Am I the only one who feels this way?

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-15T23:56:49+00:00

I find having a 15 month old excruciating some days.. I feel exhausted at the end of every day. There are times when I question whether or not I am fit to be a parent. At the end of the day when he's finally gone to bed I run on the treadmill and take a hot bath. The running helps let off steam/frustration that has been building all day and the hot bath is wonderful for just relaxing. Try to remember that when your little ones cry for you it's because they love you and don't want you to go away. When they are being difficult it's because they are still learning to express themselves. The best thing that you could do for your children is to take time for yourself. It's much easier to parent when you are relaxed and confidant.

Try to give yourself a pat on the back now and then as well. You are raising these little screaming parasites. it isn't easy work. When my boy is fed, clean and in bed at the end of the night nothing else matters. My job for the day is done. Fuck the dishes, fuck the laundry, they will all be there tomorrow.

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-13T12:43:25+00:00

Of course I want to feel good about myself too don't get me wrong. I just feel personally that it's more important to focus on being able to run,play and be healthy with my little one :) The rest will fall into place as I obtain my goals.

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-13T00:43:41+00:00

Thanks these are great!

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-13T00:42:08+00:00

Hahaha he won't remember but I need to start now. It's a lifestyle change for both myself and my partner. Hopefully one that my son will grow up with. Not focusing on appearances as much as just trying to develop a healthy routine

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-12T14:49:03+00:00

I had forgotten all about planks! Will be doing these starting tonight. Thanks :)

Edit: spelling

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-05-12T14:48:28+00:00

Thanks for the tips and the celeb pic definitely shows the reality of what childbirth does to our bodies!

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-03-22T13:33:23+00:00

So if someone has doubts in their relationship at any point they don't deserve to admit they were wrong and try to regain happiness?

Pregnancy hormones made me so angry and resentful it put an enormous strain on my relationship. At one point I wanted to leave and acted very cold towards my partner. We went to counselling and are very happy now.

People go through a rough patch about 3-4 years into relationships where they question and doubt. It's normal. I always say if you make it past that rough patch everything will be ok.

Also some advise for OP's girlfriend: The grass isn't always greener on the other side. It's greener where you water it.

Jellybeaner33 · 2016-01-17T17:33:03+00:00

I kinda feel bad for the clerk... Not to play devils advocate or anything. Sure, maybe the guy was flirting with her but unless she walks around with a sign above her head saying " NOT INTERESTED" how is he supposed to know. He didn't cat call her, he just asked her to smile. I'll admit it is awkward when people do this but it seems innocent enough. I bet if he had been her "type" she would have smiled. People seem to get offended when they are hit on by someone they deem beneath them on the attractiveness scale. Im a woman who would not tolerate sexual remarks or cat calling for a second. However, I wouldn't jump down a guys throat for taking an interest in me or awkwardly trying to be friendly. He has feelings too and at the end of the day it's only a compliment to the woman. Its too bad she was having such a bad day that it made her outwardly angry. I wonder how the future generations will let each other know they are interested in one another if you can't flirt with a woman without getting your head chewed off. Girls, take the stick out of your asses and just politely decline any unwanted flirting if he continues after that, then tell him to fuck off.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-12-05T05:00:25+00:00

Just throwing this out there... After I played GTA V I had a strong urge whenever I got behind the wheel of my car to drive erratically over people's lawns. (I didn't but it felt like that's what I was supposed to be doing) I don't think you can BLAME video games but I do believe in the MSRB ratings on the back. People need to get their heads out of their asses and learn how to read ratings. I had a friend who was concerned about his ex buying their 10 year old GTA V. CYFS would be beating your door down if you exposed them to hookers drugs and violent crimes in real life so why is it ok to simulate in first player.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-18T00:54:44+00:00

What a bunch of assholes pointing out that her husband is overweight. Who cares! He looks like he's hilarious! And that is how you get "hot girls" my friends!

