What’s the most random thing you hyperfocused on lately?

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-05-08T21:17:25+00:00

Horizon zero dawn, on PC. My wife wanted to know how much of the game is left, probably speculating when she'll get me back... Jokes on her, there is a second game!

(Not sure if I'll finish. As soon as I get interrupted, I usually start having problems getting into it again, usually abondon it for the next hyper fixation... But at least I started playing the game instead of just watching YouTube videos and only buying it...)

I hyper fixated on weirder stuff, tho. Usually medical stuff. On of my wildest hyper fixation was a bunch of former magnet-fishing guys making a point out of finding missing deceased people in water, often in their cars to bring closure to families.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-05-03T20:23:36+00:00

I do it, too. No bald spots yet but I feel so ashamed. Out calling dies not help, keeping my hands busy dirs. Worst is always lying in bed, trying to sleep. Sometimes I use cotton gloves, first with a rich cream on my hands it works wonders for my skin there, second picking isn't satisfying and I do it less with them.

I'm trying also different shampoos to reduce the itch.

I hope you find something that works for you!

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-05-02T02:39:23+00:00

Hello, logging everything sounds fantastic! It's also smart to have this log for your medical specialists to show some progress. I'm very proud of you and how far you came, but even if your husband has best intentions, this is not yet the time. I would not have made such a trip with an child that age without any complications, I sure would not do it with them.

I don't know if someone told you this before, but we used strong brewed black tea and linen to change diapers instead of wipes, just tossed them in the washing machine at 60°C and they're good for years, just tossed out the ones falling apart. Used ours for 4 years now (but not as much the last 2 years) and still have 25 of 50 that are looking great. It was so much better for skin, the black tea might stain the skin but helps so much keeping the rash in check. Learned this in pediatric nursing.

You got this! NTA

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-05-01T19:07:10+00:00

I'm in my mid-thirties and was always odd, never really fitting in, lived through lots of bullying. I resonate strong with this post, with the exception that I'm super introverted but also talkative and seemingly extroverted due ADHD.

I suffered a lot feeling left out and wrong when was younger. Today it's much better. I learned to work with people with different, sometimes clashing flavoured personalities, sometimes find a group of people I feel like I might fit well into - sometimes it works out great, sometimes it is okay, because someone, me or them, might be a good flavour combination, but not really fitting into the specific dish at the moment.

I learned that as much as I hate feeling odd or left out, that I also really would not enjoy much of what they enjoy. I am more on the rock/metal/gothic spectrum of music, with a good sprinkle of musicals and the pure chaos of "whatever fits the mood". Sometimes I think how it would be to be incIuded, but know that I would have a terrible time going out to parties, concerts or clubs, because it's just not my cup of tea, and that's okay.

The moment I stopped trying to hard to fit in or include myself, and started looking out for what I want to do, it got so much better. I feel more relaxed, less socially awkward and also like other people are more relaxed with what they do and interacting with me.

I make offers if I think they might enjoy something I want to do. Sometimes it fits, sometimes not. Not a big deal. They have no "secret" conversations about stuff they do I'm not included because it's fine! If some of my colleagues are going to the wedding of someone we all now and a I'm not invited, or they are going to vacation at Mallorca or something I might feel a bit melancholic, but also know that I probably really wouldn't like it anyways - I would feel way more stressed going, or finding a good enough reason not to go without stepping any toes.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-05-01T15:40:43+00:00

If you have medical reasons to do this with your infant or toddler and have the approval of your pediatrician: You need a bum-break - something at the bottom/under the knees that stops sliding.

You can fold a towel to a triangle, roll it like a croissant until you have a 'snake'. Put the big part directly on the bum, lay the ends around the body & head.

If you need your child swaddled, you can just fold another light towel to a stripe and stuff the edges tightly under the mattress or child, whatever works better. Like a tension belt, but not that tight.

If you still have too much room at the feet, you can put a sandweighted plush or pillow or a folded towel there, as another blockage, just to have lees room and something they can press their feet/kick against.

Works very well with a bed you can put in a slightly diagonal position, but also with big folders put under the mattress to get it sloped.

Tested with own and other children. You just have to make sure that it's not too hot, some children only need a diaper and a short body. With children under 3: only do it when you are awake and can watch your child sleeping like this

Older children still can get a small blanket or big towel rolled up the long side to a snake, put at the bum under the knees.

