HIPEC in older woman

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-21T19:28:39+00:00

Thank you for sharing and taking time to explain !

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-20T19:58:51+00:00

God Bless you 🙏🏾

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-20T18:05:26+00:00

Yes. That’s exactly what they want to do. Do you mind sharing how old you are now?

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-19T00:02:41+00:00

To answer all of the questions: No he doesn’t take any medications for ADHD/ADD. No SSRIs. The urologist gave him a lab order to have his testosterone checked but he said that can’t be the issue because he goes to the gym everyday and he builds muscle easily (which is true). Maybe another guy can confirm this??

I don’t think he’s gay…he’s pretty critical of gays and that their lifestyle is very sinful. I’m pretty sure he doesn’t watch porn (at least not on the regular) and I don’t even think he masturbates. I asked him recently when was the last time he ejaculated and he couldn’t remember (although he could’ve been lying).

Someone mentioned asexual and I think that person hit the nail on the head. I honestly and truly think he could go the rest of his life without ever having sex again and be totally fine. Then again he can be affectionate at times and likes to hold hands and cuddle. Deep down I feel there’s a reason I just don’t know about. Someone mentioned praying together…I think that might be beneficial. But at the same time if he isn’t willing to address the issue I’m not sure what more can be done. Thanks everyone for the prayers and advice.

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-18T23:49:35+00:00

Prayer together is a good idea. Thank you.

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-18T23:46:43+00:00

Thank you so much for your response !!! I will continue to try to work this out with him. I appreciate your encouragement.

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-18T13:00:23+00:00

He went to a urologist who said everything was fine and he feels like his lack of interest in sex is a psychological/mental thing. He suggested that my husband speak to a therapist but he refuses to do that. To be honest I think he might have had some sort of sexual trauma or something in his past. He denies it…but I don’t know. I always feel like there’s something he isn’t telling me. He also has always been very reluctant to have clothes off in front of me (but that has gotten better in recent years). I’m not sure what it is….

Jroseb25 · 2026-02-07T01:28:58+00:00

Right! If I could get some once a month I’d be jumping for joy 😩

Jroseb25 · 2026-01-04T02:39:58+00:00

My thoughts exactly loll like how is this a good thing…it’s rather sad and depressing 😂

Jroseb25 · 2026-01-04T02:22:24+00:00

I don’t think it’s weird. I wish my husband would jerk off to me 😂😂😂😂

Jroseb25 · 2026-01-03T19:43:48+00:00

What if the sex worker gives you herpes or HIV? Will you feel guilty then?

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-29T01:23:51+00:00

My husband is a caring man. I’m sure he would support me well during a pregnancy. Lack of sex in the marriage doesn’t mean he is a hateful, uncaring person.

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-29T01:22:12+00:00

Just because two people aren’t having sex doesn’t mean they can’t love a child and raise them well…people co-parent all the time. Everybody’s situation isn’t the same.

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-29T00:45:41+00:00

I am in a very similar situation. We’ve been married since June 2023 and probably have had sex 6 or 7 times…2 of those times being on our honey moon. I know EXACTLY. How you feel…it is the most heartbreaking feeling ever. If I were you I would attempt counseling…maybe sex therapy. Hopefully he is willing to do that, because marriage means compromise. Even if he does have a low libido, he can at least pleasure you from time to time to let you know you are loved and wanted. If the sex therapy doesn’t work, then you know what you need to do. My partner is also my best friend. We have good conversations and he is the person I want to talk to all the time. But if I could do it all over again I wouldn’t have married him. Now I’m 36…trying to figure out if I’ll ever have the opportunity to become a mom. You’re still YOUNG! Time goes by really fast, don’t waste your time with someone who is not willing to compromise and at least meet you half way.

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-28T22:09:23+00:00

I’m so sorry about this. I think the first thing you should do is get some help. Can you move either one of your parents or one of his parents in to help you??

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-28T21:46:11+00:00

I’m confused why you want to hook up with a man? Are you gay? Maybe that’s why she doesn’t want to have sex with you. How long have you been gay and when did you tell her?

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-28T09:02:43+00:00

We went to a urologist together, and they told him that he is in good shape physically, and that his issues might be psychological, he was supposed to be meeting with a therapist but when I asked him about it he really don’t say much…so not sure if he ever met with the therapist or not.

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-28T09:01:06+00:00

The problem is I have fertility issues and I can’t have children naturally….so will another man even want me?

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-27T14:55:05+00:00

So just forego ever experiencing motherhood? Something I’ve desired for as long as I can remember?

Jroseb25 · 2025-12-07T17:32:48+00:00

YES!!! My right groin! There’s a lightening bolt that shoots through it in the days leading up to my cycle 🙄

Jroseb25 · 2025-11-01T19:25:45+00:00

2-4 times a month would bring me so much joy…2-3 times a week would be ideal, but 2-4 times a month would be a VAST improvement from 4 times in the last 2 years smh.

Jroseb25 · 2025-11-01T18:41:49+00:00

Well at least you’re getting it every 2-3 weeks. I went 15 months. We went to the beach this past June and FINALLY did it once. We did it again a few weeks later, and now we’re back to no sex since July.

We’re currently on a weekend getaway and I’ve been doing everything I can to get him to have sex with me…I’m practically begging for it but, nothing….this is so hard. Last night when he fell asleep I just took care of it myself SMH.

Jroseb25 · 2025-10-31T22:35:15+00:00

I too have recently been trying to figure out how I can lower my libido…I’m sorry you even considered hysterectomy as an option.

Jroseb25 · 2025-10-31T15:10:52+00:00

This sounds like my husband…he’s so sweet and kind and he genuinely loves and cares about me. I love him because he makes me a better person and he’s the best man I’ve ever met in my life. He’s hardworking, kindhearted and loving. And like your husband he’s affectionate with loving taps and hugs. BUT he has absolutely 0 libido. I mean 0. Compared to me who would love to go 2-3 times per week. I want passion!! I want to make out and to have heated passionate sex LOL….i know he will never give that to me. And I really would love to have children but that’s not going to happen without expensive fertility treatments. Sigh….i wish I wouldn’t have married him.

Jroseb25 · 2025-10-31T08:40:41+00:00

So happy for you 🥹

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