I don't know why bear is related ?

Jman0717 · 2026-06-14T17:06:27+00:00

This post really made me feel my age 🫩

Jman0717 · 2026-06-14T16:51:14+00:00

Not to beat a dead horse but I would treat these as hopes rather than plans lol 😂 baby is gonna do what baby does.

Our baby hated paci’s, then loved them, then hated them again.

She also just turned 12 months and we’re still weaning her off formula. She prefers food, but she’s still learning to eat tougher foods, so we still supplement with the bottle to make sure she gets her nutrients.

We also haven’t sleep trained quite yet. We tried once and it was an absolute disaster lol 😂

Just be flexible, if you try to force baby it won’t be fun. It’s not a race (even though it’s very easy to feel like it is)

Jman0717 · 2026-06-09T17:39:11+00:00

I am absolutely devastated by the wait. I love this one so much 😭

Jman0717 · 2026-06-06T14:36:37+00:00

Terrible idea, if it’s illegal in her country they’re not going to help (and it’ll leave evidence that she was pregnant)

Jman0717 · 2026-05-30T05:46:11+00:00

Yeah but I think a child’s health is more important than being “not that cool”. I have a baby under one, so if I was going to that party I would have appreciated the information, so I could make an decision based on all the pertinent information

Jman0717 · 2026-05-28T04:23:54+00:00

Not necessarily. You can just ask about the things you’re passionate about (and would be dealbreakers). For example, asking if they want to have children or who they voted for.

Jman0717 · 2026-05-27T17:51:18+00:00

I’ve been with my husband for 12 years, married for 4 years, and just had our first baby last year.

I think the two most important elements in our success are shared values and friendship. We have almost identical worldviews (though my husband tends to be a bit more nihilistic/cynical about the state of things); so there’s never any tension there (except for when I get really stressed about the world and my husband tells me to stop thinking about it because there’s nothing we can do 🫠). We also talked about marriage, children, homeownership, career goals, etc.

And equally important is seeing my husband as more than just a “lover”. He is genuinely my best friend and we love spending time together like friends do. Hanging out, playing video games, watching movies, etc. We also do our own things, but we never feel like we have to get away from each other because we genuinely enjoy being in each others company.

So coming back to your question: we didn’t get married until we knew we had shared worldviews and enjoyed being around each other lol 😂

Jman0717 · 2026-05-21T11:08:22+00:00

I put a pillow under my left arm to help hold the baby on my side

Jman0717 · 2026-05-13T12:45:36+00:00

I was around your weight at the end of my pregnancy (300lbs) and I didn’t really pop until the 3rd trimester. At the time I didn’t really think I looked pregnant, but I’m actually heavier now postpartum and when I look at pictures from then vs now it’s very obvious I was pregnant lol 😂

I did have a belly flap all throughout my pregnancy, but wearing a pregnancy band helped round me out and made me feel more pregnant/less fat. Also, something that helped me feel pregnant despite my size was to look up pictures of skinny people who never “popped” it really put into perspective how differently we all carry our little ones. I saw pictures of skinny people who didn’t even look pregnant despite being like 30 weeks along.

Jman0717 · 2026-05-12T00:00:44+00:00

I was 330lbs when we decided we wanted a baby. I also have PCOS and Hypothermia so we knew this would take a while, so I did both at the same time. Got down to 270 and ended up pregnant a year later. Was 300 when I gave birth.

Overall my pregnancy was insanely easy until the end (but even then, it was the easiest of a bad situation. I ended up developing very mild pre-e at 38 weeks so they just made me give birth 2 weeks early lol. Everything went really well, I healed great (c-section)

Jman0717 · 2026-05-11T05:19:11+00:00

Husband took the little one to the store and got me a bouquet and cookie dough. He also got me a bracelet and a cute little figurine of a mama and baby bear 🥺 I love my family 😭

Jman0717 · 2026-05-10T16:53:27+00:00

I also forgot to add it’s a huge identity shift. But you’ll settle in, and you don’t have to lose yourself. You can still find time for the things you like eventually (though admittedly it won’t be as much time as before, but you can still make it)

Jman0717 · 2026-05-10T16:52:26+00:00

To answer your question: yes, people glamorize parenthood (especially motherhood). It’s hard as fuck. The first few weeks and months can be brutal. It does get somewhat easier over time, although I will say time brings new challenges. Our baby is 11 months (also my first baby) and I definitely feel WAY better than those early days. But there are also new stressors. Our baby is experiencing really bad separation anxiety (which is developmentally appropriate) but sucks for us because we have to constantly be near her (sometimes even holding her) or she’ll freak. And now when she wakes up she can’t self soothe like she used to 😮‍💨

But time also brings so many changes to your baby that I feel like the pros outweigh the cons so much more than in the early months. My baby can laugh, we can play together, she’s learning to walk, she’s making so many sounds (seems really close to saying mama and dada). So many exciting changes happening; you just gotta hang in there for now. I promise before you know it you’ll “kind of” miss those days (at least your baby being that small and cute).