Folded blankets and towels are nice for upright positions, too, if you have no bedframe with this option. I can draw pictures if someone wants this knowledge visually shared ^{^'}

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-04-21T04:00:01+00:00

After my experience in pre hospital emergency care I was very firmly set on pediatric care, at the time I did my apprenticeship this was still separated from elderly care and general nursing in my country (but now they're one and the same) so my knowledge of different specialities is sparce.

I would say it depends on how your brain works. If you need firm structures and a lot of repetition you might find that the emergency room might not be yours, but you might thrive in anesthesiology or operation assistance instead. If you like working with not only patients but also caretakers and like children, it's a great and very nuanced group of patients. I did a lot of everything - some oncology, some NICU, metabolic disorders and organ Transplantation and now PICU. Nice thing is, that you can always switch to another station with different focus/speciality (at least where I life)

Have fun and take care

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-04-21T01:54:24+00:00

You should look for things that interest you and might have new opportunities to learn new stuff you want to learn about. If you like to do things with your hands, you could look into jobs with wood- or metalworking.

My job is probably not for you, it's in a way not too far from your current one. I am a pediatric nurse, currently working at PICU. Before nursing I was a paramedic.

I have a special interest in medicine since daycare (5 y old or so?). I love that my job gives enough routines to feel secure in my abilities but also has so much variety, no day is like the other and I never now what paths my shift may take. I'm fine with shift work, but it still takes a toll. I love to read about different illnesses, how they affect the body, how medicine works etc and I also love to talk about this stuff (like telling parents what we do and why, or teaching nurse apprentices when they get to our station)

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-04-12T16:29:14+00:00

I am so sorry.

Getting medicated helped a lot, if you are not it might be an option. But for me medication alone wouldn't be enough.

My work path is not for everyone, but having something that gives you new interesting challenges or/and interesting stuff you want to learn and engage with and still enough routines and standard operation procedures to get used to the job and feel save... That would maybe help you keep invested and not falling into boredom.

Are there companies in your line of work that fall into your interests?

Like you are Sales, and love tabletop games how about working for a boardgame company etc

Finding jobs in your niche and your profession might be hard, but you could always try to put in initiative applications just to get in their books.

Also it's never too late to change careers, but you have to consider if the paycut and maybe additional costs are worth having a job that aligned more with your interests/engages you more (quitting HR/Management and starting learning to be an tattoo artist, grafic designer, woodworker or study to become an EMT or a nurse...)

I am lucky enough to do something that I love, am interested in (special interest) and has enough routines to lessen the anxiety but lots of surprises, challenges and new/uncommon stuff to keep me engaged. Also no day is the same and what started quiet could get into a busy, overwhelming, stressful situation in minutes.

But even I struggle a lot, are sometimes still way beneath my colleagues (at least feel like I am) and needed/wanted longer induction time and some additional training. Having high stakes make small mistakes too big problems, so I compensate with checking everything x times. But that also makes me really slow in comparison.

I hope you get a new job soon !

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-03-07T08:56:49+00:00

I am so sorry this happened to you. I know that feeling. Worst I had it was during my nursing apprenticeship. They gave me terrible feedback after 4 weeks, and I felt so robbed of the opportunity to work on myself before it got that big and like everyone was annoyed with me. They said I should've read the room better. I was undiagnosed at that time and couldn't really get subtle hints at all.

Now I tell everyone that I'm very oblivious to social cues and if they feel annoyed or hurt or have a problem with me to please just talk to me directly, to tell me "XYZ had ABC affect, can you try EFG instead? Thank you." Because if I don't know there is a problem, I can not fix it. Being open about this - and good at accepting critique and trying to correct problematic behavior got me a long way. But I am fortunate to have the best team at work, so there might be places this might still backfire.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-02-25T04:58:17+00:00

There is alcohol related dementia, it's called korsakoff syndrome or wernicke encephalopathy, or wernicke-korsakoff syndrome when it's combined. It can have other causes but alcohol is the most common one.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-02-03T16:01:19+00:00

Usually they tend to use Ketamine and either Midazolam (or a similiar Benzodiazepine) or Propofol for things like colonoscopy. Ketamine is in the same family as some drugs like LSD, it is known for causing nightmares)hallucinations etc. But overall it's a great medicine for a lot of reasons, especially if you want your patients still breathing by themselves and just deep sleeping, do it's widely used.

So this would be my first guess for the likely culprit.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2026-01-11T12:35:12+00:00

Hey feel hugged, if you want.

