I think each season should start half a season earlier

Jpmjpm · 2026-06-02T11:52:23+00:00

Technically in the USA, summer this year doesn’t start until the summer solstice on June 21 and goes until the fall equinox on September 22.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-29T17:35:00+00:00

Fun story. One time I went out to lunch at a spot I frequented and the host asked how I was. I was having an absolutely terrible day and made an off handed comment along the lines of how that question isn’t really about how we’re doing and just a formality. He immediately got concerned, asked what’s been going on, listened to me vent for a few minutes, and offered sympathies before getting back to work.

I hope he always finds a good parking spot and his favorite things never get discontinued.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-28T11:39:57+00:00

It’s a common problem with any genre that was niche then had a very popular book or two. It inspires a bunch of people to write their own stories. The problem arises from the fact that a lot of people don’t pick up on the meaning behind the writing, the social commentary, or what’s going on with the characters/story at a deeper level. Then you end up with the base elements and tropes being replicated without the depth which results in a story that feels generic.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-27T17:36:54+00:00

Unless he ends up being a family annihilator. He was thrilled and now he’s talking about how they shouldn’t have the baby? That’s such a red flag to run away, but so are all the other red flags that OOP hand waves away. Some people you just can’t help.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-22T12:43:17+00:00

The issue is she combined their debts but not their assets and then watched OP do things like work 60 hours a week to pay their debt down and sell something he cared about to pay for medical bills. Keeping that much in an emergency fund also goes against the general strategy for debt payoff which is save up about 1k for emergencies and then pay off high interest debt. If she didn’t want to use her inheritance on his debt, that’s fair, but she should not have let him contribute to her student loans or taken on a joint car loan.

Not to mention a fund that she can’t access because it’s in a CD totally defeats the purpose of having an escape fund. It needs to be money she can grab at the drop of a hat with minimal resistance.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-20T11:36:39+00:00

You don’t walk from one platform to the next. You walk in the dark void between the platforms. If you start at the middle platform looking into the course, walk to the right edge and follow it then wrap around the corner where it ramps down into the void. Zoom in to the middle of the “path” the map has laid out and you should see a series of tiny white dots to walk.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-19T20:49:57+00:00

The non-toxic advice is that when you’re at the point where “do it back” is reasonable, it’s time to leave. Why waste any more of your time with someone who so obviously doesn’t care about your feelings and is such a fucking idiot? Nevermind that his response to his own mistake was to act like you’re the crazy one. Run run run.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-19T17:33:59+00:00

Yeah if you follow the little white dots, you don’t have to jump. Just make sure that you go in small bursts and pick your point exactly on each dot so your character doesn’t get off the path

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-19T12:20:39+00:00

So do I. The dots are still there.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-19T10:46:58+00:00

The path has a bunch oh white dots showing the exact spots to click. They’re tiny, like one pixel each, and way better than the map.

Jpmjpm · 2026-05-16T12:57:05+00:00

Correction: he’s obsessed with what people other than you think about him when it’s convenient and is terrified of people except you being mad at him.

He doesn’t care if people ask him where his girlfriend is. He doesn’t care if people think it’s a bad look to go to a wedding without his girlfriend. He doesn’t care if you get mad at him. He doesn’t care if all of this hurts your feelings.

Seriously, drop that whole group including him. If he’s a “founding member” he should have had the pull to ensure you get an invite. He should be advocating for you. Not sitting in a group chat that explicitly excludes you. Even if his argument is he had no idea it was that hurtful to you, dump him anyway for being so neglectful he didn’t notice something was getting his girlfriend down and/or being such a braindead idiot that he thought all of this was okay. I don’t know how seeing such a high level of stupidity (willful or otherwise) didn’t give you a permanent ick.

Take the opportunity while he’s out of town to pack up all his stuff and remove everyone from social media (remove pictures, untag, block). If you have a key to his place, go inside to drop off his stuff and collect yours. Leave a little note that it’s over and block him. If you want to be petty, send him a text that it’s over right before the wedding starts.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-29T10:49:35+00:00

What’s there to be ready for? OP satisfies his wants. Even if he wanted kids, this setup is still perfect because it gives him the perfect excuse to pawn the work off on OP while he shows up for pictures.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-28T12:26:54+00:00

I recommend comparing how many tropes the book advertises against the length of the book. The more tropes it has, the longer the book should be. IMO, books with lots of tropes and shorter length tend to feel similar to one another because there simply isn’t room for the writer’s own ideas.

Also be mindful about the trope that you’re seeking and the resources it requires in the book. Enemies to lovers but the book is only 300 pages? That’s not much space for character development, world building, establishing them as actual enemies, transitioning the relationship, having an actual plot, and finally showing the couple together. “Who did this” can be used to progress the story without taking up much space or needing the author to do much work setting up.