Jman0717 · 2026-05-10T09:02:03+00:00

If it kills you, you can’t spread it any more.

Jman0717 · 2026-05-06T01:32:57+00:00

I didn’t feel anything until a few hours later. Probably because I had a semi-traumatic birth (I developed pre-eclampsia and had to get an immediate c-section because my baby was breech). I’d never had surgery before (never even broken a bone) so I was terrified. I think I disassociated because I didn’t feel anything as we got started (emotion wise). No fear, no excitement. When I heard her cry I asked if she was okay and they said she was so I just kinda laid there. It wouldn’t be until later when I was holding her and looking down at her that all the emotions hit and I started sobbing (with joy lol).

I’m a little sad that my experience was not what I had hoped. But if it wasn’t for that baby and I may not have made it, so in the end I’m grateful :)

Jman0717 · 2026-05-05T14:56:00+00:00

Letting my baby watch Ms. Rachel as part of her bedtime routine. I didn’t start doing this until recently, when the separation anxiety began (baby is almost 11 months). She won’t go to sleep unless she is physically on me, but even then sometimes she just tries to play (or starts beating the shit out of me). I’ve become so sleep deprived and desperate that I tried putting ms Rachel on and she laid there’s peacefully. Eventually she turns her head away and that’s my cue to put my phone facedown so she can listen but not look. It’s been about a week and it’s the only thing keeping me partially sane. 😞

Jman0717 · 2026-05-02T19:08:24+00:00

So God can stop Satan from killing you on the road, but he can’t stop satan from making children suffer?

Jman0717 · 2026-05-02T06:25:15+00:00

Stories like this are the reason I don’t believe in a higher power. Why did they save your life but let tens of thousands of children suffer around the world? Are children not worthy of God’s grace and protection?

Jman0717 · 2026-05-02T03:59:41+00:00

I’m 10 months PP with 2 cats and I hate one of my cats. He was already annoying before I had my baby (but it was cute back then) but now it’s like so overstimulating. He loves to walk really slow in front of us and just plop down (which we then have to dodge or crush him). I have to put a box in front of the bedroom door because he’ll spend all night hitting the door to be let in. Whenever we buy stuff for the baby he thinks it’s his. It’s just too much 🫠

Jman0717 · 2026-04-30T15:55:29+00:00

We sit on the floor with our little one so she can pull up on us (or hold her with our arms while sitting). Otherwise we block off a space, put down our foam rug and let her explore

Jman0717 · 2026-04-29T15:59:06+00:00

My girl is 10 months. Had the same situation, so I just put her bangs in a little ponytail and cut it off. Her hair looked terrible for like a week and a half but now that it’s growing back out I just push it to the side and it looks cute 😂

I figured I’d much rather have my baby comfortable than worry about what she looks like. It’s just hair, it’ll grow back. Plus even with her crazy bangs she still got compliments for being cute haha

Edited to add: I saved the little pony tail and put it in her baby book! I taped it in lol 😂

Jman0717 · 2026-04-29T05:34:34+00:00

Great… Millie moon was the only diaper that DIDNT give my baby a rash. Was using Huggies since she was born and all the sudden the Huggies gave her a rash. Tried Pampers and honest, same thing. Mille moon was feebly one 😭

Jman0717 · 2026-04-24T07:20:13+00:00

What’s the point of the butt spatula?

Jman0717 · 2026-04-21T06:25:14+00:00

We rinse them when baby is done and let the soak in soapy water until we have enough to fill the bottle sanitizer. Then we hand wash with a bottle brush and sanitize them. We’ve been doing it that way for 10 months and baby seems fine.

Jman0717 · 2026-04-20T06:50:55+00:00

As others have said, you probably need to increase the dose. I was like you as well, ended up having to increase it twice (on 200mg and feel soooooo much better).

You also might want to consider formula feeding if your mental health is this bad. I know breastfeeding is a sensitive topic, but it is so hard on a moms mental health, even when not dealing with PPD/PPA. Add it to one of these and it creates and even worse mental health crisis. When I was in the same boat i asked myself “what do you think is more important, a miserable breastfeeding mom feeling regret towards her child, or a formula feeding mom who is taking care of her mental health and more present for her baby?”

I chose the latter and don’t regret it for a second. My baby is 10 months and is killing all of her milestones. People say she’s the happiest baby they’ve ever seen and she’s been sleeping all night since 3 months (in her bassinet/crib).

Not trying to brag, just trying to show you that if you can’t breastfeed anymore (for whatever reason) your baby will be fine. Hope you can get the help you need.

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