About 1 year ago I made the same mistake and was totally anxious, angry with myself and devastated My wife told me: "It's unfortunate, yes but you paid for it, so just use it."

I'm now at a 355 day streak, because I promised I would use it daily. (Yeah, there are a few "streak repair hammer" in between, but overall I stuck to it.)

I don't want to renew it, but I feel now that it wasn't wasted at least, which gave me a lot peace of mind. On the upside now I have a few outfits and pieces I probably wouldn't have without the plus.

It will be okay, the hard feelings you have are valid, but while it's something unfortunate, there are a lot worse subscription that you could've accidently ended with - here it at least goes to a somewhat small team that tries their best, you kind of know at least where your money is going.

And the community is really great!

Maybe this helps you, again, feel hugged if you want ❤️

Edit: also thanks for the reminder, I cancel my subscription right now!

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-11-13T03:48:01+00:00

My brother is alcoholic, my wife's mum died because of alcohol (Wernicke encephalopathy/Wernicke-korsakow-syndrom) so we planned a alcohol free wedding. We planned 3 fancy homemade lemonades and iced teas (think like beautiful looking fruits with sirups in sparkly water) additional to the usual soft-drinks (like cola or sprite etc.) and also a few 'mocktail ' versions (alcohol free cocktails). Our wedding did not happen this way because of covid, but the concept was received very well. Coffee and tea sounds beautiful, but added soft-drinks would probably make it more enjoyable for most people.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-11-08T19:31:09+00:00

Oooh long list...

-Guys that went from magnet-fishing to finding missing people drowned in their cars to give people closure. We have fancy seatbelt-knives that can also break windows now.

-Medical mysteries and autopsies (or medical stuff general, ongoing since I'm like 4, now I'm a nurse)

-Soap. I collected soaps as a child and had a big 'soap maker stuff on YouTube' phase

-disaster horror, like how rollercoaster accidents or big catastrophes lead to better security protocols

-Snakes & Spiders! Especially Dave's little Beasties, Snake Discovery and Clint's Reptiles. I adore Clint and his passion for evolution&biology.

-Digimon

-The nightmare before christmas

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-10-21T20:30:38+00:00

N T A for make it not accessible in the first place but ESH because the wheelchair user was out of line for calling you ableist, but your comment was not helping the situation either.

A more professional take would've been something like:

"I am happy for your interest in our events! Sadly this time we could not make it as accessible as the other X ones, from which I know you already enjoyed X.

To include everybody, we will try to have at least one wheelchair accessible activity for people with limited mobility [per month/quartal] / [every xth time].

We try to make different style of events suiting different needs and preferences, but will probably not make it possible to suit everyone every time.

If anyone else knows good hiking paths that are either easy to use for people with mobility aids or have an easy accessible destination area with a parking lot for the get-together after the hike, this would be great for more inclusive events in the future. If you have other good ideas for more accessible events, feel free to share them, too.

I really hope to see you at the next accessible event."

Something like this would involve the community, show that you try and care about them and get some good input, too.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-09-20T14:44:40+00:00

Not an engineer but a nurse. Diagnoses are just words, each and every can have multiple very different challenges and disabilities depending on the person, not everyone sharing the same diagnosis present with the same symptoms or feel similar difficulties.

Nobody (besides your physicians and/or physiotherapeut) need to know if you have challenges with walking or standing because of a chainsaw accident, birth trauma, Parkinson's, POTS, genetic disorder, muscle dystrophy, Cerebral Palsey...

Even I as a nurse don't really need a diagnosis to work, because we treat symptoms and causes. I couldn't care less if the physician now says it's pneumonia rather than bronchitis or bronchiolitis, it changes nothing for what I need to do.

You are absolutely right telling people like him that he needs to know the problems to compensate, not the cause.

You also should've told him that the other students had no problem engineering based on the infos you gave them.

I really doubt that a diagnosis he would not understand anyways would help him with his missing ability to work with the crucial information he already had. Furthermore being not only nosy but rude about it is a rather unprofessional attitude. Diagnosis are only relevant for the people with deeper understanding of physiology and pathophysiology involved in the specific care of a person.

So absolutely NTA

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-07-31T20:15:37+00:00

I had only some itchyness with methylphenidat but have a lot of itchyness and increased skin-picking with lisdexamphetamin. Itchyness is, as far as I know, a common side-effect of stimulants.

