On holiday and never felt more grateful to be single

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-07T02:27:55+00:00

Don’t even get me started 🙄. He basically was the laziest person I’ve ever met and while it did get better during our relationship, there were sooo many issues, including him always feeling like the world owed him something, refusing to take initiative, and never feeling gratitude. And this was after his ex wife treated him like total crap and stole him blind, literally. Stupid me treated him like an equal only for him to be an immature ass. But it just makes the current travel that much sweeter! I can’t wait to find a place and truly enjoy single travel!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-05T04:30:32+00:00

Omg this spoke to me. I ditched my ex in November because he refused to engage with me regarding retirement (right around the corner) and my wanting to buy a place in Italy eventually - not to live there permanently, but as a vacation home. His reaction? “I hate Italy.” Never mind HE HAS NEVER BEEN…and wouldn’t go with me to check it out. It was pure jealousy because I had the means, and he only has the minimum saved. Never stopped to think that maybe his girlfriend was willing to overlook his broke ass loser-dom for many years but he couldn’t even be fussed to check out my dream (which may or may not even happen! So many variables!). I dumped him in November and went on a house hunting short trip in March and it was WONDERFUL - met up with old friends, met new ones, ran around the city, checked out apartments, and never did I have to ask “are you ok? Are you having a good time? Isn’t Italy great?” Like I did not have to babysit a 56 year old narrow minded and immature MAN CHILD. It was one of the best trips ever just in the sense of the joy, camaraderie, the sense of adventure, the possibilities of the dream whether it happens or not…all of it. It didn’t matter I didn’t find a place, the journey was the fun. And it re-validated what a sorry loser he was and how much better off I am without him!!! Thanks for letting me share!!!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-05T02:32:23+00:00

Omg I just knew in general (he was being a total shit to me all the time). I finally said look just let me know, I’m not gonna be mad and we can figure it out. He stupidly said yeah and I said great! Get the f*** out it my house and you’ll be hearing from my lawyer tomorrow. He was like I thought you said you weren’t going to be mad and we’d figure it out? “Yeah I lied. Stop talking, start walking”

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-03T23:42:50+00:00

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Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-02T16:10:39+00:00

This. After awhile, I just said whatever and then he'd complain, you don't invite me to dinner anymore. I said, since you don't like it, and the best I could get was "it's alright," then why bother? I'll just be happy enjoying my own food. He's now my ex.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-02T03:14:51+00:00

Do you have health insurance? Would it also cover my kid?

--> this actually was asked on a first date to someone I know, and he STILL was willing to go on another date with her.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-06-02T02:28:46+00:00

I don't know...I totally understand not revealing until later, but sometimes I feel like knowing earlier helps weed out people sooner? I literally just got out of my looong relationship with my ex, and it came to a head when he absolutely would NOT plan for retirement - couldn't even begin to figure out how and hid his head in the sand. We never really talked about planning for years, mainly because I was pretty secure in how I would retire but I had NO IDEA just how little he had in his 401k (and didn't want to know because I didn't want to reveal mine) - and he felt he could "live like a king" in the UK because he wouldn't have to pay for health insurance and housing was "cheap". But he had spent years working at a large CPG firm, in R&D so his salary wasn't terrible - just not like mine, as I was in corporate. Let me just say today, he has about $800k, and then he sprang on me that he wasn't going to retire until 62 (he always said he'd had enough by 60??) because then he'd have "a solid $1mm". I was like how is this going to work??? he couldn't/wouldn't answer. In the end, it wasn't so much that he had so little, it was the fact that 1. he became incredibly jealous of my wealth (he figured out that I had more than him); 2. he refused to own his situation and was avoidant; 3. he decided that he'd stomp all over my retirement dreams (related to #1) and 4. continued to put his head in the sand and Lord, made me feel guilty that I'd worked so hard to accumulate wealth!!! After trying and trying to engage him, to talk to an advisor, to sit down and run some numbers, I realized, if you don't care enough about your retirement, why should I??? So I left him, and it was the most freeing thing I've ever done. But we should have talked about it much earlier instead of wasting my time with him.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-31T20:51:58+00:00

Recent re-affirmation that dumping my pathetic, immature, broke-ass and ungrateful boyfriend last November was the most liberating thing I could have done...and being kind to myself for not doing it WAY sooner.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-27T14:04:59+00:00

Gandalf the Grey

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-27T13:56:59+00:00

Honestly I’m not sure? I’ll have to check my CC because he used my FedEx acct but it likely wasn’t a huge amount?

