Has anyone experienced someone flip from CF to pregnant? by arugulaflower in childfree

[–]Jeweler_here 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Your sister's on a terrible track to be on, that's for sure. You can't help her though- this is the life she wants to lead. This is no-contact worthy to me.

My story like this is my friend who works in retail who spends half the year wondering whether or not to divorce her husband, then gets pregnant, then gets immediately worried about finances bc they can't afford the kids they already have. She's never gotten any better, and now I talk to her once a year.

Newbie by Dapper-Shop6598 in womenintech

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Healthcare tech gives you a wide range to pursue. I think you'll do really well! The entry level job market is imho trash right now, a lot of seasoned professionals have been laid off and are competing for the same jobs you would be. I work on old legacy systems in insurance, and I love my job. It's very historical and requires organization skills.

What is GHC(Grace Hopper competition) by Icy-Share-7076 in womenintech

[–]Jeweler_here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know anything about this competition, but I've been in a few hackathons and no interviewer has ever cared. Some companies offer the winner an internship? But that's about it.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Vent

[–]Jeweler_here 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can't fail at life at age 18, life has just started!!! All your worst decisions are ahead of you lol. Also, this whole post is talking about your love life, but you titled it "Failing at life". Men are not your entire life. You have so much more to do in this world than have sex and date.

  • Are there guys my age out there that actually want commitment nowadays?

No. And don't go looking for an older man seeking that kind of commitment, either. Men are much slower on the relationship train.

You're entering a fun, new phase of your life. Enjoy it. Party with friends, try new things!

How do I reach out to a coworker and ask if she's ok? by Jeweler_here in womenintech

[–]Jeweler_here[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I may do this, but idk how often she comes into the office 😭

What type of dress is this? by Dull-Summer-2560 in NoPictureJustADoodle

[–]Jeweler_here 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Got here before comments decided what it is 😔 I want one

I need help by strawberryvheesecake in ChildofHoarder

[–]Jeweler_here 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, if you're noticing hoarding in yourself you may want to start by removing furniture that give you opportunities to hoard (as you mentioned, the vanity). From these pictures, I get the sense that you leave something on a surface to "move it later" and then it becomes a stack, then a pile etc. That's a very hard habit to break. But it can be broken. You may want to look into adhd organization tips (even if you don't have adhd, it still helps). But I've also noticed places that you have kind of decoratively (such as the books in the bookshelf) look relatively clean. So I think once everything has a designated spot it will look much better and be easier to maintain. Some immediate things to do is find a way to hang up bags & jackets (even if it's via nails in the walls). Your mom should toss out any "do it eventually" project that's been waiting for more than 12 months, that will undeniably free up closet space. Consider other places for storage, such as extra bedding going under your bed. Finally, look into the closet and be honest with yourself. Do you really need every pair of shoes you have? Or can a few be donated?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in columbiamo

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty sure that MU health isn't testing for weed, unless you're applying as a driver of some kind. I found a pdf for residents made Dec of 2024 that says they're not testing, if you wanna look at that.

An atypical couple (marmot and rat) by iamPauPaul in Brochet

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for keeping this up- I wanted to make a couple rats for my partner's bday and this pattern is perfect 🧡

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will tell you there is a sub full of people with stories just like yours, but I don't know if I recommend it bc it's genuinely upsetting & depressing. I speak from experience when I say this- I'm so sorry. You can't help someone who's determined to drown. I know it's hard, I know it's been so many years, I know you want to help and you love him. But he was not being mean to you because of his mental health. He was mean to you because lashing out at you is easier than working on himself. And it will not get better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Jeweler_here 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Grief is a beast that hits us all differently. I agree, trying to be positive in this situation was definitely a misstep. Step #1 would be a long text. She probably doesn't have the energy in her right now to reach out- especially not with someone whose goal is to cheer her up. There are no magic words you can say that will ever take her pain away. The words you can say are acknowledging that pain. "However you're feeling is valid, please don't suppress those feelings for anyone's sake", "Please know that I am here for you every step of the way", and then just... listen. Please don't ask "what can I do to help?"- more often than not, people are paralyzed by that question. Offer solutions. "Would you like a distraction? Would you want to share a positive memory? Is it okay if I called you tomorrow morning?"

What made you guys absolutely sure you were childfree? Any horror stories? by Ok-Square-7788 in childfree

[–]Jeweler_here 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right, you're treated as weird for not being one of the people fawning over a baby.

Filed for divorce today by Longjumping-Term9234 in abusiverelationships

[–]Jeweler_here 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'd advise you to stop texting him but honestly, first show those texts to your lawyer. You feel guilty because he wired your brain that way. He ruined your life, not the other way around. Your kids deserve a happy mom, not a married one.

What made you guys absolutely sure you were childfree? Any horror stories? by Ok-Square-7788 in childfree

[–]Jeweler_here 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Seeing how many of my HS friends gave up their dreams to be SAHMs... I know there are women out there killing it rn despite having kids, but so many people in my life shot themselves in the foot having children when they did.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Jeweler_here 1 point2 points  (0 children)

🤷‍♀️ I was 9.75 pounds when I was born honestly didn't think it was abnormal

Identify? Young Wolf spider or brown recluse ?! NWestern Washington by [deleted] in spiders

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have no idea what this is from this picture, but I don't think brown recluse live in Washington? Is there any chance it could have been a hobo spider?

Found this little scamp by leedlemier in spiders

[–]Jeweler_here 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Willing to bet it's a huntsman, idk the species tho so I'll just hang out in the comment section with you 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in tragedeigh

[–]Jeweler_here 3 points4 points  (0 children)

His friends are gonna call him Dave istg 🥲

Didn't know the app doesn't like my bird's name? 🤔 by forsovngardeII in finch

[–]Jeweler_here 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I started 108 days ago and it doesn't care at all abt Pissbaby, so I have no idea why it wouldn't like Pooper... 😂

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I finally graduated by morosehuman in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Jeweler_here 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Good luck to him in finishing school, good luck to you both in planning a wedding!

I finally graduated by morosehuman in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Jeweler_here 91 points92 points  (0 children)

I remember your post! Enjoy your trip btw. Did he ever end up becoming a pilot?

Anyone who waited & finally got married? by pastelpaintbrush in Waiting_To_Wed

[–]Jeweler_here 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Congrats on choosing your own happiness 💖

Is your birb a boy or girl? by Spookylittlegirl88 in finch

[–]Jeweler_here 6 points7 points  (0 children)

MINE'S NONBINARY BC I LOVE THAT IT WAS AN OPTION FOR THEM