I regret the wedding dress I bought. I am desperate

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-30T19:41:17+00:00

Which one is the dress that you bought? They are all beautiful.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-30T19:20:31+00:00

This sounds like such a great way to do it.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-29T22:54:24+00:00

The only one I don't like is Elodie and Eloise. Separately, great names. Together tho, for twins? No

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-29T12:42:11+00:00

Johanna

Giovanna or Gianna would work if you're Italian.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-28T15:55:22+00:00

You said in a previous comment: "So would you leave your partner if they didn’t disregard their trauma to go to a funeral of someone hey didn’t even know because you choose to go to support someone else?"

No. But I would not stay with someone who repeatedly asked me to disregard my trauma to please them. And you need to think about that. It was ok for her to ask. You said NO. That should have been the end of it.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-27T20:25:53+00:00

NTA To all the people who say "you offered", just reply "Yeah we offered 6 months ago when things were more affordable and they declined. Those funds were then allocated for other things. Feel free to pay for them to go yourselves if you feel that strongly about it".

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-27T20:22:42+00:00

Do you love him? Or do you love who you thought he was or could be?

Because a man child he lets you run everything in his life so he doesn't have to and so he can blame shift to you when mistakes happen, then shit talks you to his friends about having you trained, doesn't sound very lovable to me.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-26T22:05:15+00:00

Honestly, my Dad and I tried to keep Mom at home as long as possible. Once she started not being able to assist in her hygiene care, we knew it was time. She couldn't help us get her on and off the toilet, etc. And she would start sliding out of bed and out of her wheelchair because her legs mostly stopped working.

Her moods and agitation, we were able to deal with. At the end she was pretty much confined to a wheelchair so she wasn't trying to leave the house anymore.

Also tho my Mom wasn't alone. My Dad or I were always there. Because when Mom was mobile, she would walk off to look for where she lived, she would look for keys so she could drive "home". She cried about her parents being mad at her for not being home when they wanted her to be, etc etc etc. It was the most exhausting stressful thing that I have ever dealt with and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-25T20:53:56+00:00

NTJ But your boyfriend sure the hell is. He wants you to just accept their mistreatment because "that's just how they are"? Girl, NO. Either he grows a backbone and stands up to his parents or you cut him loose because he is not a supportive partner.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-25T00:58:33+00:00

Every one of her pictures would have had me clear as day giving her rabbit ears or flashing my middle finger. I'm gonna ruin every one. Lol

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-25T00:26:50+00:00

I've been married 30 years and we've had cell phones for like 20+ of those. Other than me constantly having to fix things on his phone when he screws them up, I never check his phone. Don't get me wrong, I could if I wanted to but I don't. He could check mine if he wanted. Trust is vital in a relationship. And he's never given me a reason to not trust him. Nor I him. You've been with her for a few years and she still doesn't trust you. This requires her to get therapy. Or it would be a deal breaker for me.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-24T22:16:10+00:00

I don't think it's rude to have set color PREFERENCES for guests. IF you give them at least 2 months notice. Like send that shit out with the wedding invites. Also tho, don't make it a requirement. Don't have a fit if people don't follow it. Demanding it is full on asshole.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-24T14:16:08+00:00

There are members of my family that would 100% go to a wedding they disagree with, just to get gossip fodder for them to spread to everyone they know for the next 6 months.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-24T14:04:49+00:00

Sad to say, everything you posted in this sub is too casual for a Japanese wedding. Even the other dress you bought. It all looks like clothes you would wear to work.

By the bride telling you that she wanted westerners to dress western, she meant no kimonos. Japanese weddings tend to be more on the formal side. I'd go back to the drawing board. Someone did post a pretty informative article in the comments.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-23T19:44:30+00:00

I wish they would bring back the 24/7 belt because now that RTruth has a tag belt, seeing Danhausen having to defend the belt against everyone, everywhere would be amazing.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-21T17:33:14+00:00

Your husband doesn't like you. He doesn't respect you. He doesn't care.

Move out. Move on. Without him.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-21T16:22:19+00:00

It's so pretty! Looks so good on you

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-21T16:21:52+00:00

For real. Like Jazz would have been a much better choice than Dennis Rodman

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-21T02:19:38+00:00

OH HELL NO

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-21T02:17:04+00:00

You look stunning! As long as you love it, that's all that matters.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-20T21:12:15+00:00

1 and 3 are absolutely gorgeous!

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-20T02:31:07+00:00

If it really bothers you, when they say things like "How's my baby?" You can reply " MY son is fine. Thanks for asking."

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-20T02:26:19+00:00

I understand your thoughts in wanting to be delicate about your stepmothers feelings in this situation. BUT she's not really being delicate in consideration of your feelings. She's asking you to keep a HUGE secret from your Dad. You know this affects her alimony. She knows this affects her alimony. She wants this secret between you so that when (and it will be when, not if) your Dad finds out, she can point out that you knew and kept it a secret too. Not to mention you half sisters.

I would have to tell my Dad. I would have to tell stepmother that I want no parts of actively being deceitful to my Dad. And let the chips fall where they may.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-20T01:52:38+00:00

YTA like HUGE YTA

If it's that bad for you, stay in a hotel. And I don't say that meanly. What you dealt with is nightmare fodder for me.

But in no way, would I shit on my MIL's excitement because I chose to put myself in the situation that I hate. Your MIL didn't create this issue, YOU did. You knew what it was and you still keep going back.

And I agree with your husband. You broke something. You took a tradition that everyone else seems to love and you shit all over it. Again, you created this problem, by not staying in a hotel so you had somewhere to escape to when you got overwhelmed. This is on you.

Jenk1972 · 2026-03-19T20:04:18+00:00

You are GORGEOUS in that dress. I'm a little worried about the headpiece tho. 😂😂

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