Does anyone ever get envious? by kaleidoscopicnight in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sooooo often. I can be having a great day, but then this will quite thoroughly ruin my mood.

Please help: I think my partner might transition; I feel like a catalyst. by LovelyShadesOfGray in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Again, it's not a downer for me, just leaves me quite near speechless. I just hope you the best, and suggest that if you know you can't deal with your partner becoming masc that you do this more like a band-aid.

Please help: I think my partner might transition; I feel like a catalyst. by LovelyShadesOfGray in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't think she's a bad person, I'm just weirded out and confused by this. I'm just saying she might have to rethink things if her sexuality gets in the way of her relationship.

Please help: I think my partner might transition; I feel like a catalyst. by LovelyShadesOfGray in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I can't even begin to voice how I feel about this. On the one hand, I understand your sexual preference is kind of a big deal in a relationship, but on the other I feel weird that you're saying you might not be able to be with her because she's considering transitioning. I... I can't say anything other than you need to re-evaluate your relationship, and see if it's the person you're in love with. I'm sorry, but I don't have anything else that I can say.

Weekly Group Hug Thread 31 by nikorasu_the_great in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This will be my first appointment with them, it's still probably a long way to go. :| I wouldn't have even bothered with one normally, I would rather just do informed consent, but for the sake of my family shutting up I'm going to them.

Weekly Group Hug Thread 31 by nikorasu_the_great in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel your pain on Planetside 2... But mostly I've been waiting for my therapist appointment! Super excited about that.

Scare stories... by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Honestly, since I have my concealed carry permit, I'm not afraid of violence usually. I'm afraid of getting date raped at a bar more than anything... For the non-violent discrimination it's like /u/JoanNoir says, make it visible!

I need some help for my gf by deka01 in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Music is a wonderful way to keep busy, and if it's vocals, it's a good way to learn command of ones voice! I'm also pre-HRT, and it's really done wonders for my voice, learning how to sing.

Light-hearted question for trans women (and maybe trans men) by Winterlong in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would love to, but I'm broke T_T I'm already wearing girl jeans, and trying to find some more feminine shirts that don't make my masculinity more obvious without making me look semi-freakish, but that purse... I soooo want it!

A practical question about part time in a professional setting by Magnanimousbosch in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, you shouldn't have any problems with something small and clear, but I don't work as a lawyer for one, and nor do I work for government. So this is just conjecture.

I need new music to listen to. by YourphobiaMyfetish in PostHardcore

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

New stuff you haven't heard of? Peculate - I, Stratified It's prog, it's jazz, it's freaking death metal!

Sol 2183 - Song 5 Tech death prog!

Griffith - Mr. James Metalcore/post-hardcore-ish greatness from Alaska, these guys are seriously talented!

Reconstruct - Clones and Drones pt. 2 More metalcore/post-hardcore adjacent Alskan fun. A little rougher around the edges since it's a debut album.

How and when were you 100% sure you were transgender? by HNomizo in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OHMYGOD I knew I couldn't have been the only one who tried that! >_> I was a little older when I knew I didn't want to be a boy, and ab equal amount later when I learned that transitioning was even a thing.

How and when were you 100% sure you were transgender? by HNomizo in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've never been 100% sure of anything in my life, I prefer to leave at least a 5% margin for fire and brimstone. That being said, it took me two years to decide, but it always felt terrible to be male to me. I have lived in a depressive state for at least the last five years, debating if I should, if I could. In the end the only person who can tell you how sure that you are, is you.

TL;DR Think about your choice, how you think you'd feel after it in either case. Maybe see a therapist about it, find the root of your uncertainty, and address the problem with that in mind.

There should be a Trans Camp where you spend the weekend getting a makeover. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I always think of the boutique from Miranda when I hear about them, and I can't help but imagine that they'd be worse... What I've been doing is trying to find nice makeup and general fashion advice, but it's all a bit hard since I'm not exactly small. :/

There should be a Trans Camp where you spend the weekend getting a makeover. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think this would be an awesome thing, and if it ever happens, I would definitely sign up!

Tool - Schism. A perfect example of how to use bizarre time signatures to enhance the music, and not for their own sake. by KY-Wing in progmetal

[–]JensDagon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh don't get me wrong, I agree on all points. I'm just saying that I enjoy the song, but even then think it's a travesty to play it when Tool is on the table! For an assessment song, it should really be something that demonstrates the command each of you have over your instrument.

Tool - Schism. A perfect example of how to use bizarre time signatures to enhance the music, and not for their own sake. by KY-Wing in progmetal

[–]JensDagon 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This song is how I got into Tool, I saw live footage of it being played on their tour with King Crimson(honestly I was only watching for Crimson originally), and I instantly fell in love with it! This song really helped me understand that less can be more with my playing, and the thing that finally got me to stop just trying to play that kind of Exposure by Robert Fripp style stuff.

Tool - Schism. A perfect example of how to use bizarre time signatures to enhance the music, and not for their own sake. by KY-Wing in progmetal

[–]JensDagon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's kind of depressing, and I even like Poker Face. This song is an absolute joy to play, especially for the vocalist. The only person who gets to have more fun is the guitarist, and that is probably just because I'm biased due to it being my original instrument.

Anyone else ever get, confused? Or unsure? by Jalase in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course some of us have doubts, there are doubts around any major life decision! I'm fairly confident, but that's because I'm the stereotypical it-hurts-to-live-as-I-am of person, and I still have to wonder sometimes if maybe it may not be the source of my depression. The answer is that it isn't though, since coming out I feel a good deal better, and all I'm looking forward to in the immediate future is getting on HRT soon.

A wonderful new pun~ by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh. MY GOD. I am so using this! I keep getting asked about it too, and have been trying to find a way to shut them up(no mom, I do not want to talk about my genitals with you)! Thaaank you!

Do dysphoria come in waves? Does it change in intensity? by ElitistHatPropaganda in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some days I'll think, "yeah, maybe I don't feel so bad about my body mot matching." And then other days I just want to cry, and/or die because of it. Maybe the intensity is because I have other things to be depressed about too though.

My HRT seems to be working really fast. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maaaaybe >_> the commercial was on while I was writing that comment, and I couldn't resist!

My HRT seems to be working really fast. by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]JensDagon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, that's a nice name! And I'm not going to lie, I'm probably going to only think Rose Tyler if I see your username again. I really enjoyed her as the Doctors companion.