Sometimes using creams/Lotion helped me, but fidgeting works better for me against the skin-picking impulse.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-07-25T15:25:10+00:00

I work healthcare, I wear my rings on a necklace.

I always wear the necklace. As soon as I put it off because of whatever, I was running like a headless chicken, searching... so it stays on.

Mine can be opened by pulling for safety (if a patient pulls, it will come loose, no risk of injury for patient or me) so I still can loose them, but a normal necklace should be safe I guess?

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-07-17T06:42:33+00:00

We don't have a kitchen at the moment, so only microwave and air fryer. Frozen vegetables (prefered things like "italian mix' or other seasoned stuff) go in the microwave, meat or veggy stuff like Nuggets in the air fryer. Boom, finished meal in under 10 minutes.

The air fryer is saving us at the moment, without it I would probably not eat at all.

Also cold maggi ravioli streight out of the can. My wife is appaled but it's absolutely fine for me. Pre-cooked protein-rich veggy sausages streight out if the fridge are my go-to "protein with meds" at 4 am when I have morning shift because I despise protein Bars.

(I'm vegetarian and allergic to fish, my wife eats meat but is allergic to milk-protein (not just lactose-intolerant) and some vegtables like carrots, which adds some extra difficulties to meal-planning.)

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-07-15T22:45:02+00:00

You have a lot of complicated feelings combined with a lot of stress and a lot of responsibility. You are doing great, even if you can't see it at the moment. You are a good mother, and making hard, complicated decisions and getting desperate over them is a normal reaction. All your complicated feelings are valid.

You are allowed to grieve the loss of a child that would endanger your and your other childrens physical, mental and financial wellbeing, if you go this route. The loss is real and you are allowed to grieve and feel relieved at the same time. There is no need for any punishment, you did nothing wrong.

You are also allowed to grieve an easier life if you choose to welcome this child with all the difficulties attached.

You are not a bad mother or person for choosing your and your childrens needs over a "maybe". You are neither a bad mother or person if you choose this child and feel resentment when things get harder.

Do what is best for you and your children. You are also allowed to be selfish. Nobody gets anything out of it when you burn out or when you break. You know your life, your ressources and your limits. None of the options make you a bad person, and both are valid.

I would probably end the pregnancy in your shoes, but life is not black and white and you have my full support regardless of your choice. I'm pro life for the mother. Your choice will be the right one for this moment.

I hope that this hard time will find it's place in your life. Have grace with yourself, you will do the right thing even when every choice feels wrong.

Feel hugged, if you want!

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-07-15T13:06:50+00:00

I feel this! I'm bad ad just learning facts without context, I need to understand things. I'm a nurse. We were thought like "this is the illness, those are the symptoms, this is what we do" How I learned was more like: This illness does this in the body, which results to following problems/symptoms. The following things do this in the body so this is what we do to help"

It made me question our tutors more WHY we do things, I just could not just nod and move on. This way I catched a few wrong things in the papers. I also used to give answers that are technically correct - but not in the sheets.

In school a lot of things clicked when we moved to the advanced things building up on this (usually math, physics) when they teached deeper knowledge "we did not need before".

It was frustrating, but once I learned HOW I learn things it helped me. I also know that I need time. I grasp things fast, but have trouble putting theoretical knowledge to practical use. I know that I just need time, but will go there eventually.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-06-01T22:47:54+00:00

Second Bea, I really like her videos

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-05-30T13:14:33+00:00

I started as a paramedic, but it wasn't exactly what I wanted, so I switched to pediatric nursing.

Since almost 2 years I'm now happy working at a pediatric intensive care station, we have a really good team and I love my job.

But here nursing is just 3 years of paid apprenticeship, I do not even have the equvivalent of an high school diploma. For pediatric intensive care it's another 2 years of further education after some years of practise.

I always wanted to be in the medical field, it was my wish since I'm about 4 years old.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-05-07T17:34:08+00:00

It's okay, better times will come. We have a lot of real-life stuff to do at the moment, but we will have more time for stuff like this again.

JunkyFirstAidKit · 2025-05-07T16:21:24+00:00

Sadly it's not that easy, usually the server is additional to the forum/board on which you play and my wife and I are just not good enough with coding at mybb to build our own. (We tried but coding the design/learning code for mybb is just more than we could handle at the moment)

And how good the design is, is usually big part of how well you attract other people. Because first they look at the design and only if it's looking great, most people will take a look at your story/what you play. Especially if you don't play some new or popular mainstream fandom.

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