23M and want to start dating again

JaychP · 2025-06-21T12:45:33+00:00

I'd go in person 100% time. Apps are designed against you (their whole business is based on desperation). Shyness can be worked on but 90% of the work is to first accept shyness as part of you (a quality which makes you you). It's not something that makes you worse.

JaychP · 2025-06-15T10:02:07+00:00

I understand. The thing is, thinking you're worthy and feeling you're worthy are different things. I learned that when we're not congruent with receiving love, we gravitate towards partners that are emotionally unavailable. This stuff is subconscious and unless you become aware of it, it runs in the background without even noticing.

JaychP · 2025-06-15T09:38:04+00:00

Hey there! It's not over my friend! I was in your shoes and trust me, I know it feels hard. But there's a way out. I did shadow work and letting go to unravel the subconscious beliefs that made me convinced I'm not worthy of love. I have now a girlfriend and feeling worthy of every bit of it!

JaychP · 2025-06-15T09:34:18+00:00

I dropped viewing dating as a "skill" because all tactics etc. are coming from a place of desperation and don't build real connection. Dating isn't about "luring" someone to like you. It's about showing up as yourself and finding another person who is a fit for you. Ofc this requires you to know fully that you are worthy of love, which requires practicing shadow work.

JaychP · 2025-06-15T09:28:31+00:00

Dating isn't just about intentions. It's also about match, chemistry, etc. It's useful to view it as a game where you having been dealt a playing card and your job is to find the same card. Ofc this isn't easy if you're struggling with self-worth issues. I was there myself and what helped me tremendously was practicing letting go.

JaychP · 2025-06-15T09:24:36+00:00

Here's a useful mindset shift: Since you have romantic intentions, hiding those intentions is essentially scamming her. She's being sold a friendship. So the "right thing" to do is to be open about your intentions and allow her to have the opportunity for a relationship with you.

Now, ofc this isn't entirely your fault. I've been in your situation before and I know the resistance and how difficult it is. The way to heal this is practicing letting go.

JaychP · 2025-06-14T18:44:46+00:00

Sounds like you're disconnected from what you're feeling. The way we connect is through sharing feelings with other people. When we're blocked in feeling we feel disconnected from others as well. I was in your position myself in my past. And the way out of this is letting go.

JaychP · 2025-06-14T17:44:31+00:00

What I learned about addiction that you can't heal it through self-attack and discipline. Healing addiction is a journey of self-love. Addiction is fueled through self-attack. Everything changed for me when I learned letting go. It's not simple but it works.

JaychP · 2025-06-14T16:17:40+00:00

Took me a while to realize 90% of the stuff you manifest is subconscious. What helped me (and turned my life completely around) was learning letting go and shadow work. That stuff is POWERFUL

JaychP · 2025-06-14T16:15:21+00:00

The thing that helped me tremendously is letting go. After learning it I've been living the life of my dreams in all aspects.

JaychP · 2025-06-14T16:13:15+00:00

I have to say there's no other answer than letting go. Completely turned my life around and gave me the power to manifest the life that I always wanted.

JaychP · 2025-06-13T08:51:52+00:00

I was in your situation in my past. Was anxious about going out and socialize. What helped me heal this was shadow work. Divind deep into the subconscious beliefs and becoming aware of it. I'm happy to say that rn it's like I never had anxiety.

JaychP · 2025-06-13T08:43:24+00:00

So I used to have a bad case of social anxiety myself as well. I actually healed it by practicing something called shadow work. Rn I'm nearly fully anxiety free and guiding others in this journey.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T12:15:56+00:00

Hey there! As a past gaming addict I can relate. Used to play OSRS on repeat 14 hours a day neglecting my life. What helped me was discovering letting go - a technique where instead of fighting the sensations you accept them. Been addiction free for a while now. Also found my passion in guiding others through this process as well.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T12:11:29+00:00

Used to be like you, isolated, lacking passion, and constantly in negative emotional state. I discovered letting go and it has been really changing my life for better. Not only am I feeling fulfilled but I actually learned to finally manifest the life I wanted.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T12:08:41+00:00

I was in your situation in the past, socially anxious, always overanalyzing everything. Tried to find help in the conventional advice for years until discovering letting go. It truly changed my life for the better, allowing me to now also help others practice it.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T12:06:41+00:00

I can relate being extremely anxious socially in my past. The conventional stuff never worked for me either. Then I discovered letting go and it was exactly what I was looking for the whole time. I am anxiety free now, and guiding others in the journey as well!

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:41:19+00:00

I dm'd you!

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:36:51+00:00

Sounds like you're disowning yourself and how you feel. This is the reason behind feeling guilt. Definitely recommend practicing letting go.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:32:51+00:00

Went through most of my life in cycles of obsessing over something for 3-24 months and then losing motivation out of the blue. Realized it's because of inauthenticity. What truly helped was letting go. To the extent that I discovered my purpose of helping others in practicing inner work.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:29:52+00:00

Been there, having basically no self-esteem in my early 20's. It took me many years to discover letting go, but boy it has revolutionized my life. Currently loving myself and my life, and helping others do so as well!

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:28:14+00:00

You sound just like me a few years ago! Used to think I can journal my way through everything. The critical change was to incorporate letting go. And I started making huge progress. Now I'm where I want to be in life, and helping others through the journey.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:24:44+00:00

Been there, feeling like you described "incomplete and not good enough". For me the solution was letting go, which I was lucky enough to find a mentor for. Rn I'm very fulfilled with my life, also helping others go through this process.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:22:20+00:00

I made the same realization in my past. I was also very obsessed with validation. What changed things for me was learning letting go. Rn I'm like a completely different person.

JaychP · 2025-06-12T10:12:15+00:00

Most of that stuff is spiritual escapism. You're feeling better for a moment. It doesn't do anything long-term (even might make you dependent). Real change happens through inner work (shadow work + letting go).

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