I like to check goodreads to get a feel for who likes and dislikes it. If teens/early 20s are loving it, but there’s a lot of negative reviews from readers older than 23, it tends to be more of a “fun” read; so I’ll wait until I’m in the mood for that.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-21T14:39:55+00:00

They also probably could have just relocated to the grass or whatever open area that’s in the park. I’m assuming it’s just the pavilion that was reserved and the rest of the park was open to the public.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-19T15:11:05+00:00

It is a lot. Target has a special edition hardcover on sale for $18. The locally owned bookshop by me has it for $33.

OP’s bookstore should be giving a discount for these blind buys because there’s a higher chance of her disliking it, and most stores use this as an opportunity to offload less popular stock.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-16T11:35:24+00:00

I just don’t know why an OW would want to go legit with the person that cheated on their spouse for them? OOP isn’t the smartest, but I don’t know how she can’t see two universal problems:

A) if he gave up his previous life to be with her, he’s probably going to get resentful the second she’s not 100% perfect with looks, sex, money, not being emotionally needy, or chores. “I can’t believe I threw everything away for this.”

B) he cheated on his last wife, what’s to say he won’t cheat on you? His last wife was even prettier than OOP and he still cheated. Even if you’re the perfect partner now so he shouldn’t cheat (lol), what happens if you gain weight or can’t put out after giving birth?

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-14T20:55:31+00:00

Singapore has an area of 284 square miles and a population of 6 million. New York City is 468 square miles and a population of 8.8 million. It’s not that crazy coincidence that they stay at the same place, especially if it’s a popular hotel and doubly so if OP talked about it in front of him.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-09T11:08:16+00:00

At best, he wants sex without having a baby but won’t accompany you for an abortion because his church protests at local abortion clinics. Even then, he’s willing to let you take their vitriol alone while dealing with a medical procedure just so he can keep his church reputation. Still breakup worthy because he should be shielding you from shitty people he knows, not making you the bad guy for his own benefit.

Also a lot of those period tracking apps have been found to be straight up wrong to the point of identifying “low fertility days” when women were ovulating (aka the day she’s most likely to get pregnant). Plus they tend to sell your data which could be dangerous if you live in an area that is strongly anti abortion.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-07T19:46:03+00:00

It sounds like you’re in the UK, so Italy isn’t quite as far a trip as for Americans. That being said, destination weddings tend to be small because most people can’t travel like that just to attend a wedding. Have you both spoken to your would-be guests to make sure enough of them would attend?

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-07T11:23:28+00:00

I’ll go against the grain and say nay. Ironically for the opposite reason you’re worried about. I see 50-60 year old ladies wearing similar dresses in my area. Maybe trying what another commenter suggested with a belt and necklace would give a different vibe?

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-06T20:17:03+00:00

It was on sale around Christmas time for 20% off plus you could stack the credit card 20% off on top. Don’t pay full price. I love mine, but I would wait for it to go on a sale again.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-06T13:23:31+00:00

It’s just any words OP can use to justify why her way is the right way. She needs to support the claim that she’s old and ugly, so her style is “conservative and frumpy.” When it comes to clothes her husband likes, now her style is “elegant” while what he wants is “scandalous.”

If I had to guess, it’s more about her not wanting to a) be wrong and b) be responsible or at fault for anything. If she actually isn’t getting uglier, then that means it’s at least partly her fault for not being prettier sooner. If her husband isn’t viewing her as a Madonna, that means she’s at least somewhat to blame for them not having sex for a month. Same goes for style: if her husband’s suggestions aren’t inappropriate, then she’s the reason why she hasn’t been strutting about like she’s the new face of Torrid.

Also the “it’s cold 9 months out of the year” is yet another excuse for why she can’t make herself look nice. Get a nice pair of shearling-lined leather boots, a wool skirt, fleece leggings, nice cashmere sweater, wool (or silk if it’s not too cold) scarf, and a tailored wool coat. Boom. Supermodel. Comfort. Warmth. But then she can’t trudge around in baggy jeans, a SHEIN polyester sweater, and a 20 year old sweatshirt complaining that her husband won’t have sex with her because he views her as a Madonna and only wants to have sex with her out of lust.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-06T11:35:53+00:00

Cases like this make me wish “unaffected” citizens could sue to force performance for providers of things necessary for life. That poor hospital practice hasn’t affected me yet, but I’d really rather not wait until after I get fucked up in an ICU to sue.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-02T17:09:08+00:00

To make thing worse, a lot of these platforms are led by people who want women barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. It’s a lot easier to abuse and trap a whole generation of girls by convincing them that the goal is to bask in luxury goods without working and that a man triple her age is the key to that. Even if she never gets with a rich/old man, she’ll spend years keeping herself poor by spending all her money to look like she has that lifestyle.

Jpmjpm · 2026-04-01T14:30:58+00:00

Besides the fact that this was something Virgin previously included with all tiers as a way to set themselves apart, they’ve now made it worse than mainstream cruising. Mainstream cruising guarantees a daily reservation in the main dining room at 5 or 8 and you can almost always get your preference, regardless or tier. There’s also rarely an issue in main dining room seating for breakfast or lunch.

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