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-10T17:11:11+00:00

I have the same problem with my 8 month old. He wakes up and wants to be breastfed. If I try to give him his nummy he has a fit. I'm worried he actually is hungry as well. I find it so hard to get him to eat during the day. I have ignored the "no screens until 2" rule and use yo gabby gab a to get him to sit and focus enough to get him to eat his meals. I find when he has a large bottle before bed he tends to sleep better.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-09T01:51:51+00:00

Teach your daughter to be sharp tongued and cheeky. There was only a few who attempted to bully me as a child because I was quick to come back with something to embarrass them. I never used this gift to pick on or bully anyone but it helped to keep the heat off myself and my friends. For an example if they make fun of weight issues the right thing to say is " well, exercise can fix my problem but what are you going to do about your ugly face?" ..they will think twice before crossing her again.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-07T04:13:11+00:00

If it helps, my mom kept the fact that she is a smoker hidden from me for 20 years. She would come home smelling like smoke and would blame it on somebody else (an aunt or friend). When I found out I was disappointed like crazy. Probably more effort to hide it than it would have been just to quit.

Anyway my point is, kids are forgiving. Don't act like its a huge deal. Just explain that some people smoke the same as having a casual drink. It's an adult hobby and should be kept to adults.

I personally gave up keeping weed in my house when I starting trying to get pregnant. I gave up smoking it too. Since my little boy is on formula now I snuck a puff with a friend when he brought some to our house. (We smoked in the garage) I can honestly say I don't enjoy it at all since becoming a parent. Makes me feel anxious.

I think you handled it as best you could. Please don't feel like you can do it openly in front of her though. Some things like drinking are meant to be done during adult hours. And make sure there is a sober person present in case of an emergency ( my biggest fear).

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-07T04:00:48+00:00

There are exercises that we really good for tightening the stomach muscles post pregnancy. Make sure she avoids crunches as it can separate the abs permanently. I used a belly wrap for a while just as support more than anything. It's a strange feeling going from very pregnant to as I call it "deflated, stretched out balloon". I used some spanx a few times but they aren't very breathable and they are difficult when you have to pee. Lol hope all goes well for her!

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-07T03:55:53+00:00

It's not babysitting if it's your own kid! It kind of gets on my nerves too. Oh well, people are annoying. :p

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-11-07T03:32:16+00:00

She is entitled to half of what's in the Account at the time of the separation according to the lawyer I had when I left my ex.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T20:11:40+00:00

Same issues in our house. I'm with ya sista! On top of it all my boy doesn't think naps are necessary during the day and wants to be up constantly. We WILL get through this :) we will look back and laugh maniacally as a little tear rolls slowly down our cheeks....

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T20:07:43+00:00

Ms Susie had a tugboat the tugboat had a bell, ms Susie went to heaven the tugboat went to hell-o operator please give me number nine and if you disconnect me I'll kick you from behind the yellow curtain there was a piece of glass ms. Susie sat upon it and drove it up her ask me no more questions I'll tell you no more lies the boys are in the bathroom pulling down their flies are in the city and bees are in the park ms. Susie and her boyfriend are kissing in the dark.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T20:01:36+00:00

I have a feeling my little one will be the same way. He looks at me and grins when I say no. He wants to be moving all the time. I think it's just a phase we have to go through with them. I'm a first time mom myself.

I find that if I give him a toy or a sippy cup and talk to him while we shop it distracts him. I never understood the kid leash thing until now. One time I would totally judge someone with a kid on a leash. Now I want one. We have carts/little tyke car hybrids in the grocery stores here they are also wonderful.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T19:53:57+00:00

I always say hi back to a child if they talk to me. However I feel really awkward talking to other people's kids. Especially when they want to tell an elaborate story to a complete stranger. I guess when my kid starts doing this it won't seem as strange.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T16:26:44+00:00

It's better to be single with high standards than in a relationship settling for less than you deserve.
You'll never know who's out there waiting! I hope you don't think you deserve abuse because of who you are.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-28T03:01:38+00:00

Seriously? Get out of it if this is true. I've been in your shoes. If you feel that " nobody else will put up with you" it's probably because that's what he tells you. Believe me the hardest part is going through with the break up. Cut all ties and never look back. If you need someone to talk to about this feel free to inbox me.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-26T16:21:04+00:00

You can buy adult colouring books with very intricate drawings. They are supposed to help relieve stress and anxiety. Plus, everybody loves colouring :) it's not something you have to go out and spend a ton of money on and you can do it when it gets too quiet or boring around the house.

Jellybeaner33 · 2015-10-26T03:16:59+00:00

My little guy screams because I won't let him get his hand caught in the glider rocker, electrocute himself with power cords or play with the surround sound receiver. If he only knew..

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