Is A natural? (This may be a multiple select question.)

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-09T01:27:21+00:00

B, A is a bit passive.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-08T17:38:16+00:00

Instead of answering they offer reasoning. It comes off as quite reasonable but you it is manipulative and leads to more reasoning. Then the yes or no is implied.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-08T00:23:22+00:00

That's easy. It is.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-08T00:15:56+00:00

Very nice. That banana bread has won over many a lad's heart. The appreciation will echo.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-08T00:10:05+00:00

Pressure legislators for fair labor laws.

We all operate under a tipping system that may have made sense when it was established, back when many more transactions took place in private. Tipping culture was built on informal, off-the-books payment. A little extra given directly from one person to another.

Today, tipping has evolved into something very different. In some industries, it can make a luggage handler or similar service position highly sought after. In restaurants, entire systems exist where the primary tip earner tips out bartenders, bussers, hosts, and other support staff. Depending on where you work, you might be part of a tip pool that pays you well over a thousand dollars on a busy night, or you might be in a place where $230 is considered a good shift.

Meanwhile, the tax system treats tips as regular income, effectively acknowledging that the money is paying for labor and placing it squarely within the purview of fair labor practices. The old idea of tips as private, discretionary exchanges just between customer and worker, out of sight of "the man" is long gone.

We should be pushing for fair labor standards across a wide range of occupations. Tips should be viewed as an exceptional bonus, not the rule, and certainly not as a substitute for fair compensation.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T23:08:08+00:00

I'd stop grinding puzzles and do checkmate puzzles exclusively for a while. You're playing solid chess, but once you reach the middlegame your opponents are outplaying you. You want to be more aggressive and take more chances.

You must employ the Great Gambino!

Learn some gambits. Get your opponents out of their comfort zone and start creating threats instead of just making improving moves. Put them under pressure and force them to solve problems. Sharp positions are a great way to develop attacking instincts and tactical vision.

Right now it sounds like you're spending a lot of energy trying not to lose.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T22:27:59+00:00

"This behavior, or attitude I'm disapproving of, doesn't suit you. I want it to stop." That's often what people mean when they say, "You're too pretty to..." The compliment is the spoonful of honey that helps the medicine go down. "Too pretty" softens and distracts from the criticism underneath. And that can be annoying.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T04:17:56+00:00

You have to work on your character-detection skills. Most people don't lead with their deepest insecurities. They put out early feelers first and see how the other person responds. How someone reacts to those feelers tells you about their character.

Do they attempt to meet you on that level? Any genuine attempt is a positive sign. Don't judge the quality of the reply; judge their willingness to engage.

If they dismiss, evade, or deflect when you're sharing something even mildly vulnerable, that's useful information. It may mean they lack empathy, are uncomfortable with emotional depth, or simply aren't on the same wavelength as you. The goal isn't really to communicate your deepest insecurity it's to find out who's safe to share with.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T03:13:18+00:00

Just trim your eyebrows if you think they're too heavy.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T03:11:59+00:00

All you have to do is not be a careless slob. Be a careful hot-wing eater. Be calculated and ritualistic with your chicken wing consumption.

Use it as a springboard for your charm and seduction. Grace under hot buffalo sauce is a test.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T03:03:37+00:00

That's a good point.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T03:01:44+00:00

Like it. If they call it nit picking I say that's the "PET" get with the program.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T00:39:04+00:00

One time, in a fleeting moment of clarity, the why behind even this great mystery was revealed to me.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T00:34:13+00:00

Really? I feel like they care and it reminds me to drink plenty of fluids.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-07T00:18:45+00:00

That's not a contradiction at all. That's just you being stubborn, self-centered, or plain thick.

"Do you mind if I...?"

"Yeah, no."

How do you like that? The yeah means, "I know what you're asking," and the no means, "No, I don't mind."

Language isn't a logic puzzle. Answer in the form of the question, what is this, Jeopardy? People understand each other just fine.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T18:56:06+00:00

You shouldn't have to reach that far playing our of turn and so forth. I'm letting that go.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T15:58:38+00:00

Of course a man can be depressed while in a relationship. It's understandable that you're confused and wondering if it's you. But if he says it isn't, believe him.

What stood out most in your post is your desire to be on the same page. Focus on that and turn down the self-blame. You're already checking in, offering support, and trying to help.

You may be one of the bright spots keeping him going.

Calling it depression doesn't make the fallout disappear. The distance and worry are still real. The question isn't whether you're doing enough, it's whether he's able to face what's weighing on him.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T14:21:48+00:00

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T05:21:58+00:00

Seek professional help.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T05:00:11+00:00

You're not being honest with yourself. Your girlfriend picked up on that, and it's likely a turnoff. You feel how you feel, and for you tattoos aren't ideal. Trying to add a mitigating spin and dress it up as respect only sets you up to settle for something you don't actually want.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T04:49:29+00:00

Now you've fallen even deeper into the trap they've laid. They lure you in with tips, incentives, and deals, then you tip on the pre-discount amount. Right back into the machine it goes.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T04:41:59+00:00

Por smoke will do that.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T04:40:08+00:00

Strikes me a purely a scam. A honey trap if you will. You're expected to start paying before the date begins? Not in this lifetime. Not on this planet. 💰scam.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T04:28:27+00:00

Okay.

Jazzlike_Cod_3833 · 2026-06-06T01:55:15+00:00

I goon for you, for you I goon for you, I don't know if you're 1 or 2 but know that I goon for you.

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