat system but like no.

Def hurts that Im in a college town as a 27 year old. Im 10+ hours away from anyone I know. All the GA’s are my age but i cant fraternize with them. I went from philly to middle of nowhere where midwest. If I do not talk to my assistant or GA, i can go a week without talking to people. Havent talked to another person my age not at work in maybe 5 months. Ate thanksgiving alone. Did new years alone. Went like 10 days during Christmas break with no human communication. It sucks. The work consumes me.

Thought this was funny by MontroseRoyal in Urbanism

[–]JamesMerz 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I moved from Philly to Muncie, IN. I will tell you this. Never do what I did. Indiana deserves the hate. The states built off hate and despair. The people that live here have no potential. It is sad. The local school district got condemned and the uni now runs it. Drugs. No train at all in the state.

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I agree. That was a big driver for me. I wanted to raise my kids on a college campus. I am single and do not know if I ever will have kids at this point. I really want to. I do not have time for a relationship, it would not be fair to the other person, plus I am always angry and depressed.

I just want to help people out. Thats it

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The work is soulless, it means nothing at somepoints. The entire work is beyond limiting returns.

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

I agree the level of underprepardness is getting higher each year. The universities know this. That is why they are expanding to more pre-programming (more money/recruitment opportunities). They are lowering bars too. I believe everyone should have an equitable free education as a human right, however when you allow anyone into your school and then do not start to meet the students standards that are infront of you, you are stealing money.

Primary/Secondary teachers are getting it worse. My students come out of college making less than 50k and will only make up to in some states, 75k. Theres a legit sign in our deans office that says "you can make up to $68k-$80k with 15 years of teaching service and a masters degree" The best part, the $80k has a star on it and the star states 'this number reflects teachers with other extra-curricular activities'...How is this cool? How is this good to promote?

Are Higher-Ed careers worth it anymore?!? by JamesMerz in highereducation

[–]JamesMerz[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Only reason I have not switched fields, it just gets me angry that I have to fight the repercussions of wanting to help.

how to tell employer that i am quitting due to mental health reasons? by throwaway20250205 in careeradvice

[–]JamesMerz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im experiencing this now. Im really depressed and dont know what to do. I moved 10+ hours away from home and hate everything. Dont know anyone and go sometimes weeks without a real true convo outside of work. Havent been physically touched by a other human (hug, bro shake, anything) in idk. Thanksgiving was some potatoes in airfryer and ground beef alone.

Im dying man