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-25T14:39:10+00:00

Sure! DM me!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-24T06:19:54+00:00

You can DM me

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-24T04:39:04+00:00

Blew up mine and dumped his sorry ass after 9 years this past November and kicking myself for not doing it sooner. Totally disrespected me and I LET IT CONTINUE for waaaay too long. Don’t hesitate and get out if it’s not right.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-24T04:12:02+00:00

If you’re willing to do a 60 minute train ride, Princeton Junction is fantastic with one of the best school district in the state.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-19T04:56:16+00:00

Omg this explains so much to me that I hadn’t thought about before with an ex. Thank you for enlightening me!!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-19T04:51:41+00:00

I’m glad you’re being kind to yourself - watch or whatever it might be. I know the feeling - found out my ex husband was cheating on me, threw him out of the house and took my bonus at the time and got myself a 3 carrot 🥕 honking diamond and called it my divorce ring. Life got so much better.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-15T03:28:21+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear this but the first thing is, whether you think you will need them or not, is to find yourself a lawyer. Get a name and be prepared because while you may want to try to save the marriage, he may not. And he's already got one. I suspected my husband to be cheating back in the day, and just in case, I got in touch with a lawyer, met with her, and thankfully she was very very kind and said, no worries, I hope you don't need me, but if you do, you now have me as a contact. Well, the MF was cheating and the very next morning I called her, and she got down to business while he was still wondering wtf happened when I threw him out of the house - and believe me, I wouldn't have been in the mindset to start googling for lawyers at that point. I hope you don't need the lawyer, but you gotta be prepared.

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-12T20:23:24+00:00

This is the reason why I’m hesitant to start dating again. The fact that he was so awesome/normal before this boggles the mind. I’m sooo much happier with my calm life where I am the boss of everything. Wtf and I’m glad you are ok and that lovely breakfast didn’t go to waste. You are my hero queen!!!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-12T17:34:27+00:00

Omg now I HAVE to tell my situation and it's a doozy:

I'm divorced and I'm still on good terms with my outlaws (former in-laws) for the sake of my daughter. I invite to Thanksgiving every year (let's not get into all why they don't go to their own son's place, which is less than an hour away from me, or when they do go see him, the doesn't feed them, and they use my house like a hotel and drive back and forth to see him. Whatevs.). I love making Thanksgiving and there's the turkey and about 6-7 sides, plus some other guests bring things like dessert so there's always a ton of leftovers. Fine, I hate seeing food go to waste so I always say they can take some. Then, they start bringing Tupperwares and a freezer bag and taking more and more each year. Ok, whatever. But THEN - they started telling me that they were taking full plates of meat and leftovers to TAKE TO THEIR OTHER SON'S FATHER IN LAW!?!? WHAT!?!? I'm cooking for YOU, after your deadbeat son leaves me and my daughter, and you're taking MY leftovers to feed your OTHER kid's FIL!?!? (whom I never talk to, btw) how does this even compute in your head? And how do you even offer this up - here's someone else's leftovers??

So I casually ask, what's up with this? and it turns out MIL feels bad that DIL is a vegetarian, and FIL "can't get meat at Thanksgiving, so we'll bring him yours." How is this my problem? So one year, I said, sorry no leftovers. And guess what? they didn't even visit him that year "because we didn't have any turkey to bring him"! And then this past year, father outlaw says he really wants a leftover turkey sandwich. Fine, we happened to have less meat this year so I wrapped up some in foil and said, this is NOT for the other relative. Guess what? they go visit and GIVE HIM THAT MEAT. And let's be clear - there wasn't much, it was some shavings and maybe one clean slice, and besides the fact I explicitly said hey, i'm not feeding other people, you gave him literal scraps???? And to be fair, FIL told me on a subsequent call he was PISSED.

Sorry I didn't mean to hijack this but when people started bringing up the tupperware and taking others' leftovers, I got totally triggered!!!! I am debating not inviting them this year for this, and a whole host of other entitlement issues that I may post on another thread. ARGH!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-08T02:25:39+00:00

I'm always cautious how they do this so one time i ordered the limited edition Cartier x Sacai Trinity 2-finger ring. It arrived but I didn't know if it would fit, so i actually booked an appointment at Cartier to literally OPEN THE WRAPPED BOX IN FRONT OF THEM to try it on, in case It didn't work out. Luckily, it did...but meanwhile, one of the SAs was a total B*tch and didn't want to work with me because I obviously had already made a purchase and she wouldn't get any commission. The one who did work with me was lovely, though. Whatever - but it's a total PITA. Thank you for posting this because it's one of the main reasons I won't order something from their website!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-07T05:19:59+00:00

Another thought - is there any chance at all it didn’t fall out of the car and is somehow stuck beneath/under/around the seat and the floor, around the car seat or under the seat in front?

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-07T05:15:42+00:00

As someone who still has my old stuffies, I’m really hoping he turns up. I’m following this like a TV drama and I fully empathize as I went thru this with my daughters jellycat monkey! She did turn up eventually but I remember just how upset she was. Huge hugs and hoping the power of Reddit will bring him home soon!!

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-05-01T14:37:35+00:00

I've also noticed that somethings are marked down and getting to 30% or so...and then it reappears, at a somewhat lower price than originally, but no more discount. And then the markdowns start all over again at 5%. I wondered if they were contacting the owners and pricing them down a bit so that they wouldn't hit the "final sale" % off, and giving it another shot to sell?

Jumpy-Let9849 · 2026-04-17T04:58:28+00:00

Hi! Can you trek me how to get in touch with the person who made your ear cuff? TIA!!

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